**GF with EX 2 days after breakup**

[ZimboGon]

thats not what im talking about, im talking about forgiving, and its really hard to believe that the other person has changed because "he" wanted to and not because she forced you to do that... its been 2 months? and youre saying that she would never come back if you didnt reach out, trust me on this, if she wanted you back so badly she would have told you. she's miserable with her new relationship.. well go figure. that doesnt mean youre going back together, and even if you are, it might not last that long.. the only thing im trying to say is that you should take it very slow.

 

Well, of course i would go slow. Thank you for your concern. Its the start of something new, something fresh. If we hold on to the problems of the past then we won't get anywhere in the future.

 

I was just saying frankly from my point of view, it would be better for punkinless to start to let go.

[punkinless]

i must not be showin my feelins right threw writing cuz i'm not the pathetic piece of shyt you think i am from one girl. was i still really hurt even after a whole month or longer? yea. but i'm completly different now.

 

do i hope she breaks up with him? yea

do i hope she comes crawling back on her hands and knees begging for me and appologizing for everything? you bet!

 

but its not like i rely on these hopes to make it threw the day. its just wishful thinking and if it happens, cool! if not than oh well.

 

so i guess wat it comes down too is do i want a second chance with her? yea, but only if she whole heartedly wants a second chance with me.

 

and i'm not completley whipped by her either. i'd date other girls. i'm not out searching all day and night but if the opportunity arrised then yea, i would.

 

so do you guys see what i mean? i'm like in the middle. i'd date other girls, but i'm not gunna say "i'm over punkin and never want to see her again." it could go either way...

 

i have enjoyed re-connecting with my best friends ehom i blew off before and i got a million things i'd do different the second time around with her. or the first time around with someone else...

 

am i making sense or no?

[mr.goodguy]

Damn this thread is long as hell. I skimmed it and it seems like a classic case of guy wanting girl he use to have.

 

From what I read, Punkinless, you need to calm down. You're obsessing over everything she does...she is controlling your life because you have given her the power because of your neediness. Don't get me wrong but we've all been there at some point.

 

Here's the thing, and it may have been said in the last 14 or so pages, but no girl or woman is going to go out with someone they can have easily. You want her so bad that it is a huge turn off. Know this, if you can be happy with yourself, other will want to be with you. When you look to this girl for your own happiness, well that looks ugly to others and no one wants to be around that. Ever notice the people who have the most fun (even if it is just for show) always attract more people? What I'd do is play it cool, like her new relationship doesn't bother you. Maybe play it cool isn't the right choice of words because you should JUST BE COOL with her decision. Everything else is in your mind and it is eating away...you have to control what you think about and get your life back on track.

 

Sorry if this post is redundant to the others 140+ posts but I have a life and can't read everything.

 

Keep your chin up.

[ZimboGon]

Good. Then stop getting so excited over simple things like eye contact and the fights between her and the boyfriend. Those little 'victories' that you see only hold you back from acceptance. You say you are over it and you would be fine either way. If thats the case...

 

Why are you posting here about her? Why are you listening to what her best friend says? Why are you over-analyzing everything like eye contact or a simple conversation?

 

You just said that you think this is a "turning point" and you "aren't ready to throw the towel in just yet."

 

You're living in denial. If you even dated another girl and punkin came back, you would drop that girl in an instant to be with her because you are not over her, and you are not helping yourself to get over her by living in denial.

 

Honestly, how happy would you be if you killed all your hope and thought it just wasn't going to work? You would be miserable, FOR NOW. But you are holding onto that feeling in the back of your head, and everything is going to be a huge disappointment if you crash and burn.

[punkinless]

Damn this thread is long as hell. I skimmed it and it seems like a classic case of guy wanting girl he use to have.

 

From what I read, Punkinless, you need to calm down. You're obsessing over everything she does...she is controlling your life because you have given her the power because of your neediness. Don't get me wrong but we've all been there at some point.

 

Here's the thing, and it may have been said in the last 14 or so pages, but no girl or woman is going to go out with someone they can have easily. You want her so bad that it is a huge turn off. Know this, if you can be happy with yourself, other will want to be with you. When you look to this girl for your own happiness, well that looks ugly to others and no one wants to be around that. Ever notice the people who have the most fun (even if it is just for show) always attract more people? What I'd do is play it cool, like her new relationship doesn't bother you. Maybe play it cool isn't the right choice of words because you should JUST BE COOL with her decision. Everything else is in your mind and it is eating away...you have to control what you think about and get your life back on track.

 

Sorry if this post is redundant to the others 140+ posts but I have a life and can't read everything.

 

Keep your chin up.

 

holey cow i've made myself look like a oathetic puss and i'm really not. i am calm. i'm not "obsessing" over everything she does. if its something that involves me than i report back here cause you can never have too much information. she not contolling my life. i do whatever the hell i want. i'm not needy and i don't act needy. i don't NEED anybody.

 

she can't have me back easily. she would have to show she really wants to try and not just fall back on me. she dosen't know i want her back so how can it be a turn off? i'm happy and have fun. i am playing it cool. beyond cool. i see them and it dosen't change my night at all.

[chados]

Good. Then stop getting so excited over simple things like eye contact and the fights between her and the boyfriend. Those little 'victories' that you see only hold you back from acceptance. You say you are over it and you would be fine either way. If thats the case...

 

 

al right now im just getting annoyed, first take a look at yourself. this is just some of your classic treads where youre looking for hope. tell me how this is any different please. what kind of answers where you looking for?

 

 

"I'm in too much shock to re-post my story... So, if people have read it feel free to comment. She left this guy she was with for another guy. She's changing in ways i could never imagine. Speechless."

 

 

 

5th of january you made a tread called "later loveshack" the exact same day you came back and made another tread

 

 

 

"Broke NC after 2 months, the outcome? An unexpected rollercoaster.

(OKAY, I LIED. I haven't left yet, lmao. Just one more thread... to clear my head)"

 

 

 

 

get this. youve never listen to the advice people told you, and you made new treads everyday if she said or did something.. and if she didnt you kinda made it look exactly the same as the ones before, just changed your words a little.

 

the only thing that makes you any different from this guy is that you didnt keep yourself to one tread. and now youre trying to tell everybody else that they should chill and not get excited if they see some signs. and thats exactly what you did yourself.

 

 

compared to you ive actually followed this tread since the beginning and ive also read probably 99% of all your treads.. so yes the desperation from your side was far more bigger. if he wants to write something on his own tread, let him.. yes he might not listen to everything, but if he wanted to he would have already done that a long time ago. just like you didnt listen when people told you to not contact.

[punkinless]

all this thread is is me getting my feelings out to somebody, ANYBODY. and i don't have to worry about being judged. it pretty much a 2-way convo between me and chados and he offers advice that he thinks seems fit when he can. and i appreciate it. although anyone else can say something also. thats what a forum is. i try and show u guys the situation and how i feel threw words but the fact of the matter is thats dam near impossible. you guys don't know exactly how i feel.

 

whats so wrong about not wanting to give up on someone you truely care about?

 

i was single for 17yrs before... these few months single arn't gunna hurt me. besides, i got my friends back.

[IfiKnewThen]

to punkinless. wow i cant believe i sat here tonight and read this whole thread. well i read what you had to say punkinless and i confess i didnt read the others responses because its late and i had to edit the reading and i didnt want to cut down on your info punkinless and i wanted to give you my personal feedback..which some might not like or agree with...but here goes.

 

first of all i think youre adorable! (lol). your adorable as someone young and in love. i like your passion and gumption and fight for love sake, or what you want. its admirable and i dont think your stalkish. youre just head over heals in first love with your ex girl, and you are in pain and got caught up in obsessing because the fight and frustration is something you want to overcome so badly, to just make everything right again.

 

heres what i was thinking as i was reading through all of this:

 

number 1---- i think your letter was fine. yes, i do. hes why i think that because you were being yourself. you were expressing your affection for her and understanding of the matter both. you also wanted to tell her why you think hes not the best choice for her..but that you respect her choice. this letter imo gave you a chance to be you and say things in your heart for both taking a chance on getting her back and for closure for at least trying ..if you didnt get her back.something you sound like you could have lived with. i dont know if anyone else here said yeah...send it to her. but i think it would have been good to have sent it for the reasons i mentioned. to me you are 18 and she was young and some things dont quite apply like they do with us older people. i think the letter would have been fine. she obviously took her ex back with his...pleading for her affection again and asking for forgiveness and showing love..even after he was an ahole. that letter if sent would have taken great courage on your part and you are NOT a wuss, by any stretch of the imagination. call me crazy.....but maybe someday you can perhaps still send it and say this was a letter i wrote a while back. i have different feelings today but you should know this is how i felt. but i understand some dynamics changed now and you might not want to expose those feelings of the past anymore. but i think it wasnt a bad idea at all to have sent it...but thats not what happened....

 

number 2. i know you have this informant who does sound sweet and seems to be on your side. but things have a way of leaking out and sometimes the girlfriends of your ex can be jealous, unbeknowst to you and can even unknowingly on their parts further sabotage your effort. females do this. yep. maybe she sent the email to you...to find out about how your ex was already...seeing this guy b4 she ended it with you. just a thought. i know its hard to comprehend when shes been "so nice". but beware and say less or say nothing. your ex can still know you want her...no matter how you "act", through this girls lips and words back to her. it would be better to not say anything to anyone associated with her for a while ; ). trust me on this one. you dont even want the informant to mis say something you didnt quite say "that way". how things are said is just as important as what is said. my point is...its not a good idea to talk to anyone associated with her ABOUT her.

 

number 3. you will be going to school or away from her soon. i promise you this.....(mark my words for they will darn near haunt you lol) you WILL meet someone else that you can care for with passion again . i promise you this!!

 

number 4. the past effects our future. (even at your age) get closure that you can live with. go with your gut feelings. dont let fear be your guild. let love and hope be it and if someone doesnt want your love...that is their loss. so if you want to tell her something...tell her. do not be afraid. in fact, if you want to someday meet with her and read the letter to her ...read it. dont leave a paper trace for her new guy to spat on it tho or to cause a rift or fight with him. tell her......not her friends or brother how you feel and have been feeling. dont let anyone have that letter. its between you and her should you decide to do that.

 

number 5. to everything there is a season and time and purpose under the heavens. this means contact and no contact BOTH have their place and time. your time or ship may have sailed with that letter or not. no one knows for certain. you have to operate off your gut and be still and quiet and listen to that inner voice.

 

number 6. even though i didnt read the advice given here. ppl here give great advise and have a lot of experience too. you may have gotten stellar advise here. and have done everything fine so far. i am NOT saying you havent. but now you must find your won way and just be safe and dont expect anything from her. if you want to give something of yourself, a message a smile or to walk away, just be prepared to do it and not expect a damn thing. ...but to give yourself peace and freedom again.

 

number 7. you can feel joy and fun again. have confidence in yourself. like who you are. do the things you did with her with new people...make new memories. if you walked down a street with her that reminds you of her everytime you walk down that street....then walk down it with your dad or something a make a new and lasting memory. these little things help cancel out overpowering memories. you need to retrain the mind and brain.

 

number 8. pray. ask God or your higher power for guidance and wisdom and the strength to exercise it.

 

good luck..God bless. be at peace. find your peace. keep your head about you.

 

ps its late please ignore my typos. i hope this all makes sense to you and me when i re-read it

[ZimboGon]

Chados, how am i looking for hope in my threads? I talked about major events that took place so i could better evaluate the meaning and look at it logically. I never looked for hope in other people and what they said. I always had HOPE in myself, because that is quite simply who i am. I never once said that i couldn't accomplish reconciliation or get what i want, because that is who i am. Yes, my last thread was about me having an emotional conversation with my ex for the FIRST time since the break-up, and i even said it was my LAST thread for advice. Then the thread about her finding another guy was just pure emotion after finding out she broke up with her rebound, my world was turned upside down. I wasn't looking for someone to tell me what to do. I was trying to look at every negative and positive i could, and decide whether it was better for me to continue believing in my relationship or not.

 

God forbid, i give punkinless some harsh advice for once. I'm a guy his age, and i have been in his shoes. I don't have to follow the norm and tell him "Oh, they'll break up sometime, stick to nc, she'll come running back." because that doesn't help. His ex girlfriend LOVES/LOVED someone else. That is a HUGE obstacle to overcome and there is no way he is a rebound. That is the BIG difference in both of our stories. If my advice isn't wanted, then fine but this was a public thread and i decided to give my own personal input to try and help. You shouldn't sit here and make assumptions about me and attack me for what i say.

Edited January 12, 2012 by ZimboGon

[punkinless]

thankyou for taking time out of your day to try and help me.

 

i am too nice and care too much. its prolly cuz she was my first. and i don't know what else is out there but based on other relationships that i've seen i had it pretty damn good with her, and she was lucky to have me.

 

oh man the letter. i don't want to know how many hours i have into that thing. refining and tweaking it. i had all intentions of hand writing and sending it but i never did. if i were to send it now i literaly have no idea what would happen. she could ignore it, but still keep it in the back of her mind and it could help me down the road if they broke up. if i had moved on by then well sucks to be her but if it not i greatly increased my chances. the awkward part would be seeing her the next time after i sent the letter. sense i see her about once a week by chance. actually that wouldn't be so bad cause we rarley ever talk. what i DON"T want to happen is for her to show it to ahole. i'm thinkin if i sent it while they are fighting (half the time) she will actually read it and hold it dear and not show him. she'll just hide it away. OR she could contact me right when she got it. idk what she would say but geeze. its almost worth a shot. sendin it.

 

or i couls stick NC sense she damn near called me already. whatcha think?

[chados]

first of all, im not attacking you any more then youre attacking punkinless.

 

 

"how am i looking for hope in my threads?"

 

 

its not that hard to figure out.. ask anyone whos been reading your treads and tell me what they think. havent you made a gigstread to? for what reason? youve been miserable like everyone else in here, and your simply looking for answers to get her back.

 

 

"I always had HOPE in myself,"

 

 

yes i know you do.. but not listen to 100 peoples advice isnt always the best thing to do.

 

 

 

"I never once said that i couldn't accomplish reconciliation or get what i want"

 

yes you probably can, thats what i told you a long time ago to. it really does look like its possible, especially since she's 17.. but you havent accomplished that yet, and you have no idea if it will last. which to be honest i doubt. im not saying it isnt possible, but since she's been jumping between 2 other guys in this short period. she isnt mature enough to keep a stable relationship. this is me telling you the same thing that youre telling punkin. and no im not saying that he's going to get her back, ive told him to move on.

 

 

"God forbid, i give punkinless some harsh advice for once. I'm a guy his age, and i have been in his shoes. "

 

 

 

yes and god forbid me for giving you some harsh advice for once?

 

you where in his shoes and you acted far more desperate then he has. he's actually listening to peoples advice, and he's not making 100 treads about the same things. its just that since this is your first serious relationship, without any successful reconciliation "yet" i dont think you should tell him whats possible and whats not.. believe me he has been told that a lot of times in this tread.

 

 

"I don't have to follow the norm and tell him "Oh, they'll break up sometime, stick to nc, she'll come running back."

 

 

no one's said that.. they say that the best way of reconciliation is to let someone miss you... you havent done that and it might come back and bite you. yes you might say different.. but 90% of the people in here cant be wrong. people who are much older then you and have had a lot of breakups in their life.

 

 

 

"If my advice isn't wanted, then fine but this was a public thread and i decided to give my own personal input to try and help"

 

 

 

it is a public tread and youre more then welcome to post your opinion. but youre attacking him when he asks for advice. unlike you he actually tries to listen to people and stick to NC. ive never said i agree with everything he's doing. but i really dont think "YOU" should come here and tell him what works and what doesnt.

 

 

and no its not just me thats been telling you this.. just read your own treads... if you can prove to me that were all wrong. well fine, but for now i rest my case.

[ZimboGon]

thankyou for taking time out of your day to try and help me.

 

i am too nice and care too much. its prolly cuz she was my first. and i don't know what else is out there but based on other relationships that i've seen i had it pretty damn good with her, and she was lucky to have me.

 

oh man the letter. i don't want to know how many hours i have into that thing. refining and tweaking it. i had all intentions of hand writing and sending it but i never did. if i were to send it now i literaly have no idea what would happen. she could ignore it, but still keep it in the back of her mind and it could help me down the road if they broke up. if i had moved on by then well sucks to be her but if it not i greatly increased my chances. the awkward part would be seeing her the next time after i sent the letter. sense i see her about once a week by chance. actually that wouldn't be so bad cause we rarley ever talk. what i DON"T want to happen is for her to show it to ahole. i'm thinkin if i sent it while they are fighting (half the time) she will actually read it and hold it dear and not show him. she'll just hide it away. OR she could contact me right when she got it. idk what she would say but geeze. its almost worth a shot. sendin it.

 

or i couls stick NC sense she damn near called me already. whatcha think?

 

The girl i was with and am getting back together with was my first love as well, i understand that.

 

From my opinion, NC won't help in your situation if you really want reconciliation. If you REALLY don't want to give up then just send it. Either it will work, or it won't and you can improve yourself.

[chados]

thankyou for taking time out of your day to try and help me.

 

i am too nice and care too much. its prolly cuz she was my first. and i don't know what else is out there but based on other relationships that i've seen i had it pretty damn good with her, and she was lucky to have me.

 

oh man the letter. i don't want to know how many hours i have into that thing. refining and tweaking it. i had all intentions of hand writing and sending it but i never did. if i were to send it now i literaly have no idea what would happen. she could ignore it, but still keep it in the back of her mind and it could help me down the road if they broke up. if i had moved on by then well sucks to be her but if it not i greatly increased my chances. the awkward part would be seeing her the next time after i sent the letter. sense i see her about once a week by chance. actually that wouldn't be so bad cause we rarley ever talk. what i DON"T want to happen is for her to show it to ahole. i'm thinkin if i sent it while they are fighting (half the time) she will actually read it and hold it dear and not show him. she'll just hide it away. OR she could contact me right when she got it. idk what she would say but geeze. its almost worth a shot. sendin it.

 

or i couls stick NC sense she damn near called me already. whatcha think?

 

 

no dont send it, if youre going to send something like that you should do it if shes single or when she just started to date him again.. not now, your doing great... if she wants you back its her job not yours.

[ZimboGon]

Fine, then chados. I've been respectful and listened to the words of people like Philosoraptor, BoredAgain, Perfectlyflawed, million.to.1, ect. I have discussed things with them and through that i made my own decisions. I wasn't looking for a challenge, but if you really think things won't work for me based on the methods I chose, then i will prove you wrong. Just wait and see.

[chados]

Fine, then chados. I've been respectful and listened to the words of people like Philosoraptor, BoredAgain, Perfectlyflawed, million.to.1, ect. I have discussed things with them and through that i made my own decisions. I wasn't looking for a challenge, but if you really think things won't work for me based on the methods I chose, then i will prove you wrong. Just wait and see.

 

 

 

im not saying it wont work, everyone is different. personally i wouldnt even consider taking someone back who's been jumping between 2 other guys in that short amount of time. im saying that i doubt that you will be able to keep the relationship going. and mark my words, you think youre fine. but you arent. because if you are you wouldnt be this desperate. and if she rejects you again you might be back to square on in your healingprocess, and that hurts.

 

the reason to let go is to heal and for me if were both single lets say 6 months or years from now, then maybe at least i left in a good manner. i respected her decision.. not to mention that i got distance from her, got more lifeexperience and i could start from scratch. what youre doing is trying to start a relationship from where it ended. you havent matured, she hasnt either.

[ZimboGon]

im not saying it wont work, everyone is different. personally i wouldnt even consider taking someone back who's been jumping between 2 other guys in that short amount of time. im saying that i doubt that you will be able to keep the relationship going. and mark my words, you think youre fine. but you arent. because if you are you wouldnt be this desperate. and if she rejects you again you might be back to square on in your healingprocess, and that hurts.

 

the reason to let go is to heal and for me if were both single lets say 6 months or years from now, then maybe at least i left in a good manner. i respected her decision.. not to mention that i got distance from her, got more lifeexperience and i could start from scratch. what youre doing is trying to start a relationship from where it ended. you havent matured, she hasnt either.

 

I'm not starting it from where it ended at all. We had discussed the problems and what happened between us. It has all been addressed. The fact that we still care about each other and can work on that is good enough. I will start fresh and slow, so stop assuming what i am trying to do. I may not have matured, but i have LEARNED from what i experienced.

 

Quite simply, who cares if i get distance from her because i WANT her. I CARE about her. Its a very respectable desire, yes, just like punkinless. I don't need to give up and move on when i am confident i can get back what i lost. But if there is any falter of hope and i start doubting myself, that is a problem.

[IfiKnewThen]

hello again. i dont think you should send her the letter...i suggested reading it to her at this point....the way you had it originally. not edited. how it was posted on here. yep. thats my suggestion alright. and to tell her you have different feelings now...but thats how you felt then and ...ask her would it have made a difference if she knew that. and just bite the bullet and be yourself. all of the game playing is sheer exhaustion. first be yourself before wanting to get her back. and dont you want her to want you for you ? or not want you for you? if she doesn't want you now it may be due to who you are presently NOT. you're pretending to be happy and not care. maybe that doesn't resonate with her. or maybe her friends and your informants info back to her is getting misread too. give the correct information to whom you want to give it to...(her)..and get everyone out of the picture. i know you want to protect your heart. but you can always say...this is how you used to feel...when speaking of the letter. then see her reaction. just a suggestion. but you would have to be strong. dont live in regret...and NOT expect anything from her. yep. no expectations. this is about you and your healing and having your say in life. period.

[chados]

I'm not starting it from where it ended at all. We had discussed the problems and what happened between us. It has all been addressed. The fact that we still care about each other and can work on that is good enough. I will start fresh and slow, so stop assuming what i am trying to do. I may not have matured, but i have LEARNED from what i experienced.

 

Quite simply, who cares if i get distance from her because i WANT her. I CARE about her. Its a very respectable desire, yes, just like punkinless. I don't need to give up and move on when i am confident i can get back what i lost. But if there is any falter of hope and i start doubting myself, that is a problem.

 

 

 

its like this, if it didnt work out the first time, why in the world would it work out after 2 months?. did i tell you to give up? please highlight where i said that. im just saying that it would be vice considering to move on. you do what you want, its like telling people to not follow their dreams, i would never do that. yes they might forget you if youre keeping distance, but if they really love you they will come back. why should you be the one chasing her after what she's been doing to you? its not like she just left you, she actually went straight to another guy, and then another.

 

 

"when i am confident i can get back what i lost."

 

if you can get it back. why do you need loveshacks advice?

 

 

 

a lot of people has been talking to their exes about the problems that where, that doesnt mean it will last. and this you dont understand yet, because you refuse to listen.

 

youve made a tread saying "she thought i hated her", and now she wants to see you?. the reason why she wants to see you is because you told her that you where done. she's 17 years old, if you tell her that she cant have it, she will want it back.

[ZimboGon]

The world is not so black and white.

[punkinless]

is bytch-fest over?

[chados]

is bytch-fest over?

 

 

yeah:) whats new?

[punkinless]

few.

 

nothing good i'm afraid . . .

been thinkin about her alot lately and re-livin old memories and it's sad that we arn't making new ones. i actually found some old videos of me and her on my computer and its so wierd. we were invincible back then. i know i could be making memories with other people but it just isn't that easy.

 

i miss her like crazy but shes still head over heels for this other guy and they're nothing alike and just fight and i don't understand why she doesn't want me in her life. i didn't do anything wrong...

[chados]

few.

 

nothing good i'm afraid . . .

been thinkin about her alot lately and re-livin old memories and it's sad that we arn't making new ones. i actually found some old videos of me and her on my computer and its so wierd. we were invincible back then. i know i could be making memories with other people but it just isn't that easy.

 

i miss her like crazy but shes still head over heels for this other guy and they're nothing alike and just fight and i don't understand why she doesn't want me in her life. i didn't do anything wrong...

 

 

 

 

maybe you where to nice to her. if youre there all the time, she cant miss you. its exactly the same in a relationship. not saying that you should ignore her or something. just that you need to take time for yourself to. cause you dont wanna value her more then yourself.

 

delete those videos. i know that it sucks. but thats what i did. the memories themselves are painful enough. trust me on this. and yeah it might hurt when youre deleting them. well at least it did for me. but after a while it will be easier to move on. you have to do this, since youre not fully healed. this will not put you in a bad position. theres a reason why youre doing this, and that is for you and only you. she cant expect that youve kept a part of her in your life if she ever comes back.

 

facebook = delete

pictures/videos/ delete or hide them somewhere. but not on your computer or in your desk.

if you got a necklace or something equal from her, hide it where you cant see it/ or sell it.

[punkinless]

well actually i havn't seen her around in awhile. prolly about 2 weeks... actually i just checked and its only been 8 days! wtf. it feels like forever. but at the same time i can't believe how much time has gone by. she dumped me bak in september and its halfway threw january already! i just miss my old life. the summer after my senior year of highschool was the best time of my life. friends, partys, girlfriend. well ex f*cking girlfriend. nobody has time for that stuff anymore. its workworkwork. then school.

[chados]

well actually i havn't seen her around in awhile. prolly about 2 weeks... actually i just checked and its only been 8 days! wtf. it feels like forever. but at the same time i can't believe how much time has gone by. she dumped me bak in september and its halfway threw january already! i just miss my old life. the summer after my senior year of highschool was the best time of my life. friends, partys, girlfriend. well ex f*cking girlfriend. nobody has time for that stuff anymore. its workworkwork. then school.

 

 

 

know what youre saying. i had a period when i thought that 1,5 month was 3 months.

 

yes a lot of people in that age, especially girls are focusing on their job/school. this is a reason why you shouldnt really be bothered by being single. i mean, why settle down now?, i know its sometimes like an addiction if youre used to have someone there, but try to see the opportunities with being single. you can do anything you want now.

 

the worst thing about having a girlfriend in young age is that the relationship almost never works out. and some people doesnt seem to be bothered at all if they break up. well thats because they dont love the other person, or because theyve been trough this 100 times before. with you i can almost guarantee that the fact that this is your first girlfriend is what makes it much harder. i know weve been this before, but there is someone better out there for you. thats what all say right?, but its true.

 

personally i was looking for someone that i thought i would never meet. well now i have. and that makes me see how much better it can be.