MsLandon Posted May 25, 2004 Share Posted May 25, 2004 Ok, here's the deal. Just started dating a friend several weeks ago. For the past year he's been telling me about his feelings and finally the time was right and he asked me out and asked if we could start to get to know each other better, on a romantic level. Things started out great...Se tup a few dates, planned a nice surprise night out for my birthday, shared our first kiss---ok, kisses. Emailed me to tell me that he had a wonderful time and hoped that I felt cared for and special because I was to him. Called me a couple of times, got my voicemail. Then we talked a few days later...I returned his call. We talked for about 2 hours and he talked about how much he enjoyed my company, how much he didn't want to leave after our last/first kiss...setting the record straight about how he's perceived by some people - basically letting me know that he isn't dating a bunch of people and he doesn't have all these women socked away somewhere. Honestly, he's a very good person, but because he's very attractive and a great dresser, people tend to perceive him as being a ladie sman. In my 2 year long friendship with him I've never seen him display that type of bahavior. Talked about his parents, and how they met...the fact that he has separation issues, just a wealth of stuff. I mentined that I hadn't really called him previously (since our last date) because I've never been much of a telephone person and was kinda worried about calling. Like woudl I have anything to talk about, would I freeze up, etc. So he said that he was happy that I returned his call and said, "see that wasn't so bad was it?" It wasn't. 2 hours flew by incredibly fast. That was last Monday. Now we haven't talked for a week. I left a message for him yesterday evening and no call back yet. Is there something wrong? Granted I don't need a person to call me every day. Neither of us are very needy people. He's got a business he's getting off of the ground and I've got my own business plus a fulltime job, I know that we both have legitimately busy lives. Just wanting to hear your thoughts. I'm panicing. laughing. And...quite honestly...And this takes a lot of wherewithall to admit, I'm used to being a bit spoiled. laughing. Many more calls and such...but I haven't met anyone I'd be interested in dating for a while so I know I'm probably a littlbe bit out of the loop on grown up dating. We are both in our early - mid 30's. Thanks. When we talked again I Link to post Share on other sites
pitprincess Posted May 29, 2004 Share Posted May 29, 2004 There could be many good reason's that he has not called. Could of had to leave town, death, already planned things on his schedules. It really don't sound to me like there was a problem. I hope everything is ok because it sounds like you two really liked one another Link to post Share on other sites
Author MsLandon Posted May 30, 2004 Author Share Posted May 30, 2004 Originally posted by pitprincess There could be many good reason's that he has not called. Could of had to leave town, death, already planned things on his schedules. It really don't sound to me like there was a problem. I hope everything is ok because it sounds like you two really liked one another Thanks so much for your post. Really set my mind at eas to hear anther perspective. As it turned out, he called me the night I left the post. We talked for a while and set up a date to have dinner and watch some movies at his home. It was a wonderful evening. We do really like each other and are very respectful of each other. It was a 3rd (official) date and a movies at home date too so I didn't know what to expect. I've read so many things about a 3rd date rule. That is crazy, laughing. then I heard the "blockbuster nights" were basically code for sex. Have you heard that? Anyway, we like one another a whole lot but we didnt' take things quite THAT far...which I have to say was nice. Nothing more annoying than feeling like someone expects sexual intimacy...ya know? Link to post Share on other sites
pitprincess Posted May 30, 2004 Share Posted May 30, 2004 Originally posted by MsLandon I heard the "blockbuster nights" were basically code for sex. Have you heard that? Anyway, we like one another a whole lot but we didnt' take things quite THAT far...which I have to say was nice. Nothing more annoying than feeling like someone expects sexual intimacy...ya know? I havent heard that one before... lol I am so glad things were ok with you both :) Link to post Share on other sites
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