i dont know what to do about this girl i like

[stevedude]

hey ne1 out there i need help

im a 15 year old guy in high school and theres this girl i really really like

she is in my 1st period italian class but thats the only class that we have together

her name is kristyn and we are friends but i wanna be mor than friends

i know i could just ask hr out but thres one problem

she is in "love" with my best friend gary and gary is in "love" with her

WHAT SHOULD I DO???

[DerangedAngel]

she is in "love" with my best friend gary and gary is in "love" with her

WHAT SHOULD I DO???

 

Well, to be a good friend to both of them, you would step back and let them be happy together. That sucks, eh?

 

-Deranged

[a_passionate_leo]

Tell her you have feelings for her, and that if things don't work out with your friend, you'll be on the sidelines. Then tell your friend that you have feelings for his girl, but since you respect his relationship with her you are "stepping back"; you just wanted him to know so that there are no secrets between you.

 

If you don't get your feelings out in the open, they will fester inside of you and the fear of upsetting things with your friend will become an exagerated, larger-than-life fear that will cause an insane amount of personal suffering.

 

So, after you get your feelings off your chest, do yourself a favor: Don't fantasize and don't obsess about this girl anymore! Get your mind off this girl and start examining the plethora of other girls who might be of interest in you. If you waste a lot of time chasing the unattainable, you'll miss out on opportunities to have some pretty special moments with girls who are available. And keep your eyes open for girls who have crushes on you; one of them might end up being a perfect match.

 

It's going to take you a few years to realize this, but at your age, there is ALWAYS someone else right around the corner.

 

Best of luck!