jj1234 Posted May 25, 2004 Share Posted May 25, 2004 My girlfriend has several guy friends. When is the relationship considered inappropriate? Link to post Share on other sites
Pyrannaste Posted May 25, 2004 Share Posted May 25, 2004 If the calls were made at different times of the days, would them bother you? Do you know this guy personally? Has she known him longer than you? I think that calls late at night do not mean anything in themselves. What really counts is they way they are acting...... if they are 'only friends' they should not have personal sex talk(while general sex talk can be okay), not flirt with each other, do not do anything behind your back.....things like these. A male friend of mine calls me late at night sometimes but we talk about stuff like sports, poisonous snakes, computer games, movies, poisonous mushrooms, geology, books, weather, his ex gf, poisonous frogs, stuff like that. I could send to my bf anytime our msn messenger chat logs because we never talk about inappropriate stuff. Do you know if they go to dinners, movies, etc with other people or it is just the two of them? Do you know if either of them had a crush on the other? Link to post Share on other sites
Pyrannaste Posted May 25, 2004 Share Posted May 25, 2004 you edited your thread...not fair To me the list of inappropriate behaviours is: -flirting with each other -interfering with the friend's relationship -being secretive about what they do together -sending nude pics or sexy pics of each other or getting naked in front of each other -one of them has a crush on the other, the other enjoys it and plays the friend along -talking about very intimate personal details(like their own masturbation techniques) -putting the friend always before the bf or gf -treating the friend in any way like he/she was more a SO than a friend -seeing a porn movie together (opposed as with other people as well) -giving each other birthday presents you usually buy for bf/gf only (like, vibrators) Link to post Share on other sites
Author jj1234 Posted May 25, 2004 Author Share Posted May 25, 2004 they do things together alone and ocassionally in groups. she is very vague about it and gets angry everytime it is brought up. i feel her intentions are fine, but not his. Link to post Share on other sites
bryanp Posted May 25, 2004 Share Posted May 25, 2004 Hello, How do you think you think she would be feeling if the roles were reversed and you were doing the same things with a close female friend? Do you think she would be quiet and accept it?Your gut feeling is generally correct. Link to post Share on other sites
Author jj1234 Posted May 26, 2004 Author Share Posted May 26, 2004 i would feel that it is inappropriate to say the least Link to post Share on other sites
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