confused&inneed Posted May 26, 2004 Share Posted May 26, 2004 I like my friend we have known each other for just over a year, we have several classes together in college and we hang out after school a couple times a week. So i see him pretty much all the time. I have developed feelings for him over the past month or so. He has even given me his high school ring. Yet he says that he doesn't like anyone when our others friends ask who he likes. We have talked about dating in the general sense and he says that he dated a friend once and he will never do that again. I am really confused I like him but i don think that he likes me. My one friend says that she thinks that he does. But what do i do??? He doesn't date friends and i think my feelings are kind of obvious. Link to post Share on other sites
tegteg Posted May 26, 2004 Share Posted May 26, 2004 Well in this type of situation sometimes its best to let it ride and see were he's willing to take it.... Give him a lil more obivise signs... Ask your friends to keep an ear out but dont ask any thing.... The girl i posed about earlyer i waited 2 yrs for the right time.... 1 you know he dont like to date friends - I say keep hangin out with him and doing things with him it aint hurtin nothin is it? 2 You like him and he may NOT know you like him - Sometimes you have to tell some of us retards directly what and how you feel cause most the time were in our own lil world.... 3 You dont want to loose the friendship - Then you may have to keep it all to yourself and just still be "friends"... But if all this is 2 confusing and you dont want to play around anymore, then just sit him down one day and just casually ask him, would you like to go out on a date..... But if you dont thats ok i understand and respect your feeligns.... HTH..... DG Link to post Share on other sites
confused&innneed Posted May 28, 2004 Share Posted May 28, 2004 Tegteg: I get what you saying. I dont want to lose the friendship. I would rather be friends with him than not have him around at all. My one friends says that she thinks that he likes me. But i dont know. We goof around saying that we want each other, at first i had no feeling in it, but now i have some hidden trueth behind it. We hung out last night for the most part by our selves, then our girl friend (that i spoke of above) goned latter in the night. I can talk to him about almost every thing. I will probably just sit back and see what happens. I dont know. Thank you for your words of wisdom Link to post Share on other sites
ockey53 Posted May 28, 2004 Share Posted May 28, 2004 This sounds just like my case (but I'm the guy that wants the girl). Take a look at my post titled "Can long-term friends be lovers?" and maybe you can get some ideas that would help your decision. What I plan on doing is to try to convience my friend in dating and try it out. If it doesn't work out, it doesn't work out. But at least I tried it... But I'm not completely sure right now... I would say in your situation to hang out with him more. Really show him that this is beyond friendship. What I usually do to my friend, is I give her a massage. Tell him to lie down in his bed and give him a nice long back massage. I know I love that. This will also give you a chance to "make an impression (haha, I made a funny)" on him with how much you care for him. Use your favorite lotion and take your time. It really doesn't matter if you don't know how to, just go for it. Can you private message over this? I'd like to talk to you over AIM, if you're willing also. Cya soon and good luck. Link to post Share on other sites
Author confused&inneed Posted June 9, 2004 Author Share Posted June 9, 2004 Sorry i don't have aim, but we could email each other if you would like that... sorry it took me so long to respond, things have been crazy. The thing is we are like never alone. We always hand out with our other friend and her boyfriend when he is around(he lives 2 1/2 hours away). The longest we ever are alone is when he brings me home or just picked me up and where heading over to our friends house. we do text message each other a lot. Like last night he called just to tell me that the breakfast club was on and he knows that i like that movie, and then we were off the phone a moment later. He has told me tones of times that he hates talking on the phone and mostly with girls cuz he never knows what to say when he is on the phone with them. We talk a lot in school, in-fact if i don't notice him right away in the caff or if he is in the smoking section at school he will call me over. The sad thing is over memorial weekend he was kissing on our friends friend and it really bugged me... then that following Wednesday he said he liked her, but that he wont date her.... confusing.... i tried to be cool last Friday when we hung out i said why don't you call her up and have her hang with the three of us, and he said no... Maybe i should just move on... Link to post Share on other sites
tegteg Posted June 9, 2004 Share Posted June 9, 2004 confused&inneed: Well this sounds all good and what not... But now that you seen him kissin on another girl, but yet says that he isnt into her, i would watch it for this one... But then again, he may fig that since he aint with no one it is not hurtin nothin.... Alone time i belive will bring you 2 closer and maybe even together.... But dont try and "make" things happen... Usually things will happen on there own... U know? Just keep giving him lil hints, and teaseing may also work... Im doin this with my EX right now... hehehe (but im mean) just have fun with it... And TRY and not let it bug you soo much... Try not to look at all the "bad" things and take the good out of what has or is happeing... That way your not in a confusion state of mide........ Its easy to see the bad things that happen but yet all the good things around you may be blind to... O and being "good things" may NOT always be good to YOU but good for what may happen later on... Think of it like.... Thinking ahead.............. HTH DG Link to post Share on other sites
Author confused&inneed Posted June 11, 2004 Author Share Posted June 11, 2004 I will try... Thank you for all that you have said. It has given me alot to think about No matter what i want him to be happy even if it is not with me... Link to post Share on other sites
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