Help with my relationship circles...

[Azaroth]

I love this girl,

 

 

dating for about 7 months - 1 month apart cuz i got tired of it not going ne place (didn't talk) - a month later, we get a relationship - 2 weeks after that, she says summers would be to far apart....

 

reasons to break of:

Things on the way of getting boring, cuz we know each other so well

she did long distance relationships before and they don't work out

she has a lot of problems after her roommate from the year

to hard, and barely see each other cuz we work like 7 days a week

my time is flexiable

 

she says she is not looking to hook up with other people, just make it easier on the both of us..

 

we got in several fights about us, and she said she really needs me as a friend and wants -

 

I just don't know what to do, i love this girl

and back uped up a lot - this week and she was like something wrong, your not talking ne more - i am worried there might be something wrong.. i told her everything was fine and she asked me if somehting wasn't you will tell me i was like prolly.... (meaning i wouldn't but she thought prolly yeah i would)

 

i asked her when we get back to school will we get back together, and she was like i don't want to say yes and have it engraved with stone...

 

 

what would you od in this situation?

what should i do?

what to do?

[packersgirl]

I think you should take the summer apart. You said it yourself, you two know each other so well that things are boring. I actually have a friend like that... he's one of my best friends. I love the guy so much, but we know each other so well that when we hang out, we have nothing to talk about... Not being able to see one another is going to put an additional strain on any relationship, I've seen marriages go bad because of that. If neither of you have the time for a relationship, then perhaps you shouldn't be in one. She said that she really needs you as a friend. She still wants you in her life , and if you can prove yourself to be her best friend, then the chances of her wanting to get back together are greater. Besides, relationships are stronger when the foundation of a friendship has been set in place. Just remember that absence makes the heart grow fonder.

[Azaroth]

Yeah sometimes, we have nothing to talk about, but it's weird our situation... I had a dream years ago about this one particular girl.. .blonde hair short... wearing read -- but another dream the next day had a color which is her favorite color.... and i couldn't make out the face... but i noticed a beauty mark above her butt... and that was the girl of my dreams when i was in 8th grade.... I remember it so clearing... well to make it short the girl i am dating short, blonde hair, and sure enough had the beauty mark above her butt...

 

maybe this all just happen and luck of things.. but it's weird how things work out...

but you are right... i lvoe the girl to death, but she makes things more difficult .. and i understand things are getting complicated

 

but how do i be a friend? I only knew her since we started dating - first night we hung out we hooked up drunk.... and after that been hooking up since then.. she is the shy type i am outgoing she says, but what is my role to make more conversation? i don't know a thing - i just know most of the conversation was b/c of me

 

 

 

thanks so much for your input, it helps a lot

 

 

and i txted her this mroning and she called me back when she got back from running.... or later on around noon....

 

we were suppose to hang out tonight, but we barely spoke this weekend - just b/c i didn't want to and she thought she did something wrong, i assured her that she did nothing wrong and i am not mad just a lot of things going on... doing a lot of hours at work and too tired to really talk during some of hte nights....

 

hope that was enough

 

ne way thanks again...

if you have any comments please do - it helps!

 

Az

[packersgirl]

Well darlin', sometimes dreams mean nothing. I once had a dream that I saw a plane crash.. I saw the numbers on the plane and everything. And you know what? The very next day I saw the exact same plane fly by. Dreams are weird like that. Honestly, don't read too much into it now, it could just have meant that you were going to date her one day...

 

Theres this one guy who likes me. He's totally cute, I love him to death, but he's two years younger than I am. Age doesn't matter to me. As long as their legal, we're good to go (he just turned 18 too). But the fact of the matter is, his maturity level is a lot lower than I expected. And I can't in my right mind consider dating him. He makes everything so freaking difficult! EVERYTHING!!! So I completely understand where you're coming from with this difficult thing, it sucks, huh? The world would be better if everyone thought just like I do... haha!

 

Being a friend to her may be hard, but it'll be the best investment you'll ever make. Though, it doesn't help that you hooked up with her, drunk, the first night you met. Being a friend involves listening, caring, showing compassion, and being there when she needs you. Pretty much all the work of being in a relationship without the perks. Plus being a friend means you can't get jealous either, you show your happy side and be honest with her about everything. Friends are not fake! I'm a shy girl, but if I'm comfortable around someone I will open up. As I'm sure she will...

 

Don't force hang outs. Be spontaneous. My best friend and I never plan anything. We find that our most productive and best times hanging out are when we are completely spontaneous. Thats how it is with all my friends actually. If you plan something, it falls through, 90% of the time. Just make sure you don't forget about her, and I'm sure you won't. Send her texts at random times saying hi, call her up when you can... girls usually like little things along those lines.

 

I hope I helped. If you need anything else, let me know!!!