Samantha16 Posted May 26, 2004 Share Posted May 26, 2004 My bf left his cell at my house and I went through the "calls recieved" list (I know, I know, Its bad) but there it was....her name and number...the girl he fooled around with when we broke up...the girl who talked trash about me to him...the girl who was with the man that told me he loved me for 3 years. The call was from over a month ago (when we were broken up) but seeing her name stirred so many emotions. I feel sick to my stomach. I know I can't take it out on him, but why do I want to go and make him feel like sh*t? I know why, it's because I feel like sh*t. I wish we had never broken up so I wouldn't have to feel these emotions. I almost forgot about it all. But there it was, in my face. I feel so sad and disgusting right now. I don't even want to look at him. I hate jealousy. Link to post Share on other sites
Pyrannaste Posted May 26, 2004 Share Posted May 26, 2004 there are practical reasons for not snooping along with moral ones I suggest to concentrate on the fact that the last phone conversation they had was a whole month ago...... when he was not with you. He really stopped contact. Concentrate about the fact that there are no more recent call: something to be happy about! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Samantha16 Posted May 26, 2004 Author Share Posted May 26, 2004 Yeah I know. I just talked to my friend and said that saying "He's with you now." or " You're so much better than her anyway", all that stuff just aient going to help right now. I just need to vent. It happened and I can't change the past. It just REALLY REALLY REALLY SUCKS!!! You know? Link to post Share on other sites
She's Come Undone Posted May 26, 2004 Share Posted May 26, 2004 Take comfort that she obviously was not what he wanted. He came back to you/or took you back and that speaks volumes. She talked trash about you...he obviously cares about you or he would have believed her and let you go. Now you need to let go of something that happened when you were not with him. The past is just that, look forward to your future together!! Link to post Share on other sites
Pyrannaste Posted May 26, 2004 Share Posted May 26, 2004 I just need to vent. It happened and I can't change the past. It just REALLY REALLY REALLY SUCKS!!! You know? I know well because I've been there.... I have big problems letting go of things that belong to the past, and right now I'm risking a big break up with my bf of three years because of this. (in my case it was something that hurt me that happened while I was with my bf and not while we were apart, but I'm sure the feeling is the same) This is why I recommend you concentrate on the fact that it happened time ago, and that you were not together at the time. Think that this girl means nothing to him now. he is not contacting her at all. I suggest you don't talk with your bf about this call record you found on his phone. -You would have to admit you snooped (which might perhaps upset him) -He would feel like it is unjust you get angry at him..... he'd feel bad for your being upset at him while he has done nothing he should not do while he was in a relationship with you. -there is really nothing he can do that he is not already doing(not contacting her) to make you feel better, so he'd feel helpless. Trust me, if you tell him about it you'd end up feeling even worse. You must be strong about this...... jealousy is bad, and difficult to overcome:( Something that works for me in similar cases is talking about your feelings with a close friend......cry, yell, swear at that girl, whatever while you are with a supportive girlfriend. When you are feeling a bit better (even feeling tired would work) do something nice for yourself..... cuddle yourself..... then sleep on it...... Next days try to chase these thoughts away....or better try to keep away from them. Try-hard as you can- not indulge in that kind of thoughts. best of luck to you. Link to post Share on other sites
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