anyone who has been dumped, and a few months after dumper wants u back?

[EnchantedOne]

do not write if you haven't got back with your ex.

 

so anyone here who's been dumped. when it looked like they wouldn't be able to take you back, and all sudden they did. this could be weeks, months years whatever.

 

My first relationship we had a baby. We broke up on and off and I moved back home and then back to him ect. For 4 freaking years. After each breakup we would stop talking for about a week then wed want each other back. Drama drama. After the last break when I left him, I told myself it would be for good. A month later he was living with me. Then I dont know what happened but we broke up and stayed broken up. Thank God.

 

The next man and I were friends with benefits for years on and off. Then we got back together and were BF/GF. There were many times I never thought Id talk to him again after we split. Then months and months later wed talk and would get back to either a relationship or just sex. We have been done over a year now, but we will never be back together for any reason b/c there has been damage that cant be undone. Its been forgiven, but we cant even be friends.

 

This last man. Him and I dated for 6 months. We broke up for a lot of reasons. I still hang out with him and he sees MY kids as well. We hang out once or twice a week. We have decided to have sex with each other b/c we both have high sex drives and we are safe together and wont put each other at risk. Neither of us feels like meeting anyone new or dating anyone at this point.

We still love each other. We still care for each other. Our families still talk to the other one. Basically after the break up there was a lot of pain and the last week we were together was awful. We both called each other names and said hurtful things. It was the first and only time this nasty part came out of us.

We discuss the future. We both agree we are not together right now and neither know what the future holds. I dont hold the hope anymore. I told him as much. I told him I dont see the love in his eyes anymore, though I do. Since I said that, hes been acting closer and closer to me. I hinted at sex with someone else this weekend and I saw the jealously that I had NEVER seen before.

My point is, I dont know what will become of us. I have no clue if we will get over the issues that made us break up or if we will stop hurting by things that went on. He knows I am loyal and he had something good with me. I never(until that last week) disrespected him and he didnt me either. He told me all the time no girl has ever treated him the way I did. I have kind of pulled myself more out of his life w/o extracting myself totally. I am working on my issues and focusing more on my kids. Im dealing with my depression. Hes dealing with his issues and his wants.

I am just going to keep doing what I need and want to for me and my kids and if he wants me back someday Ill see where I am at and if I am willing to be with him again.

We are not hiding the fact that we talk daily or that we see each other a up to a few times a week from family and friends. People have told us both we need to not see each other and we say well I want to so I am going to.

 

Even if we get back together, our relationship will never be what we had b/c that was BROKEN and it ended. We would need to start all over and rebuild it from the start and if we do that hopefully the foundation will be strong b/c it wasnt the first time around.

 

Best of luck to you. Remember, you never know what will happen. You need to live life the way YOU want to. Dont shut others out b/c you still love someone, you need to keep on living for yourself.

[EnchantedOne]

BCAA, im trying to move on i really do, why im asking this is probably because i dont want that feeling that she isnt going to love me anymore, i want that egoboost that theres a change she will love me again. people want to be loved you know "selfish i know". its not because i think that she will come back after 1 month. and im going to go on dates. and hopefully i will be over her.

 

Honestly, I would focus on myself and let myself get over the last person before you move on. Otherwise the rebound is so great and you can get hurt worse and could hurt the new person pretty bad as well.

I have accepted the last relationship has ended and I accept the reasons why. I know I am NOT ready to date anyone else and I dont just dont feel like it. I need to take the time to grow and realize what I learned from the mistakes in the last one.

I am still having sex with him and hanging out and going on dates ect, but I know when I am ready I will be able to move on. Some days this new "relationship" works fine. Some days I feel awful and I need to stop talking to him for a few days and regroup. Those days are further and further between. He understands this and is fine when I just dont talk much or want to see him. At this moment in time, we both want to remain single to focus on ourselves and families.

[chados]

I am "Mike Dean" most important thing in life is when you are happy,even though it might cost you tears or stress,and I think if I can share my little experience,it will be less stress and tears to others. Relationships last when love is love,but mind you a lot comes in and how you handle them matters most,I have been married for 8 years with a son and a daughter we lived happily until things started getting ugly and we had fights and arguments almost every time... it got worse at a point that she filed for divorce... I tried my best to make her change her mind & stay with me cause i loved her with all my heart and didn't want to loose her but everything just didn't work out... she moved out of the house and still went ahead to file for divorce... I tried everything but still

nothing worked. The breakthrough came when someone introduced me to this wonderful, great spell caster who eventually helped me out...

 

I have never been a fan of things like this but just decided to try reluctantly cause I

was desperate and left with no choice... He did special prayers and he gave me detailed instructions on what to do,when and how,including some roots and herbs... Within 7 days she called me and was sorry for all the

emotional trauma she had cost me, moved back to the house and we continue to live happily, the kids are happy too and we are expecting our third child... I have introduced him to a lot of couples with problems across the world and they have had good news... Just thought I should share my experience cause I strongly believe someone out there need's it... You can email me on [email protected] to get the spell caster's contact... Don't give up just yet, You need to do what you have not done to get what you have not gotten,its just what I did,and trust me,you will smile at the end,so make extra effort to save your marriage/relationship if it's truly worth it.

 

Regards

Mike Dean

 

 

 

 

yes mike dean we've noticed your other post above this one to. first of all i dont know if your serious, since this is a very odd way to save your relationship. if your serious and believe that this is the way to go, im glad for you. but personally i believe that if a woman wants to go back to you, its because of YOU, and not because of some magic spell.

[chados]

thanks guys for trying to help me, i appreciate that people takes time to help someone else. but im actually over her. im seeing things clearer now. i dont want her back, i do miss the feeling of not being alone though:). would it be a egoboost if she called me and said she wanted me back?, of course it would. but i wouldnt take her back. im just asking people her if they had some girl/boyfriend who came back. and your story would be appreciated, since i really cant understand how she could break up with me. i never in my life thought that she would dump me, but i understand why now. and i had the same problem with her. but guys dont seem to have an easy time dumping their girlfriend. i believe its often harder for us.

[fucpcg]

All good stuff and good reading, thanks to posters.