To get back together or not?

[LDR92]

So Im just looking for a little advice here. Ill try to keep my story as brief as possible.

 

Im sure this story comes up a lot on here but basically my gf and I started dating very early in my senior year of HS and her junior year. We had an amazing first year together fell in the love and a blast together. We became closer with each other then we had ever been with anyone else in our entire lives. She had never had a serious bf before me and I had one semi serious gf before her but it only lasted a few months.

 

In the fall of the following year I went away to college 3 hours away and we struggled mid first semester and broke up for two weeks but quickly realized we wanted to give it another try. When we got back together things were great again before we knew it summer came and we went on vacation together and spend a lot of time together. The last few weeks of summer I began to feel like she had some sort of guard up and she is a ver guarded person but not to me. It made me feel like I was the only one trying and not loved. After a month of going back to a LDR when she went to school it had gotten worse and was very hurtful to me because i could see things weren't good and i tried harder to fix things while she did nothing. I had tried to talk to her about it 3 or 4 times and every time she said i was just trying to change her. So i broke up with her and said i wanted to take some time off. After a few weeks of talking about the problems basically she siad she put her guard up because i hurt her earlier in the summer by making jokes about us not having a future together (when she went along with them and started them) and because she wanted a promise ring that said we would always be honest and faithful to each other. I said that should be assumed and i dont need to buy a ring for that.

 

We took the rest of the fall semester off to be single and explore our single college options hoping it would improve our relationship in the future by eliminating any doubts or curiosities. Now we are talking and visiting each other again every 2-3 weeks. We have had several serious conversations and want to be together but here is my problem. Im very scared that something else is going to happen and she is going to put her guard up and im going to feel used, not loved, and given up on again. Not only that but I feel like a future after college is almost imposible for us. We cant even go a year without breaking up and she wants to go to vet school 400 miles away for 4 years then move back home while i want to find near home. I feel like i love, care, and try more and harder then she does about me and that I want something more serious then she does. She just keeps saying dont worry about the future enjoy it for what it is now and lets just have fun but Im not sure if I should enjoy it now or try and move on while i have the opportunity because a future seems almost impossible. We love each other very much and both cant see ourselves being with anyone else.

 

So I feel like im between a rock and a hard place here because a future seems almost impossible but I have a blast spending time together and love her to death. Should I enjoy it while it lasts or try to move on now while I have the opportunity?

[Ariadne]

Should I enjoy it while it lasts or try to move on now while I have the opportunity?

 

I think you should enjoy it while it lasts.

 

Loving relationships are not that easy to come by.

 

Maybe you shouldn't try so hard, and maybe worry more about your schoolwork etc than the romantic future which will work itself out on its own.