setsenia Posted December 1, 2011 Share Posted December 1, 2011 Anyone have relatives who freak out over everything you say on social networking sites? I know you have to watch what you say, but my posts are no more offensive than anyone else's and for some reason, it's only my relatives who freak out about it, not my friends. I think it's a huge double standard, because everyone else can say what they want, but I have this unfortunate luck of in laws bitching about everything we say and do. I'm on the borderline of deleting facebook because we've had so many problems and relatives "cutting us off over facebook" within the last year. Anyone have a similar problem or suggestions? Link to post Share on other sites
Kinder-Horror Posted December 3, 2011 Share Posted December 3, 2011 I have definitely had some horror stories - and some relationships with family members that will never be the same over something dumb on facebook that wasn't even directed at them. Honestly - the best advice is to change your privacy settings. Don't allow them to see your status updates (it is really quite easy to change now). They may notice and say something to you - but you can brush it off, say that you have blocked everyone from it or only let your best friends see. Or you can shut off your wall completely to them (so they can only see your info and message you) and say that you don't like the wall feature. I have had friends who have genuinely done that because they don't like having people write something on their wall without being there to monitor it. It isn't the most convenient, but with social networking comes a whole new wave of privacy issues and there are always a couple family members who just don't get it yet. Sometimes it's best to cut them off from seeing anything rather than risk unnecessary drama. Link to post Share on other sites
Author setsenia Posted December 3, 2011 Author Share Posted December 3, 2011 Good points! I've blocked them from status updates, my issue is they see my activity on other peoples pages and facebook groups and pages. The activity that appears right above your chat. That's how one of my relatives found me and something I said. I'm not sure how to disable that. Link to post Share on other sites
taiko Posted December 3, 2011 Share Posted December 3, 2011 Since Facebook is always on and I am not hidden by a username and avatar what goes out is a reflection upon my family and how I was raised. I know I cant be as honest and open because all of the sudden instead of just knowing about a person who was a compulsive gambler and may have turned a few tricks in her life you now know X lost her husband, gambled too much and worked as a sex worker. Link to post Share on other sites
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