Hi tony,,,

[nani]

Hi,

 

i know this happened during a break up, but if you love somebody it hearts.

 

I am not runing into her, but i think i have all the right to say i have to know, so i have a choice to decide, after i know the story.

 

wether it was during break up time or not, my bf he didn't give me a choice to know about it so i can decide.

 

i don't have the cance to have the choice..

 

you know maybe i could have decide the same i did now, but you never know maybe not?? mayebe the breakup will continue...

 

He is real nice, but i feel so dirty to make love with him after i heard what happened,, with the other woman.

 

do you think that time heals the heart, should i give a chance for us, or space.

 

you know he told me that he feels realy facked up and disrespected from me that me and the woman talked about it.

 

is it fair???

 

solution:

 

i think it will be nice if we just stop talking and being together for some while, so we can see what happened??

 

it will be diffcult not to talk with somebody wenn you live in the same room. but we can just talk important things and i will stay in the other bedroom and see what happenes???

 

do you think this is right.

[Tony T]

You have to do what you are comfortable with.

 

I personally don't see that what he did was that bad, considering the two of you were broken up. If you really loved your guy, you would be angry at the woman for discussing these details with you. She had no business doing that. I consider what she did to be extremely evil behavior.

 

Forgiveness is a decision we have to make. You may not be capable now but you better learn. Everything that you feel now is your responsibility, not your boyfriend's. You are making the decision to feel bad so don't blame that decision on anyone else.

 

I have found that if I am able to forgive those around me who are unkind or disloyal, that my life runs more smoothly and people forgive me for my own mistakes more easily. I think that's a universal law you will understand yourself one day.

 

Take one day at a time. If you really and truly love this man, try your best to forgive him and work on this situation. If you think you need to sleep in separate rooms for a while...if that makes you feel better...by all means do so. But the two of you need to talk things out, perhaps see a counsellor, then do all you can to fix this matter and move on with your lives.

 

If you feel better not talking to your boyfriend for a while, that's fine. But I do hope you learn more constructive ways of dealing with your relationship conflicts so in the future you are more able to resolve things and get back to normal...or just leave. Relationships exist in order for people to work together on their difficulties. If communications ceases, the relationship ceases soon after.