Not sure how to deal with this.

[Wings Of Love]

I hope this is the appropriate place to ask this question. Sorry it's so long!

 

So my best friend and I have been friends for many years now and though we've had ups and downs we've never let anything really come between us. We have both been through a lot, but we've always had each other and I hope it will always be that way.

 

Now my best friend and I talk about everything. Literally. We often discuss our intimate lives. She recently got engaged and asked me to be her chief bridesmaid, which is a huge honour for me. I do get on well with her fiancé, he's a good man. But I have a problem with him.

 

Not too long ago the three of us were joking about, erm, "experimenting" together. I did of course take it as a joke, as my friend knows that I wouldn't do anything with someone I wasn't in a relationship with. But it seems her fiancé has taken it to heart. Several times now on facebook I have received messages from him asking me if I will go ahead with it and making comments about my body and the like. At first I merely brushed it off, but now I'm getting a little worried. I have explained that it was a joke, and I wouldn't do something like that. But I'm not sure he believes me. Just this evening I received a message from my friend's facebook account, supposedly from her, saying she wanted me to go ahead and be intimate with her fiancé. I asked outright if it was actually him and they replied that it wasn't, but the differences in the way each of them type are very distinct and I can recognise when I'm talking to my best friend and when I'm not. I said again that I was no longer comfortable discussing these things and they replied that "it will have to stay a dream".

 

Now I am certain that was him and not my friend talking. But even if I am wrong, the previous messages are not appropriate to me and I'm worried my friend will find out and be angry with me. He has also asked me to tell him some private things about her that are not my business, and not tell her that I had given this information. I told him I would not give out information about her, and that he should ask her because I'm sure she would tell him if he needed to know.

 

I really don't know what to do. I don't feel I can private message her about this now if he is using her facebook, and the only time I can phone her is when he's with her. Besides, I don't want to cause trouble between them. I was considering having a quiet word when we go Christmas shopping together soon, if he doesn't come that is, but even then I am worried she'll be upset with me. If she happens to read through her inbox messages she will see tonight's conversation anyway, which also worries me. Apart from this, he is a really nice person and has treated her wonderfully. I just don't want him talking to me this way. Any advice? Or am I taking this too seriously?