Update on "The date" Need input on human nature too.....

[spanky]

I don't know if any of you read my update on the Monday night date but it was fantastic. I am curious to know what y'all think my ex-boyfriend will do when he finds out that I was out on a date w/in two weeks of the breakup. His Captain from the ship saw me out drinking margaritas. I actually made it a point to stop and cheerfully say "HELLO, remember me?" Do any of you have any experience with an ex's reaction to other one dating again. Will he be upset, mad or jealous? Could he want to get back together? Come on all of you who know about the Venus and Mars human nature stuff! I am dying to hear what you all have to say! Let me repeat...... my date was awesome!

Thanks! Spanks

[Miss_Behavin143]

He'll probably see that you are happy and have moved on and try to get you back. To me, I think when a guy see's his ex has moved on and found someone else, it's almost a shot to his ego if he's yet to move on and find someone else.... I think they look for reassurance in the fact that they can possibly get you back. NOT that they wanna be back together, but... I feel like alot times they do it to see if they still CAN have you back.

[Curt]

Why even wonder what he thinks Spanky? Are you somehow torn or wondering if you'd really like to get back with him (the ex)?

 

Just wondering.

 

Curt

[spanky]

I miss my ex terribly. I pray for him to want me back. He backed out of our relationship out of fear and confusion. I was falling in love and he wasn't ready for it. I would not want him back if his behavior was to stay the way it was because I require a little more time with the other half when I'm in a committed relationship especially when I already miss him when he goes on his 8 week deployments. I refuse to have to miss him when he's home too. When I asked for more of his time and told him I was falling in love he broke up with me.

 

I wonder if subconsciously I just want one more night of shagging with the guy. We had the best, most exciting, and fun sex life. How in the heck will I ever get another guy to do to me what he would do? Where do you think the name Spanks comes from?

 

Well, if he doesn't want me back then it's his loss. Besides, I deserve someone who is selfless rather than selfish, humble rather than arrogant, and emotionally open instead of guarded. I would be willing to give it another try if he were to come to me with the line of,"I made a huge mistake and I miss you spanks, and I'm willing to comprimise my lifestyle to give you more."

 

I'm not sure if it would ever be the same though. He DEVASTATED me. I had soggy eyeballs and chapped eyelids for two weeks after he broke up with me on Mother's Day. Bad timing considering I am a single mom. I just got to the point where I don't cry at the thought of him. Getting out and dating has also helped to speed up the healing process.

 

Well, sorry I went off on a tangent. I would also LOVE to go on another date with my new guy but he's not calling. WHY WON"T HE CALL?????? What's your take on the situation? Spanky

[MsLandon]

I think that pondering how your ex will react and whether he will want you back is pointless. You have met a new really nice guy and why not explore what you two could have together rather than focusing on someone who bailed on you emotionally and physically. You weren't a priority then and you won't be one in the future. I think that a previous writer hit the nail right on the head when they stated that may, and that's a real MAY try to get you back simply because his ego has been hurt. And that's not just a male thing. I've seen plenty of women attempt to do the same.

 

 

I'm not going to apologize for getting spiritual -- but hey, I've always felt that sometimes God gets certain people out of your way to bring you something better.