williesarus Posted November 27, 2011 Share Posted November 27, 2011 Anyone broke up twice but still managed to get back together? Link to post Share on other sites
jkscarlet Posted November 27, 2011 Share Posted November 27, 2011 My ex boyfriend and I were together for four years. We rencently broke up three weeks ago. Well, more of he broke up with me. We have broken up about three times before this one. Not due to cheating or not loving each other. but it always comes down to the same reason each time. He promised he would not do it again, so we gave it a chance again. It was about over a year being together again and three weeks ago he did it He felt pressured and taken for granted. I rcently jst got a teaching job two months ago, which really put a lot of stress on me. Hence, it didnt alaways have me in the best mood the past to months. Anyway, here i am again. The worst part is, if i had a chance again, i would do it all over again. I have never loved someone as much as him. But, yes answer to your question is that usually it tends to happen again. People don't change, I tried but I ended up going back to the way I acted. goodluck Link to post Share on other sites
mike588 Posted November 27, 2011 Share Posted November 27, 2011 (edited) My ex boyfriend and I were together for four years. We rencently broke up three weeks ago. Well, more of he broke up with me. We have broken up about three times before this one. Not due to cheating or not loving each other. but it always comes down to the same reason each time. He promised he would not do it again, so we gave it a chance again. It was about over a year being together again and three weeks ago he did it He felt pressured and taken for granted. I rcently jst got a teaching job two months ago, which really put a lot of stress on me. Hence, it didnt alaways have me in the best mood the past to months. Anyway, here i am again. The worst part is, if i had a chance again, i would do it all over again. I have never loved someone as much as him. But, yes answer to your question is that usually it tends to happen again. People don't change, I tried but I ended up going back to the way I acted. goodluck It seems like when people go back to an ex.it's like reading a book over and over and over when you already know how it ends and /or expecting it to be different. My ex. is doing that now,,, Hummm wonder if it will work this time? Edited November 27, 2011 by mike588 Link to post Share on other sites
jkscarlet Posted November 27, 2011 Share Posted November 27, 2011 i guess you kinda hope that each time is different. Its like for me, i always start out good. Then over time, i forget and i takes things for granted. Then, i always realize it when its too late. But he has faults too, so i refuse to take 100 percent blame. Link to post Share on other sites
lilyblue Posted November 27, 2011 Share Posted November 27, 2011 My ex is doing that too, with his ex-wife. Not sure how that's going to end. I guess it could work out? What changes the third time? Do you realize something new? Actually now that I have written that, I realize I have done it as well (I mean I've always known, just a little preoccupied with the ex right now...) First time I broke up with him. Second time me broke up with me, 3rd time it was completely mutual. Just wasn't working, as much a we wanted it to. It took us 8 months to get to that point and the breakup was a very matter of fact 10 minute discussion. We're still friends. Link to post Share on other sites
jkscarlet Posted November 27, 2011 Share Posted November 27, 2011 see everytime we break up we are friends and then over time we end up back with each other. This time, i think he is steering clear of being friends. How the friends thing working for you? he did text me two days ago asking if i wa alright, i said depend what alright you are talking about.Then he said okay , bc i had a nightmare. Link to post Share on other sites
lilyblue Posted November 27, 2011 Share Posted November 27, 2011 That's what's happened to ustio in the past I suppose. We forgot why we broke up and only remembered the good things and ended up back together. I really can't see that happening again this time though. For me, the attraction is dead. He's a very attractive man but I just lost it this time around. No desire to even kiss him. Friends is working out fine though. In general we dont hang out often one on one, but we have. We share a group of friends and it's nice to still be able to share that. We text/email a few times a week, but I don't even give it a second thought if I don't hear from him for a week or two. I think it works this time because we both were dissatisfied with each other in a relationship, but not in a friendship. I'm glad to still have him in my life. Link to post Share on other sites
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