EC Posted May 26, 2004 Share Posted May 26, 2004 [font=courier new][/font][color=violet][/color]Well it all starteda while ago when I met this guy Eric. He was my first and my first love. I fell in love comletely and gave him my mind, body and soul. I thought i was getting the same. We went out for like 7 months and then I found out he had to move and I would have to endure a long distance relationship. I swore everything was going to be ok becuase when your in love and its real everything will work out. Boy was I wrong. Things went sour and to make a long story short I was broken hearted and cheated on and I was really crushed. About a year later I met another guy name Sean. We went out for a while and he fell madly inlove with me and well I stayed with him because of pity and because i didnt want him to go through what I went through when I was told I wasnt wanted anymore. Eventually I couldnt take it anymore and realized what I was doing wasnt healthy and we broke up. I still called him once in a while because the break up was really hard on him and he was going through tough times in his life. I considered getting back together but quickly changed my mind and realized what I was doing was for the best. Unfortunately, I was shocked to find out he was murdered and I'm still not over it. I'm still going to therapy. This story doesnt deal with long distnace but I have to write so that you can understand where Im coming from. Its been months now and I have met a great guy. we've been seeing eachother for about 4 months now and I'm in heaven. He treats me great and I feel like if im falling for the first time. But hes only in my town for three months and hes leaving back to college which is 8 hours away from me and I don't think I can deal with it. Not only have I gone through a lot but Ive done the long distance thing and im tramautized. Everytime we are together and he leaves I cant help but think in 3 months hell be leaving for good. I cant even enjoy the times we have together cuz im constantly worrying. Am i setting myself up for heartbreak and depression again? Or should I even bother? please help. Link to post Share on other sites
SD_Sniper Posted May 29, 2004 Share Posted May 29, 2004 First, I'll say, whatever decision you make, I wish you well. I imagine this will be hard to read but here goes: You are setting yourself up for another heartbreak. Long-Distance relationships CAN work. But rarely. You sound like a very loving person, and well, being a man myself, I can tell you that men fall into three categorys: Want to screw, Want to be friend and only just, and the third: They really do love you. My advice is to take it slow. My current GF and I have been together for six years, and we had our first kiss only recently. Slow down some, and you might just find a guy that will stick with it in the long run....... Link to post Share on other sites
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