Help with a situation with my Girlfriend

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Hey all, cool site really got some helpful stuff from here. Well I got this little situation, now it has died down a bit, well heres my issue,

Im just curious if any of you got a girl that has a dude as her "best male friend"?

I ask because this is my situation, my girl knows this guy that she says she knew for a long time. Now thats not a problem to me. The one area I believe I keep it cleaned up is that I never asked her if they used to go out. Anywho, when my girl is on the phone with other people, this girl can have quite some vocal volume when she is talking, Her whole mood is like kind of perky like she just like she was chillin with her female friends. BUT, here is the **** that really burns me, when she is talking to this dude on the phone, the first thing I noticed is that she tends to leave the room! I spoke to her about that and she says that he has private things that they talk about!! WHAT THE keep it clean!?! How can I hear what he is saying on the phone? Second, is that when she leaves the room, she talks all low and ****, which is really odd because she only does it with him, and when she is on the phone with someone else, you can hear her word for word. Not like she is generally a loud ass person, but its the way my apartment is designed. The tone in her voice changes as well as the mood, sounds more relaxed, closer to a flertish type of voice. I confronted her about her leaving the room when she talks to this guy on the phone and she says how I do it. TOTAL lie because when I am on the phone, which by the way I rarely am, I dont go anywhere and she always up under me askin me who is calling me on my phone and ****. She says how she is just nosey, I think thats keep it cleanin strange. She says how I say raunchy things to this girl, that we both know from back in high school, when we are talkin online which is not absolutley true, cus first of all, my girl is online with me when this girl messages me and she sees what this girl types to me and she types back some strange **** to her and **** so obviously thats some type of game, so I guess she forgot that she engages in the same damn **** when it happens. Even when i first moved in with her, she had a picture of this guy up on her dresser, now I dont know but that is seriously odd, but i guess its just me. I also found some more pictures of this guy and her, which are like seperate pictures they took, at his appartment, I know its his apartment because the pictures where mailed a while ago from him. So they are not together in any of the pictures. To tell you the truth this whole situation does not sit right with me. Now I am not one to tell a girl not to do something, yet I am always saying that if something happens between her and someone else, some ****s gonna be poppin and she knows that for a fact. Oh and one more thing is that when she is on another room, she is talking away, you can hear her mumbling, BUT when she IS around me when she is talking to the guy, which does not last very long, her sentences are limited to some short answers like uhuh and yep and nope and no and **** like that. Last night she called this dude and apparently he was sleeping, from what she said, and she was acting like she really did not want to get off the phone with this guy, kept on saying bye yet still talking about huh what did you say. This whole situation is really not sitting with me correct anymore, at one point I was able to ignore it but now something is just telling me that something is just not right at all here. What should I do? Because I am seriously out of ideas. Oh and another thing is that I found some pictures of this guy. He mailed them to her a while back. Its like pictures of him then pictures of her. they are not in any pictures together. At the time these pictures where taken was before I moved in with her at our first apartment. But I was already with her for a while at the time now. She even had the sweater on that I got her for christmas. I asked her about it and she first told me that it was when he was going to DC and he stopped by for a couple hours. Then she told me a different story later on when I spoke to her about it again, she said how the pictures where taken at 2 different times. Im like hour one and hour two right? She always told me about her everything that happened to her in a day but somehow she failed to mention that! She keeps swithcin up what she tells me then gets mad at me telling me I dont listen to her which is obviously not true because when I repeat what she says she gets mad when I can say it word for word, and she says how I put words in her mouth. *sigh* im at a loss. If its a game im in then atleast let me know so I dont get totally crushed.

 

Now My girlfriend who I love so very much is going away on an internship, and she will be gone for about 8 weeks. In the back of my mind I keep saying, this girl now has plenty of freedom to talk to this guy. Her talking to her male classmates dont fase me because I know its not like that with them. But man I tell you when I get a gut feeling, Im out to trust it because im just getting a really sick vibe from this situation. Now to add to this now that I think about it, the girl that I mentioned earlier about the messaging thing, she told me how this guy that my girl talks to and him used to go out. Now I didnt wanna believe her because shes pretty much after me. But then I asked my girlfriend about it. Girl number 2 told me that the guy she used to go out with was some tow truck driver or something along those lines and she told me where he was from. I asked my girl and she said that her ex was a tow truck driver yes and that he was from the same place as the guy she speaks too. But the guys she speaks too is or was as well a truck driver. The coincidence is all too damn much for my taste. I wonder if she just wont tell me that the guy she speaks to is her ex because he isnt or because she knows that I wount let it go easily now that she led me into this book of stuff for so long that is now starting to fail because she has not filled in the wholes.

I know I typed allot but I just wanted to get enough info in. If anyone needs any thing answered please let me know.

[Bryanp]

Hello,

 

I have to tell you that what your girlfriend is doing is classic signs of someone who may be cheating. My ex was exactly like this. She would take calls from this guy who she claimed was just one of the girls. She would take the calls in another room and speak in a soft voice. It was only him she would do this to.

The bottom line is she run off with him

 

Another problem I see is that you have been catching her in lies which is very bad. It seems obvious that this guy was her old boyfriend and that they are still connected in some way. The bottom line is that she is totally disrespecting and humiliating you as a boyfriend. The sad part is that she seems to be doing this right under your nose. Always follow your gut because it is usually always correct. The signs are very clear. I am afraid she is doing to you exactly what my ex did to me. The lying is a dead give away. She is way too close to this guy. I feel for you because it looks bad. I wish you luck.