How can you spot a man hater?

[Woggle]

I made another thread about spotting a gender hater but I wanted to make this one more specific. How can you spot a woman that hates men? What are some signs so you can prevent being shocked later on down the road?

 

Also people can feel free to make a thread about spotting a misogynist if they want.

[Mrlonelyone]

Listen to what they say and look at what they do. But always give more weight to what they do.

 

One big way, already mentioned on the board, is that they were never the bad guy in any relationship. It was always the mans fault. They tell you their father or some other important man in their life treated them like crap. They have a long trail of divorces and exes in rapid succession, all of whom they will tell you were horrible people.

 

Such women may be sexually attracted to men but they don't really like them as people.

[Els]

I think the methods of spotting both misandrists and misogynists are pretty similar, IMO.

 

A very common theme amongst them is that they view the opposite sex as a rival or enemy rather than someone to work with and have a happy relationship with. This is demonstrated in many ways, such as being incredibly petty and calculative about the tiniest perceived sexual-related 'inequality' or difference, and having a strong, consuming desire to 'right' such 'injustices' at the expense of all else.

 

Other common themes include being unable to take a joke about their own gender and generalizing all members of the opposite gender as if it were a matter of fact.

[Feelsgoodman]

A typical man-hater possess some or all of the following characteristics:

 

- physically unattractive (and thus gets short-changed on male attention);

- bad relationship (or no relationship) with her father;

- feminist or adherent of other extreme left-wing ideologies;

- has words like "patriarchy" and "glass ceiling" in her vocabulary;

- prefers to date interracially.

Edited November 22, 2011 by Feelsgoodman

[cherrylips]

They never leave the house without their combat boots and Men Are Pricks tee on

[D-Lish]

How can you spot a woman that hates men? What are some signs.

 

They are usually holding hands with another woman.

[samsungxoxo]

I made another thread about spotting a gender hater but I wanted to make this one more specific. How can you spot a woman that hates men? What are some signs so you can prevent being shocked later on down the road?

 

Also people can feel free to make a thread about spotting a misogynist if they want.

If you had experience with a misandrist, then you'll know.

I think my ex bf held some traits of a misogynist (woman hater) because on one of our arguments he kept saying ''You women'' while I never put men as a whole. I believe in the word some, not in generality.

[D-Lish]

Good point. I actually could only think of one straight manhater I've ever met.

 

Was she standing in a closet at the time?

[Woggle]

Many lesbians are not manhaters. A woman I used to work with is gay and we are very close friends. It is like hanging out with one of the guys.

[Ilovewater]

Like how you would spot a woman-hater. Both of them exhibit the same signs. They generalize and make assumptions about the opposite gender and insist them on being true, even though they have a sample size of only 5 people.

[D-Lish]

Probably most BORN lesbians aren't manhaters but there are definitely a subset of lesbians who become gay because they dislike men or they're too unattractive to attract men (which can also lead to them hating men). Their attitudes spread somewhat throughout the lesbian community.

 

Notice how lesbians often don't have many male friends. They are very insulated and somewhat clannish as a community. I lived in a city that had a huge lesbian community for awhile so I know of which I speak.

 

I agree- most lesbians I know are very insulated as a community. I have neighbours I recently met- a lesbian couple, one of them is planning on following through with a sex-change operation. They are youngish- and only socialize with other females. They were the only people in my new townhouse complex to say hello and welcome me. I walked past their patio on the weekend and they were having a party. There were no dudes there- not one, lol.

 

I was really only being sarcastic with my initial post. I don't think all lesbians hate men, they just prefer the company of women. Gay men are much different, they love female companions.

 

Woggle started this post about Man Haters- which he has encountered in his past through his mother and an ex. He hates women as a result of his encounters with these women.

 

It's a woman hater starting a thread about women that hate men.

[dasein]

Watch how their mother interacts with the men in her life. If the mother hates men, it's likely the daughter does too.

 

It leaks out in their talk. If they use phrases like "old boy network," "it's a man's world," "working for the man," "patriarchy," odds are they don't like men generally.

 

I've rarely dated out and out man haters other than the one with the mother listed above, most are just "man blamers," or "man disdainers." Most feminists go here. "Hate" is an abusively overused word today and does nothing but generate resentment when overused.

[D-Lish]

Watch how their mother interacts with the men in her life. If the mother hates men, it's likely the daughter does too.

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In W's case, he was the SON of a mother that hated men, he's a victim too.

[whichwayisup]

Many lesbians are not manhaters. A woman I used to work with is gay and we are very close friends. It is like hanging out with one of the guys.

 

This is true.

 

It's the lesbian feminists or feminists that are elle extreme-o that are angry man haters. And those same people are just angry in general, miserable and unhappy, chances are they don't like people, or very few.

[betterdeal]

Woggle woggle woggle, please stop obsessing and posting provocative threads. Or, at least post a few "I love women" threads and stop being so one-dimensional about life. It's not a battle of the sexes if you don't want it to be. If people are nasty, they're nasty. If you ate something that tasted nasty to you, you'd stop eating it. So stop eating the hate and the fear and move on to something altogether more delicious and nutritious, such as love and affection and kindness and humour.

[betterdeal]

In W's case, he was the SON of a mother that hated men, he's a victim too.

 

Or a survivor, if he wants to be

[joystickd]

A typical man-hater possess some or all of the following characteristics:

 

- physically unattractive (and thus gets short-changed on male attention);

- bad relationship (or no relationship) with her father;

- feminist or adherent of other extreme left-wing ideologies;

- has words like "patriarchy" and "glass ceiling" in her vocabulary;

- prefers to date interracially.

 

Interracial thing I disagree with. If she hates men its equal opportunity type hate. I have dated women outside my race and it was like a breath of fresh air to meet a woman that appreciated and respected a man and also to hear you are sexy.

[Woggle]

I don't see the interracial thing as a sign.

 

I think another sign are women who always seem to take the woman's side no matter what. All objectivity goes out the window when it comes to them.

 

I also agree with those who say women who use the word patriarchy as a regular part of their vocabulary should be avoided.

 

I admit my mom plays a role in how I feel but it is reinforced by the subtle misandry I see in so many women. With men it is much more blatant. Men who hate women tend not to be good at hiding their hostility but with women it this anti-male attitude that simmers underneath the surface that men need to watch out for.

[Woggle]

Another sign is a complete lack of empathy for men. You see that all the time on this forum. Look at how many men get called whiny and bitter simply for expressing how they feel on here.

[grkBoy]

Frankly, you won't just "spot" a gender hater on the street.

 

It's only when you talk to them and see their attitude.

[RiverRunning]

Thinking in all-or-nothing terms. "All men are x," or "No man is Y."

 

Making passive-aggressive jokes about the opposite sex. Pointing out everything they see a man do wrong. Making excuses for things they see women doing wrong. In everything, it is always the man's fault, etc.

[Woggle]

My friend from work says she can't stand women who get fed up with dating men then decide to become lesbian. 9 times out of 10 they run into the same problems but still refuse to see that they are the common denominator.

[2sure]

My friend from work says she can't stand women who get fed up with dating men then decide to become lesbian. 9 times out of 10 they run into the same problems but still refuse to see that they are the common denominator.

 

Yes. I see more of that myself recently. Im over 40 and some of the women Ive known - who have multiple divorces or failed relationships with men are trying out women. Just to see I guess. Or for something different. But yeah, I expect their problems with relationships to continue.

 

Im in the same boat as far as failed relationships , not convinced its me either. But I dont trust a F/F relationship any more than I do one with a guy. I have been wondering lately if I am indeed a man hater myself.

 

Im not sure. I dont have specific animosity. I still enjoy the company of men. But if Im honest...I am definitely having a respect problem in general. Im not a ball buster, but...indifferent.

[Woggle]

My friend once got involved with a woman that was fed up with men and eventually she dumped her for her ex that treated her like crap after she realized she was straight after all.

 

Should this get her honorary nice guy status?

[dasein]

I find talk of previously straight women "trying out" sex with women a funny concept. Can't imagine any straight man "trying out" sex with men. The genders are truly different.