pharrigan210 Posted November 29, 2011 Share Posted November 29, 2011 Two 40-plus adults having a relationship. fairly new. still only a few months old. man basically compells the woman to retell a sexual adventure she's had in the past. woman finally agrees. they share a story from their past. woman tells man that in her young 20s she slept with her bf's best friend, and it was more or less under her bf's nose. LOADS of questions! 1. I have very mixed feelings. On one hand, it sounds hot, exciting. Long time ago. she was a kid. she was desired. i like hearing that. i begged for the story! twister her arm to telling me the story. but i still don't really love the stroy for obvious reasons. odd to have mixed feelings? 2. do most 40-plus women, even the the most morally upstanding, have a few such stories hidden away in the closet. 3. most men accept the fact that their women has a past. they know about bfs, they probably assume there's been one night stands. but do most women have an over the top story or two that their husbands/bf don't know about or wouldn't want to know about. 4. being with a bf/gf's friend. this may sound terrible, but i actually think hooking up with a bf/gf's friend is common in high school or college. its a dangerous mix - fondess, perhaps attaction and alcohol. i know of people that have done it. is this sorta thing common? doesn't make it right. but is it common? 5. I'd love to ask her what "slept with" means in the this instance? bad idea? 6. is what she did a typical college one night stand? or WAY over the top??? Link to post Share on other sites
RiverRunning Posted November 29, 2011 Share Posted November 29, 2011 Lots of people cheat, so her story isn't that shocking. But it's time to stop asking questions. I get the vague idea that some part of you might be a bit jealous about this. Curious too, for sure, and even a bit turned on. But going down this road is going to sabotage what the two of you have in the present. You don't need to hear about stories of her past. Because one day when you're pulling out a whip in the bedroom, you're going t recall that story about a time she was whipping an ex-boyfriend...and suddenly your arousal will crash and hit the floor. Not guaranteed, but that's often the case. Men more often deal with RJ. Find fictional fantasies to explore with her. Those will be much safer for your relationship. Link to post Share on other sites
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