Author PUREHEARTOM Posted December 2, 2011 Author Share Posted December 2, 2011 (edited) Well seeing as how I did the same as her and divorced my wife, your insinuation that I can't comprehend reality doesn't hold water. I, like her, divorced because we weren't meant to be. Someone like me isn't meant to be with someone void of scruples. Someone void of scruples or morality would be a person who does not recognize what they did was wrong because it caused harm to another person. In my scenario the harm is openly acknowledged and condemned by all parties. You really come across as an incredibly self-righteous, but horribly scorned person nofool. It saddens me very much. I hope you heal and let love into your heart again. Edited December 2, 2011 by PUREHEARTOM Link to post Share on other sites
nofool4u Posted December 2, 2011 Share Posted December 2, 2011 Someone void of scruples or morality would be a person who does not recognize what they did was wrong because it caused harm to another person. No, someone can know the difference between right and wrong and still be void of scruples or morality if they engage in unscrupulous or immoral behavior anyway. You really come across as an incredibly self-righteous, but horribly scorned person nofool. Oh I can admit a little scorn, but that has long passed. Still doesn't mean I can't despise horrible people when they commit horrible acts. Link to post Share on other sites
Author PUREHEARTOM Posted December 3, 2011 Author Share Posted December 3, 2011 No, someone can know the difference between right and wrong and still be void of scruples or morality if they engage in unscrupulous or immoral behavior anyway. Oh I can admit a little scorn, but that has long passed. Still doesn't mean I can't despise horrible people when they commit horrible acts. 'despise' 'horrible people' 'horrible acts' You're only hurting yourself with those words....not me. I'm here seeking advice from those with similar experience to my own....not judgment from my MW's scorned H! Your bitter, defeated jaw jackin has no impact on me. The harm you hurl is in fact a boomerang. Link to post Share on other sites
frozensprouts Posted December 4, 2011 Share Posted December 4, 2011 the only "marriage from an affair" situation that i know of is my brother and his current wife, so i can only base my opinion on them. they got married with every intention of being faithful to one another, but both have since cheated. It seems to be because the pattern they learned in their first marriages was that, when things get hard, you turn outwards rather than to each other for a solution. Patterns like this can be hard to break without some heavy duty counseling to learn better coping skills. what is her big rush t start a new heavy-duty relationship anyway? It sounds like she went through a hard time...why not give her some time and space to make sure she's ready for that...doesn't mean you have to stop dating, but why rush into something permanent so soon? (also...if you are planning on playing any role in her kids lives, please make sure it's for keeps and that they won't get attached to you only to find that you're gone (by your choice or hers)....this is part of hy giving her time to figure out what she ants makes a lot of sense whatever happens, best of luck to you:) Link to post Share on other sites
Severely Unamused Posted December 4, 2011 Share Posted December 4, 2011 (edited) defeated Interesting word to use. I remember another thread here, that touched on the supposed "competition" between the BS and AP. Edited December 4, 2011 by Severely Unamused Link to post Share on other sites
nofool4u Posted December 5, 2011 Share Posted December 5, 2011 'despise' 'horrible people' 'horrible acts' You're only hurting yourself with those words....not me. wasn't really referring to you. oh well Link to post Share on other sites
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