Author punkinless Posted January 19, 2012 Author Share Posted January 19, 2012 your right. but i can't switch off loving someone just because it isn't the right time... Link to post Share on other sites
chados Posted January 20, 2012 Share Posted January 20, 2012 your right. but i can't switch off loving someone just because it isn't the right time... no but youre not letting yourself do it. right now your stuck. it isnt up to you to get her back. if she wants you she will find a way to reach out. just live your life and accept that its over. your torturing yourself. i think youve heard this already but im gonna say it again. right now you dont know if you love her, at least not how strong that love is. the feeling of being alone is what hurts the most. its feels like she betrayed you. you see her way to often, i mean who wouldnt feel unhappy to see their ex with someone else all the time, while theyre still struggling to get over it themself. Link to post Share on other sites
Author punkinless Posted January 23, 2012 Author Share Posted January 23, 2012 well i'm back at college. lets see how this goes. still haven't seen punkin around which is a good thing. saw a-hole yesturday at bobs tho. i really think that little shyt is scared of me. he wouldn't even come into the same room as me. he just stayed in the kitchen. but i had to go to my truck and he was standin in front of the door with a couple other school kids and i was like 's'cuse me ladies' and he just about physically jumped outta the way. like idk if he thinks i'm 110% pissed at him and i'm gunna break his nose or sumthin but he acts like a f*cking fairy around me. idk. just a little sumthin that made me laugh for once. Link to post Share on other sites
Dark Phoenix Posted January 23, 2012 Share Posted January 23, 2012 Why are you pissed at him? Link to post Share on other sites
Author punkinless Posted January 24, 2012 Author Share Posted January 24, 2012 Why are you pissed at him? well i'm not NOT pissed at him... for obvious reasons. Link to post Share on other sites
Dark Phoenix Posted January 24, 2012 Share Posted January 24, 2012 well i'm not NOT pissed at him... for obvious reasons. youre jealous of him... Here are the hardcore facts, you were a rebound... you have several choices in how to deal with this. #1 keep chasing this girl for the next 5-10 years and you can become as bitter and jaded as another famous poster on this forum with over 7k posts. #2 you can admit that you loved this girl with your heart, let it go and find someone that will better cherish the love that you have to offer them. I know a guy like you that has chased a girl for the past 8 years of his life. She's never going to be in a relationship with him. He's never going to move on either from this either. He's going to sit back, watch her have sex with other guys, and then go back to her ex when shes ready to settle and probably marry that guy. Put yourself in this guy's shoes, imagine chasing for the next 8 years of your life and this happens to the girl you loved, how dead would you feel inside wasting all that time? Would you be willing to wait year after year for their divorce? Youre young, learn now, be happy that you experienced love and heartbreak, cherish your excellent times with her, and focus on your life, not theirs Link to post Share on other sites
Author punkinless Posted January 24, 2012 Author Share Posted January 24, 2012 i'm workin on itttt. its gettin kinda rediculous i know. 5-10 years? i wouldn't worry about that happenin to me. haha. i'd still blacken his eye givin the chance Link to post Share on other sites
chados Posted January 24, 2012 Share Posted January 24, 2012 maybe rebound maybe not. i mean they where what? 16-17 "correct me if im wrong" when they got together. at this age i wouldnt say that he has to be a rebound. its more about see whats out there. young people are never happy with what they got in the long run. im not gonna say that this is everyone, but most of them. as far as i can see it theres 3 different type of girls when it comes to attention. now im talking about younger girls, that goes from a girl to a woman. you have the girls that gets attention from everyone, the popular ones. they will date around a lot, from rebound to rebound, because they always gets who they want, they will never be happy with what theyve got. you have the ones that never gets attention, they will settle down with the first guy that shows up. and if they get attention from someone else while in a relationship, they will try their wings. just because they arent used to get any response from guys. and you have the ones in the middle of the two types above. if this would be a 30-50 year old woman i would totally agree 100% that he was a rebound though. Link to post Share on other sites
Dark Phoenix Posted January 24, 2012 Share Posted January 24, 2012 love is love at any age. Link to post Share on other sites
ZimboGon Posted January 24, 2012 Share Posted January 24, 2012 Its been two weeks and nothing has changed for you mentally... I can't say anything else except you need to move on. She isn't coming back, you were a rebound. The fact that you get enjoyment out of the thought of her boyfriend afraid of you and you think about hurting him is absolutely neurotic. If you keep pining over this girl you won't get anywhere and don't say you aren't, don't say you aren't pathetic because i can read everything you put here. Think about it this way, if she even does come back... you haven't changed. Your relationship won't get anywhere and will be destined to fail. I've tried to be nice to you and say i've been in your shoes, because i have. Chados, you are just encouraging his actions to be clingly obsessive and not let go. I haven't seen anything warrant the possibility of you letting go and forgetting about her, either. You say that so you won't seem desperate, but you never sound genuine. Quite honestly, i wouldn't be surprised if you guys get back together, she leaves you again and you end up murdering her or something because of fear she'd be with someone else. You don't sound healthy. You sound dangerous. You sound like the guy my girlfriend was with, and i'm very cautious when he tries to speak to her because he is incredibly unstable. Link to post Share on other sites
chados Posted January 24, 2012 Share Posted January 24, 2012 love is love at any age. well yes and no. some people really are in love, especially if theyve dated for a really long time. but i can guarantee that a lot of the relationships in younger age is more about being together then anything else, it also has a lot to do with looks and not personality. the reason you get dumped is almost always because they have someone else on the radar. Link to post Share on other sites
chados Posted January 24, 2012 Share Posted January 24, 2012 Its been two weeks and nothing has changed for you mentally... I can't say anything else except you need to move on. She isn't coming back, you were a rebound. The fact that you get enjoyment out of the thought of her boyfriend afraid of you and you think about hurting him is absolutely neurotic. If you keep pining over this girl you won't get anywhere and don't say you aren't, don't say you aren't pathetic because i can read everything you put here. Think about it this way, if she even does come back... you haven't changed. Your relationship won't get anywhere and will be destined to fail. I've tried to be nice to you and say i've been in your shoes, because i have. Chados, you are just encouraging his actions to be clingly obsessive and not let go. I haven't seen anything warrant the possibility of you letting go and forgetting about her, either. You say that so you won't seem desperate, but you never sound genuine. Quite honestly, i wouldn't be surprised if you guys get back together, she leaves you again and you end up murdering her or something because of fear she'd be with someone else. You don't sound healthy. You sound dangerous. You sound like the guy my girlfriend was with, and i'm very cautious when he tries to speak to her because he is incredibly unstable. this is exactly what ive been saying 100 times. like i said before, if he wants to write something here let him do it. i just dont get why YOU are telling him that he's pathetic. he hasn't really done anything. but you. not only did you chase her after she had been with two different guys. you made 100 pages on this site to get answers and still you wouldnt listen, and just because you got her back, youre telling everyone their wrong. yes he is acting pathetic. i have done that to. but remember that this was YOU a few weeks ago. i know you will say, i made the right choice by getting back together, i have changed etc. this is what everyone says. you cant just make the past go away. when someone loose attraction for you, its really hard to get it back. and if they do. its even harder to keep it. anyway, the best thing is to not settle down when youre to young, and most often. dont go back with your ex. Link to post Share on other sites
IfiKnewThen Posted January 25, 2012 Share Posted January 25, 2012 i truly think some here are being WAYYYYYYYy TOOOO HARD on punkinless. he is NOT pathetic. man who is anyone here to judge? i dont care how experienced you think u are. he is was in love like all of you and has a different means of handling his situation and has faith it might still come around his way. period!. honesly, punkinless i think you should have sent her and read her that letter of yours long ago! she would have seen a guy who loved and fought for her. and the best part is you would have done things your way and got that out of your system and knew you did all you could. but thats hindsight. but go with your gut now. dont opporate on fear. use your head but not in fear of her reaction all the time. remember what i told you...you will meet someone at college. remember this too, i dont think she will last with him. but he tried extra hard to get her back and he did. i dont think you were a mere rebound either. i just can tell you that women DO like a guy who tries hard to fight for her and get her back. if he messed up, she wants him to prove himself to be changed and hes trying desperately hard to do it. but i think he will trip up again. just a guess. no shame in beling in love. people who say move on..can sometimes seem callus and clueless. what i think people mean to say is move forward. if you feel she might still come around fine. then like i always say....live while you wait. but dont wait to live. good luck and please keep in touch with us. we all learn from each other. you have done nothing wrong. Link to post Share on other sites
Author punkinless Posted January 26, 2012 Author Share Posted January 26, 2012 got me a date. Link to post Share on other sites
chados Posted January 26, 2012 Share Posted January 26, 2012 got me a date. thats great, are you feeling any better? Link to post Share on other sites
Author punkinless Posted January 26, 2012 Author Share Posted January 26, 2012 NO! . . .. . . . . . . .. . . .yes. Link to post Share on other sites
chados Posted January 26, 2012 Share Posted January 26, 2012 NO! . . .. . . . . . . .. . . .yes. hopefully your mind will be on something else now:) how did u meet her? Link to post Share on other sites
Author punkinless Posted January 26, 2012 Author Share Posted January 26, 2012 facebook creeped her ass then got her number and texted her for a couple days and got her to go on a date with me. haven't met her face to face yet wich is kinda wierd but not really considering this day and age. so i'm meeting her today and then date saturday. and yes, shes hot as hell. Link to post Share on other sites
chados Posted January 27, 2012 Share Posted January 27, 2012 facebook creeped her ass then got her number and texted her for a couple days and got her to go on a date with me. haven't met her face to face yet wich is kinda wierd but not really considering this day and age. so i'm meeting her today and then date saturday. and yes, shes hot as hell. haha, well good job, update later! Link to post Share on other sites
Author punkinless Posted January 27, 2012 Author Share Posted January 27, 2012 initial meeting was great! little awkward at first cuz i officialy met her and her parents at almost the exact same time. but we just hung out on the couch and watched tv but mostley talked. eventually got pretty comforfable and got all snuggly. didn't leave till like 1am and i got a hug and a kiss goodnight. so i say it went pretty good... see her again saturday. Link to post Share on other sites
chados Posted January 27, 2012 Share Posted January 27, 2012 initial meeting was great! little awkward at first cuz i officialy met her and her parents at almost the exact same time. but we just hung out on the couch and watched tv but mostley talked. eventually got pretty comforfable and got all snuggly. didn't leave till like 1am and i got a hug and a kiss goodnight. so i say it went pretty good... see her again saturday. sounds great, just dont rush it.. its good that you mostly talked, cause tv and cinema is really communicationkillers:) Link to post Share on other sites
Author punkinless Posted January 27, 2012 Author Share Posted January 27, 2012 i'm not rushin anything. its kinda funny we are meeting each oyhers parents already :x Link to post Share on other sites
Sugarkane Posted January 29, 2012 Share Posted January 29, 2012 This Punkin sounds like a real fool if you ask me. Young people (even people my age) seem to think The grass Is greener on the other side no matter what. I don't know how on earth you manage to hang around these fickle fools. I got dumped in high school by my then bf. It was complete torture seeing him abd his new gf everywhere. This girl doesn't deserve you at all! It says alot about her that she dates her ex 2 days after The breakup! Girl can't be single for 5 minutes can she? Link to post Share on other sites
Sugarkane Posted January 29, 2012 Share Posted January 29, 2012 I'd totally date others- you are still very young! And I'd kill to be anywhere near NY! Link to post Share on other sites
Author punkinless Posted January 30, 2012 Author Share Posted January 30, 2012 what do ya know... punkin texted me last saturday and then broke up with her bf later that night... riiiiiggghhhttt around the time i find someone else to occupy my time. funny how that works don't it? Link to post Share on other sites
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