SelfCentered Posted December 2, 2011 Share Posted December 2, 2011 (edited) You are amazing. I'll say this again: You are amazing. You had redeemable qualities that made you stand out in the first place, which attracted your ex partner to you and made them stay with you. You still have those qualities! At the moment you can't see them. You feel depressed and rejected. I know this because I'm going through what you're going through too. But the past few days have showed me that- under the right circumstances and with the right people- I can still be and feel like my old self. I know at first it can be hard to figure out which way to turn and life just feels like it's spun out of control. But I promise you, those grey clouds will make way for blue skies. Time will heal the rest of the doubt. I will grow stronger from this, and eventually that old self which I've seen glimpses of recently will return permanently. This is true for you too. You've all achieved in your life. Look around you, recognise these achievements. They are what made you a fantastic person to be in love with in the first place! Forgive the cliché but it's true. Life is a journey and these problems are just road blocks. But you can drive right through them! Don't like that metaphor? Fine. Life is a flight and these problems are just a little bit of turbulence. Say a prayer and brave your way through them. What I'm saying is, you have wonderful aspects to your personalities. You MUST start to see this. Use them to punch your way through the depression, the resentment, the lamentation. Is it easy? Hell no! It's hard, it's going to be hard. But you will get there! The human race didn't get to the top of the food chain doing things the easy way! I'm guessing the few who read this far will be thinking: * Heard it all before * This isn't new advice * My situation is different * You can't know how I feel And you know? You're right. This isn't new advice. Type in "how to deal with a breakup" on Google and this will be plastered everywhere in some capacity. Friends, family, doctors, co-workers, the guy behind the bar....They will all say similar things. And every breakup is a little bit different from the last. If this wasn't the case, after the first we would be immune to the pain. But it is the best advice you can have right now. YOU. ARE. AMAZING. You're incredible, funny, witty, intelligent, hard-working, inspirational, loyal, beautiful, sexy et al! I respect each and every one of you and there's nothing you can do about it. Let's support one another, but let's also support ourselves by simply recognising how great we are. Thank you. Edited December 2, 2011 by SelfCentered Link to post Share on other sites
JFReyes Posted December 2, 2011 Share Posted December 2, 2011 Thank you! Link to post Share on other sites
fenderjames Posted December 2, 2011 Share Posted December 2, 2011 xoxoxoxoxoxoxoxo Link to post Share on other sites
swann Posted December 2, 2011 Share Posted December 2, 2011 Thank you Selcentered. This is exactly the positive attitudine that we need. Let's try to support each other and see what the future holds for us... Link to post Share on other sites
stunned8165 Posted December 2, 2011 Share Posted December 2, 2011 You are amazing. I'll say this again: You are amazing. You had redeemable qualities that made you stand out in the first place, which attracted your ex partner to you and made them stay with you. You still have those qualities! At the moment you can't see them. You feel depressed and rejected. I know this because I'm going through what you're going through too. But the past few days have showed me that- under the right circumstances and with the right people- I can still be and feel like my old self. I know at first it can be hard to figure out which way to turn and life just feels like it's spun out of control. But I promise you, those grey clouds will make way for blue skies. Time will heal the rest of the doubt. I will grow stronger from this, and eventually that old self which I've seen glimpses of recently will return permanently. This is true for you too. You've all achieved in your life. Look around you, recognise these achievements. They are what made you a fantastic person to be in love with in the first place! Forgive the cliché but it's true. Life is a journey and these problems are just road blocks. But you can drive right through them! Don't like that metaphor? Fine. Life is a flight and these problems are just a little bit of turbulence. Say a prayer and brave your way through them. What I'm saying is, you have wonderful aspects to your personalities. You MUST start to see this. Use them to punch your way through the depression, the resentment, the lamentation. Is it easy? Hell no! It's hard, it's going to be hard. But you will get there! The human race didn't get to the top of the food chain doing things the easy way! I'm guessing the few who read this far will be thinking: * Heard it all before * This isn't new advice * My situation is different * You can't know how I feel And you know? You're right. This isn't new advice. Type in "how to deal with a breakup" on Google and this will be plastered everywhere in some capacity. Friends, family, doctors, co-workers, the guy behind the bar....They will all say similar things. And every breakup is a little bit different from the last. If this wasn't the case, after the first we would be immune to the pain. But it is the best advice you can have right now. YOU. ARE. AMAZING. You're incredible, funny, witty, intelligent, hard-working, inspirational, loyal, beautiful, sexy et al! I respect each and every one of you and there's nothing you can do about it. Let's support one another, but let's also support ourselves by simply recognising how great we are. Thank you. So true. Great post. And to add, eventually, the ones who damaged us, wil remember why they fell in love with us and miss it. Too bad for them Link to post Share on other sites
Anna84 Posted December 2, 2011 Share Posted December 2, 2011 THIS IS NICE! xx Link to post Share on other sites
sunflower11 Posted December 2, 2011 Share Posted December 2, 2011 Great way to start off the day..specially after a bad night of dreaming about him :S thanks! Link to post Share on other sites
Lis007 Posted December 2, 2011 Share Posted December 2, 2011 Thank you xxx Link to post Share on other sites
Million.to.1 Posted December 2, 2011 Share Posted December 2, 2011 You are amazing. You're incredible, funny, witty, intelligent, hard-working, inspirational, loyal, beautiful, sexy et al! That is what my ex said to me when he left me. He is right. I am amazing! ...I just need to remember it. Link to post Share on other sites
Author SelfCentered Posted December 3, 2011 Author Share Posted December 3, 2011 You're all very welcome! And you know, I'm no expert. Maybe I typed that out more for my benefit at first, as it's something I want to remind myself repeatedly over the next few days and weeks! And for those of you that like to hear such messages in rock music, check this out when you're feeling down! Link to post Share on other sites
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