jello2610 Posted November 22, 2011 Share Posted November 22, 2011 I'm a 21 yr old female with no guys friends who works out with the same group of guys in a small group fitness class. Recently I've set my sights on one guy to friend because I noticed he was always staring at me and I found out we had a mutual friend (she says he is shy). every time i talk to him in person he was receptive but he won't initiate conversation or say hi. I facebook chatted him twice and he was very chatty, the conversation was friendly and mostly about class. He seemed to act weird around me after we chatted on fb, won't talk to me in person unless I initiate, and now averts eye contact but I can tell he is keeping an eye on me as I talk with other people in the class .Also he has mysteriously deactivated his facebook. Now I feel weird trying to talk to him in class. I really don't think i've given him any mixed signals, I've really only been friendly and my only goal was to find out more about him! My first impression of him was that he was an a-hole because he is the most athletic in the class and good looking but yet doesn't talk to anybody. I could be friends with any of the other boys in the class and even talked to one last class just to get his attention. I can't get him off my mind because now we're on Thanksgiving break and I won't be seeing him or talking to him for a week. I keep telling myself this is no crush because I don't even know him! Ugh what's wrong with me!?!! Thoughts/advice/wisdom/anything? Link to post Share on other sites
SincereOnlineGuy Posted November 22, 2011 Share Posted November 22, 2011 I'm a 21 yr old female ... Feeling like a hot mess Thoughts/advice/wisdom/anything? On the bright side, guys tend to like a "hot mess"... so just sit idly by and await your time to shine socially. While you're waiting, find reasons to meet a lot more people, as it is most likely from their ranks that really great (and clear) guys will be drawn to you. Link to post Share on other sites
MistaDynamic Posted November 28, 2011 Share Posted November 28, 2011 he was receptive but he won't initiate conversation or say hi. won't talk to me in person unless I initiate My first impression of him was that he was an a-hole because he is the most athletic in the class and good looking but yet doesn't talk to anybody. That guy haves Asperger's! As a fellow aspie myself I can tell. He seems to have a mild form but he definitely has it. Link to post Share on other sites
zaphodb2002 Posted December 2, 2011 Share Posted December 2, 2011 That guy haves Asperger's! As a fellow aspie myself I can tell. He seems to have a mild form but he definitely has it. He could just be shy. Not every social difficulty has to be on the Autism Spectrum. Not to detract from the legitimacy of the condition, my brother is mildly Autistic, and I'm an activist for Disabled rights, but I think it gets overly diagnosed. Some guys have a hard time opening up, and if you do want to get to know him, be patient and direct. Ask him out sometime, maybe with a group of friends or something. Legitimately try to share in his interests. Also, don't get too invested if things don't work out, you're young and the world is a big place. Link to post Share on other sites
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