PithyWorld Posted November 30, 2011 Share Posted November 30, 2011 I was wondering if my problem is normal, or if I should seek help for it. When I don't see my girlfriend for at least 2 days each week for an extended period of time (3 weeks usually) I start feeling neglected, and depressed. Even though I know she loves me, I yearn to see her. This has led to fights, and an almost near break up a few days ago. Her job is demanding (and crappy might I add.), although, luckily it's becoming a little bit better lately. She puts in an 8 hour day, eats, then works. If she is lucky she is done by 10 pm. We use to hang out on Wednesday, and Sunday/Saturday but now it's only Sunday for around 4 hours. It has been this way for around 3 months now. Because of her job our only communication has been email and text. (Text only consist of How was your day_____ answer, and good night usually) Lately I have been depressed, and have had an intense yearning to see her. Sometimes it has manifested itself in a form of anger/passive aggression. Another tidbit that might be important, I am very stressed at the moment because of my job. I come home every night overloaded. I just want to close my blinds and turn off my lights, but my house is very hectic, and chaotic. Link to post Share on other sites
neowulf Posted November 30, 2011 Share Posted November 30, 2011 It's natural to miss the people we care for when they're not around. That parts normal. The part where you and your girlfriend seem to be struggling to make space in your lives for each other.. not so much. Life won't always be roses. Often couples are forced into some pretty rough situations, where they just have to knuckle down and get through. The whole point of being a healthy couple is being about to lean on *each other* for support. Your girlfriend sounds like the strong, independent type. Which is why she's just put her head down and tried to power through this. You're struggling with depression, so that makes you a little more "needy" than usual. Best bet would be to just sit down with your girlfriend and explain that despite being busy, you want to make more time for each other, while accepting that you're not going to have it all your way. Link to post Share on other sites
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