Ariadne Posted November 21, 2011 Share Posted November 21, 2011 He told me he can't go on being friends, that he's been thinking about me a lot lately, and he's not sure what I want. Hi D-Lish, Sounds like he wants to get back together (like I told you). When guys have a good relationship with a cool girl, and then things go bad because of some crises or circumstance they start longing. See if you want to get back together. I'd say it'd be a good idea since you've been feeling lonely lately and going out with mismatches. Link to post Share on other sites
hoping2heal Posted November 22, 2011 Share Posted November 22, 2011 It's funny, I haven't thought about my date from last night. The e-mail threw me off. I knew about 3 months in that we were wrong for one another, but I really liked parts of him despite that. I am still sexually attracted to him, but he is conservative and lacking passion in the bedroom, while I am the opposite. I know he will never budge when it comes to that- I know I could never accept a life of boring sex. I'm emotionally open, he's closed. I thought about it today - and really what makes us most compatible is our sense of humour. We make each other laugh a lot- but I think that's all we have going for us. As soon as something serious came about, we couldn't interact anymore Logic is my friend right now, if I was 21, I'd be back in his arms and back on this board in 3 months lamenting about how things went awry and I didn't see it coming. I am following my brain on this one despite the fact that it hurts a bit to do so. That is really smart of you to do and I think the hurt you're experiencing now would be nothing compared to it crashing and burning a second time, which I agree - you would just be back here in a few months feeling even more lousy because at the end of the day you're open and he's closed and long-term relationships with people who are closed off emotionally either come to an end or a stalemate. Neither of which is satisfying, kudos to you for being intelligent and setting a good example. Link to post Share on other sites
threebyfate Posted November 22, 2011 Share Posted November 22, 2011 We could never have a happy relationship together, both of us acknowledged this when we had that drawn out talk.Beyond all that you and others have said, notice how he's back to pattern? You're unavailable so it's safe for him to want you again. Link to post Share on other sites
betterdeal Posted November 22, 2011 Share Posted November 22, 2011 Unrequited love is so reliable - you never get let down Link to post Share on other sites
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