beefolive Posted December 1, 2011 Share Posted December 1, 2011 Ive posted before on the site about breaking up with my now ex gf at the start of july. I thought i was getting better, i wasnt thinking about her as much...I was getting out and thought i was taking back my life. Thing is, rthe last few weeks i feel myself thinking about her more and more, almost slipping backwards. I have been NC with her for 6 weeks now and there have been occasions when ive almost broken and either text or called. I wondered if anyone has any advice, of course there is a part of me that still loves her and misses her but i realise i cannot be with her. If she had wanted anything or even to speak to me she would have. Im just finding it hard to move on Link to post Share on other sites
swann Posted December 1, 2011 Share Posted December 1, 2011 6 weeks of NC is a very short time, it's normal to feel like this. A part of you has realised that she's gone, and that's positive. Stick to NC and look for support on this site; we are all experiencing the same pain, let's try to comfort each other Link to post Share on other sites
davesterr Posted December 1, 2011 Share Posted December 1, 2011 like a drug addict those times when you almost break and contact her are called withdrawal symptons. just like an addicts , your ex is your drug since you can no longer be together. that means reaching out to her has no good benefits for you. unless u broke up on good terms and in the future can become friends again. for now stay away because like any addicts knows. using a drug once after 6 weeks will put you back to square one. craving her attention like you crave to get high. just stick to your routine and do whatever it takes to improve ur life. the happier ul become in life the less u desire her to make u happy. Link to post Share on other sites
bbronco Posted December 1, 2011 Share Posted December 1, 2011 6 weeks NC is so good! I'm at 3 weeks and I feel so impressed with myself haha I would agree though, those moments where it just deeply hits you are the worst. For me it's actually when I'm distracted with friends on a trip or at dinner or anywhere really that I feel like wishing me ex was with me to experience it. Or how I'd rather be enjoying myself with my ex than at that moment with my friends. But thankfully, I do have my friends there to enforce NC...except for the few times I manage to escape unsupervised! It honestly will eat you up for a few days at a time where the urge and heartache is as fresh as the morning after, but then it passes. Until a mutual friend brings them up, or hangs out with them, or you bump into their friends haha...you just have to stay firm and def. getting angry helps. Why be the first to text when they're perfectly capable of reaching out? If he/she hasn't, then you better not either! If they make it through the day without communicating to you then don't bother flattering them! Link to post Share on other sites
Author beefolive Posted December 3, 2011 Author Share Posted December 3, 2011 I agree, Its just easier said that done. I think its because it eneded on her terms. I guess maybe i want her more knowing i cant have her. What makes it worse is she never spoke to me about any of it, i guess it was her way of coping but she refused to talk to me about anything. She also got with a new guy within two weeks and is with him now. Kinda tough but who am i to criticise her way of dealing with things, she is obviously in a better place than i am. Link to post Share on other sites
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