RedAndBlue Posted December 2, 2011 Share Posted December 2, 2011 Hey all, It's been a long time since I've been on here. Had some troubles back in the day and this site was great to help get me through. Anyway, a friend of mine was separated a few years back and her divorce has just been finalized. She's having a hard time with the holidays and I remember a post that I saw many years ago. I'd like to send her a link to it, but I'm really having trouble finding it. It was a very long list of all the things that one has to look forward to once things really are "over". Kind of a "today is the first day of the rest of your life" kind of post. I thought it was by a guy going by "sarge", but can't find any posts by him. This was from back in 2006-2007. Anybody know what I'm talking about? Linkage? I've spent 30 minutes trying to find it with no luck. I'd be thankful for any help! Thanks a ton, BoB Link to post Share on other sites
2.50 a gallon Posted December 2, 2011 Share Posted December 2, 2011 I suspect that the poster you are referring to was Gunny376, it sounds like something that he would post. He was a main stay for years, and had great advice, mostly along the lines of what you referred to and he liked the line from Shawshank of "Get busy living, or get busy dieing" He hasn't posted in about a year now. I found one of his posts and checked out his profile, which says he registered April 2006 and he had over 6,000 posts, far more than the archives of previous posts in his profile will show. Finding the post that you are thinking of would be most difficult to find. You might try a search. Also you might go through his posts that are archived under his profile. You can find him by going to the top of the page and clicking on page 101 and one of his posts is the third one down. Link to post Share on other sites
Gunny376 Posted December 14, 2011 Share Posted December 14, 2011 Its been so long and I've so many post over the years I don't recall the post nor the subject ~ nor even it was me that made the post ~ but getting your head and act together ~ and moving forward in your life has always been a common theme of mine. Four things in life that you should never lose- Hope, Peace, Honesty, Friends Life is what happens when we make other plans. Life is short ~ live it to its top each and everyday. Get busy living, or get busy dying! Most people are just about as happy as they make their minds. What one will abuse another can use! Ultimately when you go through a breakup? It just means you've got to get off your butt and go find yourself someone who appreciates you for who and what you are as you are. These are some of the more common things that I advocate. There are worse things than being single ~ and most of us ~ (myself included) have a harder time going from being in a relationship to being a single ~ than we did going from being single into a relationship. Its like the old song by George Jones, "Its not just because your the pretties girl around, Its not just because your Daddy's the richest man in town, That owns a chain of liqour stores for miles around Its not because you've got a pair of 44DD Its just because I'm used to having you around" Its all relative. Sepeartion and divorce attacts our ego, self image, and self confidence ~ that is if we let it. The truth is? We're still the same person more or less that we've always been except now we've more experience! Most high school ~ twenty something year old boys/men can explain in explicit detail what they're lookng for in their dream car, but don't even have a clue as to what they're looking for in a woman other than that they be naked with a six pack of beer. High school ~ twenty something year old girls / women can give you explicit detail as to what they're looking for in a man/mate. What breakups/seperation/ divorce does is define what one isn't looking for! In explicit detail. Being single isn't so bad. You can come and go as you want, when you want when you want, with who you want. You can spend your money as you damn will want on what you want. I'm not saying its impossible but its hard to go wrong by yourself. You almost have to work at it sometimes. Link to post Share on other sites
worlybear Posted December 14, 2011 Share Posted December 14, 2011 Great advice Gunny! It's made my day reading it- hope everything goes well for you.:bunny: Link to post Share on other sites
Gunny376 Posted December 14, 2011 Share Posted December 14, 2011 Thanks A good book (in paper back availiable at Amazon) is "The Art of Living Single" and it is very much a form of art. Link to post Share on other sites
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