packersgirl Posted May 27, 2004 Share Posted May 27, 2004 Ok folks... I need some advice. I've been reading through some posts and have seen some great advice, so I'm hoping to find some for myself!!! There's this guy I really like. I absolutely adore him, he's amazing, funny, cute, he can make me smile just by looking at me, and best of all, we click so well it blows me away. I've known him for just about a year now, but didn't start getting to actually know him until about six months ago. I work with him, and was completely excited to start getting to know him outside of work, I've always enjoyed being around him. I didn't start falling for this guy until about two months ago. However, there is one slight problem... He and his cousins are pretty close, they hang out with each other all the time. One of his cousins really likes me, well he did as of a few months ago. He's always been back and forth with his feelings for me and I never know where he stands. Which sucks for me, and I'd ask but I don't want to get into that conversation with him. Its happened before where a girl this guy likes fell for the guy that I now like, and it crushed him. I've become real good friends with this guy, both guys actually, but the last thing I want to do is ruin a great friendship and possibly cause family tension... I've tossed and turned about telling the guy I like how I feel. I'm starting to get signals that he's interested as well (you know, the smiles when I walk through the door, the constant sticking to my side, laughing at my jokes which aren't at all funny, calling me for random reasons, waiting for me to get back just to say bye, ect...), but everytime I get the urge to tell him, I imagine crushing one of my best friends and losing a valuable friendship, and maybe not even getting a chance with the guy I like. What should I do? Link to post Share on other sites
tegteg Posted May 27, 2004 Share Posted May 27, 2004 IMO i say just ask him... flat out..... If your 2 worried bout loosing a friendship with one cause you like or want the other then its up to you to decide if you can handle that... And since you prob dont know cause you havnt gone through it befor your scared of what might happen or as i like to call it the "Unknown"..... If you dont want to loose either of them and just keep them as friends and play it safe then do so... But dont turn around later and start asking yourself the "what ifs"...... If i was you this is what i would do.... When the 2 of you are alone, ask him 1 is he into you? 2 if so would he like to go out with you? 3 does he think it would casue to much of a prob between them and you if you 2 went out. If so then its up to him IMO..... Cause you cant please every 1 in this world.... I kinda had the samething happen with my ex and her sisters... HTH and GL..... DG Link to post Share on other sites
Author packersgirl Posted May 28, 2004 Author Share Posted May 28, 2004 Thanks for your advice. I'm definently leaning more towards telling him, I have @ least three people, including my step-mom, encouraging me to ask him out. I had a chat with the cousin that likes/liked me last night. I already think he kinda knows, but is just waiting for me to tell him. Everytime he brings the guy I like up, he looks at my face to get a reaction. Plus he promised me that nothing and no person, no matter who they were could come between our friendship. So that took a load off my mind! Its so true about not being able to please everyone! I have friends telling me that all the time! Hehe, well thanks again! I don't know if I'll get the guts to actually make that first move, but I hope I do because I really like this guy! Link to post Share on other sites
tegteg Posted May 28, 2004 Share Posted May 28, 2004 PAckersgirl: Well either way GL i hope everything works out for you..... L8R DG Link to post Share on other sites
Author packersgirl Posted May 29, 2004 Author Share Posted May 29, 2004 well, things have taken a turn, and I'm not sure yet if its for the best or the worst. either way, i really need some help here on what to do, because i'm at a complete loss... wednesday night, i was hanging out with the guy who really likes me but i feel nothing for. he and i were talking, and he knew i was keeping a secret from him and he was trying to figure it out. to make a long story short... i eventually told him that i was falling for his cousin. he lead me to believe that he was ok with anything i told him and that i should go for it with any guy i like, and that if i was happy, he was happy. he told me all those things but that was a bunch of bull. he sent me a text yesterday saying that we need to talk about this face to face, and since i'm out of town this weekend, i have to wait till i get home. he's freaking out, and i may have wounded our friendship. that sucks because i consider him one of my best friends... the new problem i now face, other than a possibly ruined friendship, is the fact that he might let it slip to his cousin (the guy i like) and ruin a chance.. if i even have one. i hate being between a rock and a hard place... what should i do now? Link to post Share on other sites
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