sardeen Posted November 27, 2011 Share Posted November 27, 2011 It does depend on the situation though. You mentioned that you were left for an ex. I can imagine it being easier to get over someone like that. Ive never understood people who mourn over someone who were left by a cheater, unless they themselves did the same thing. Your situation just seems easier to get over. Link to post Share on other sites
betterdeal Posted November 27, 2011 Share Posted November 27, 2011 understand that there is no correlation with the outcome of his new relationship, and him being over his ex. in other words, assuming he IS in fact over his ex, it does NOT translate automatically into relationship success in his current relationship. there is no correlation there. these are independent events. brand new separate relationship. This is a good point. My first girlfriend left me for our housemate; she left him four years later for a married man with five children; and is now married to him with two kids to him. Both have well paid jobs, nice home etc etc. Give it whatever labels you like, call it a rebound if you will, and consider it a failure if you wish, but she has what she wants. A long, happy, meaningful life doesn't always come in a standardised package of a monogamous boy-meets-girl at age 18 and they live happy ever after. Even if you did marry your childhood sweetheart, they might die prematurely and leave you a widow(er) which not so long ago was considered devastating because you'd be "left on the shelf". Thankfully, it isn't nowadays. As Pete said, it's a process and the very act of taking actions to improve your life makes you feel better, whether or not those actions result in the predicted outcome. Doing things with the intent of making yourself feel good makes you feel good. You change, adapt, accept and enjoy. That's life. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Von Posted November 28, 2011 Author Share Posted November 28, 2011 Im going to catch up to all the talk going on here in a few days. I realize I need to take some time to make my thoughts and feelings more clear. And I have a suprise because I agree with some of the opposing ideas said but by making myself more clear will alleviate some others. I will only say that Im not "fooling myself" but I can definitely make what I feel more understandable and its not all rosy. Im deeper than I seem in words Link to post Share on other sites
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