Saw a girl, have got to meet her.

[cml0421]

I'm a college student and in one of my classes I saw this girl and she was absolutely gorgeous. She looked like she was sitting next to one of her friends and another guy. Her and the guy appeared to be just friends. I sort of stalked her after class just to see if she was meeting a boyfriend or something. Just judging her by her looks, I would think she would have one. But I didn't see any guys that she met up with. This doesn't mean she doesn't have a boyfriend, but it's all I have to go off of. I have to find a way to at least talk to her. The problem is, I only have two weeks before the end of the semester, and I'm bad at talking to girls as it is. I can be pretty shy around people I don't know. And around girls that I like I'm even worse. Someone help me please! What should I do to at least talk to her?!

[WhiteChocolate]

I feel a bit sorry for you. Anyhow...

 

Sorry if I'm a bit harsh about being shy; I used to be quite shy myself. However, I have worked hard on becoming more outgoing and gaining experience meeting people, and you know what? People don't bite. They are just as anxious about meeting you as you meeting them.

 

That said, how to talk to her? Just go up to her one day, introduce yourself, and say, "Hey I'm gonna study for the final at the local Starbucks later, you should come. My treat." Then smile and give her your e-mail or phone #. Don't talk about Facebook at all. And don't compliment her.

 

Of course this will only work if you got the right attitude, because if she is really gorgeous she gets hit on all the time. And you only have a 0.01% chance of success even if you are hot.

 

And even if you fail/succeed, you really should work on approaching people in general. Make some friends. Even some female friends. They don't have to be close, just acquaintances. Put yourself in situations where you have to develop social skills to not embarrass yourself. Trust me; you will be a better person for it.

[spopov27]

First of all, all men are capable of talking to and attracting beautiful girls. The only difference is that some embrace it well and some hide it behind a wall of shame and low self-esteem. For you to ever have a good chance with this girl or any girl you like, you must change your mentality to that of a man of high value. Im going to tell you how to do that. Im not gonna give you some lines to say or tell you to just 'be more confident.' Im going to teach you how to change the way you see things so you automatically exude confidence and all the right vibes with girls.

 

It's clear to me that you don't see yourself as very high value. I can tell that deep down you feel as if you are inferior to this girl and that you don't have a chance with her. This is not true at all, it's only in your own mind. You are putting her 'on a pedestal' which means you basically think she is a goddess and you are just some shy guy with no way of talking to her. This is false because as I said before all men have the potential to attract beautiful women. If they didn't then your ancestors would never have survived for hundreds of thousands of years to pass on their genes to you.

 

You need to start believing that you have high value, which means that you are worth a lot to the world and you are worth a lot to women that you approach. Why should you do this? Because you are in fact worth a lot to this girl or any other girl you approach. Firstly, you have a penis. That means that regardless of its size or of your perceived sexual performance, you have the ability to give her the sexual experience of a lifetime. You also

have the potential to give her the emotional experience of a lifetime if you were to adopt this high-value frame of mind.

 

So the secret behind getting this frame of mind is starting to see things in a very positive, slightly arrogant way. You weren't stalking her, you were gracing her with your presence. You don't have to talk to her, SHE has to talk to YOU otherwise SHE is missing out. SHE is the one who only has two weeks left to meet YOU. When you approach her you are qualifying her. YOU are screening HER for qualities that YOU want in a girl. You are seeing

if she has what it takes to IMPRESS YOU. Because you are a MAN who can GIVE HER WHAT SHE NEEDS. Forget trying to 'do the right thing' or say the right things to win her affection.

SHE has to win your affection! You are a man of high value and if she doesn't have the qualities YOU desire, you will not stick around.

 

You must stop following her around like a creeper. You must step up and approach her. If you approach her from a frame of mind of high value you will naturally act the right way because you are NOT TRYING TO WIN HER OVER. That's the key. Trying to get her affection will never work. Not in a million years. Trust me. That's why a**holes get all the girls. Not because

they are mean to girls, but because they are cocky which means they apporach all situations from this frame of mind of high value. You don't need to become an a-hole to get girls. You just need this frame of mind. There is a difference between treating people badly and thinking of yourself as high worth or high value. Once you fully grasp all these concepts you will know what to do.

 

Thanks for reading this behemoth of a post and I hope it helps you.

 

PS- i will give you some lines if you absolutely need them, but think hard about what I've said here first.

Edited November 29, 2011 by spopov27
fixed paragraph format issues

[cml0421]

I appreciate both of you and your advice. I promise I am going to take all of it to heart. But I will admit spopov27, it will be hard to make such a drastic change like that. But I will try. And just for the hell of it, I'd take some of those lines if the offer still stands