chasingdreams Posted November 25, 2011 Share Posted November 25, 2011 My boyfriends birthday was last week. He told me that he was going to spend some time with his mom. I met his mom the other day and found out that he did not even see her on his birthday. I asked him what he did and he said he went to dinner with a friend. Apparently she is is AA sponsor. He said he felt obligated to go but, it bothers me that she was the person he chose to spend his birthday with. Not his mom, not me, not a friend that Ive met...but a woman Ive never even heard of. Apparently she is married and older but, he LIED. He said he will stop going but, I dont want that. Im extremely pissed off that he spent his birthday with another woman. After I offered to take him and his mom out for dinner for his birthday... Link to post Share on other sites
patience82 Posted November 25, 2011 Share Posted November 25, 2011 Im undergoing the same situation youre having right now. I know its hard, i cry most of the time.. helpless.. What i keep in mind.. Theres no point arguing about it, these are the things that are not in your hands. So let it pass.. eventually you will get tired of this set up.. i know im not in the right position to say this because its hard for me to follow too... but if it tortures you emotionally... then leave.. Link to post Share on other sites
DrImho Posted November 25, 2011 Share Posted November 25, 2011 When a person in a relationship lies about what they are doing, and with whom, then they are being unfaithful. Maybe they're not having sex, but the fact that they had to lie shows dishonesty towards their chosen partner and their relationship. In your case, your boyfriend very obviously lied to you. Usually when people lie about things like this in a relationship, they give you a half-truth, as if that will soften the blow. He said he was going to his mother's for his birthday? Then you caught him in that lie? How convenient that he then "admitted" that he "had dinner" with another woman. And she's "older"? I'll lay it straight out for you, and sorry if it hurts. He's bumping uglies with this woman. What I've learned in my life, being cheated on several times, is to take no bull from cheaters. The moment they get caught in such a lie, and fire back a few half-truths to hide the deception, I'm out the door (or they are, depending on who's door it is). Say a few simple words: "You lied to me. You cheated. I'm out" and then walk and don't speak to this low-life again. This relationship is already doomed; it just hasn't died yet. Link to post Share on other sites
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