smokey bear Posted December 20, 2011 Share Posted December 20, 2011 You have still handed her so much power. She knows it. Pretend you are dating her and she is ALLOWING another man to communicate with her and keeping it a secret from you. That is her character. Why do you want that kind of woman anyway? You need growth to move forward. Being this focused on what she is or isn't doing isn't healthy or reasonable. If a man was watching me so closely that he stalked me on a website and noticed a bumper sticker on my car - id be creeped out by HiS behavior. She hasn't indicated ONE thing that shows she wants to be with you - accept THAT and move forward. If she wanted you - you would know it - she doesn't! Trust me, he isnt nearly as freakyish stalker style as me PMSL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! And trust me, we arent stupid enough to get caught. What you dont understand is that it is acceptable if you are willing to accept all the hurt and consequences that come to you. We are challenging ourselves, why? Cause we are just not right in the head! HA HA Link to post Share on other sites
smokey bear Posted December 20, 2011 Share Posted December 20, 2011 The Timeline.... Me: Gigs guy lasted 4-5 months Ex: Gigs girl lasted 3.5 months Me: first missed ex at 3 months Ex: First missed me at 2.5 months Me: returned to old friends at 3 months Ex : returned to old friends at 2.5 months Me: broke up with gigs guy for 1 day (went back) ( month 4) Ex: broke up with gigs girl for 1 week (went back) (month 2.5) Me: Intimate (cringe) with ex during gigs guy first break up. 4 month mark (during day long breakup with gigs guy) Ex: Intimate (cringe) with me during first gigs girl break up. 2.5 month mark.(during week long break up with gigs girl) Me: Considered how much I was hurting ex after 5 months Ex: considered how much he was hurting me after 5 months Me: Frantic search for another victim during gigs guy break up (month 5) Ex: Frantic search for another victim during gigs girl break up (month 4) Me:Single for 3 months (month 5-8) Ex: Single for 2 months so far ( Month 4-6) Me: Reached out to gigs guy at 10 weeks post break up lasted approx 3-4weeks (month 7.5) Ex: Reached out to gigs girl at 8 weeks post break up ( month 5.5) (Lasted 7-10days) no intimacy involved, woohoo!!!!!!!!!! Me: Considering my ex (month 8) Ex:................ Me: Back with ex. (start of month 9) Ex:.............. I feel like im going to regret this post, Wilson if your ex has experienced any of these things can you mark a time to them. Remember your ex is 23ish, younger than me and my ex, i do expect her gigs to last longer if the theory on mental maturity is correct, she doesnt seem too far behind though 4 months max. Ok ive got an update for my timeline its in bold in the quote above. Link to post Share on other sites
2sunny Posted December 20, 2011 Share Posted December 20, 2011 How do you know it wont make me happy? This is one person forcing his ideals and beliefs on another, instead of acceptance of this being who I am what I want. This is my story, either accept it or move on. You need to learn the term acceptance. That's why you're here, this is who I am, this is my story, I have declined your advice and youre telling me I wont be happy if I get what I want. Do you not see the problem in this??? Believe me - I know acceptance... I'm sure I'm much older than you... And my experience with this area is vast. You can't see what you don't want to admit... I can't "make you" see what you don't see. Good luck. Link to post Share on other sites
Author wilsonx Posted December 20, 2011 Author Share Posted December 20, 2011 I disagree with the sex thing but we will discuss it if the situation ever arrises for you, its to do with security, rebonding etc. I actually understand the security in this now and with rebounding Link to post Share on other sites
leoc1973 Posted December 20, 2011 Share Posted December 20, 2011 smokey did you notice that even tho wilson said you were wrapped around his finger after he was done "putting you in your place" he made it a point to subconsciously smooth it over by telling you he loved you today! lmao This is getting too good! And one thing you are wrong about is behind ever AVERAGE man is a better woman. Behind ever GREAT man is many women! Link to post Share on other sites
smokey bear Posted December 20, 2011 Share Posted December 20, 2011 I actually understand the security in this now and with rebounding I meant rebonding, to bond again, like i said we will discuss it if the opportunity arrises, Leoc1973, im glad my ex is average then... Link to post Share on other sites
Author wilsonx Posted December 20, 2011 Author Share Posted December 20, 2011 Leoc, you just gave away my secret and men's secret to getting what they want.... =) Link to post Share on other sites
2sunny Posted December 20, 2011 Share Posted December 20, 2011 FYI there's no way of "rebounding" if one side is done and unwilling to participate. Just one side wasting time and energy on another who doesn't intend to go back. Link to post Share on other sites
smokey bear Posted December 21, 2011 Share Posted December 21, 2011 Leoc, you just gave away my secret and men's secret to getting what they want.... =) Thank god noone spilled the woman's secret..... Link to post Share on other sites
leoc1973 Posted December 21, 2011 Share Posted December 21, 2011 Leoc, you just gave away my secret and men's secret to getting what they want.... =) I know I just betrayed manhood! I should be burned at the stake. And Smokey! I think men know womens secret. Its just be as bat sh it crazy till a man just folds and has no fight left in him. Link to post Share on other sites
Author wilsonx Posted December 21, 2011 Author Share Posted December 21, 2011 (edited) I know I just betrayed manhood! I should be burned at the stake. And Smokey! I think men know womens secret. Its just be as bat sh it crazy till a man just folds and has no fight left in him. Here's the thing, you dont have to fight, just acknowledge that shes bat**** crazy and understand her feelings and learn to let go and not let things bother you. This is how you survive women especially bat**** crazy ones like smokey, your and my ex. oh btw, the brakes have been put on for the chase for the time being, Im NIC while smokey and I cyber every night and pretend we are each others' exes. The chase will start up slightly after the holidays after GIGS guy is out of the picture and contact has been made with me. It actually gets pretty erotic in our pms back and forth Edited December 21, 2011 by wilsonx Link to post Share on other sites
leoc1973 Posted December 21, 2011 Share Posted December 21, 2011 Haha pretend your each others ex's? How does she look wilson? Pretty erotic huh? I am just goint to keep my mouth shut and watch you guys end up together somehow. You guys seem to have some crazy chemistry! Did she tell you that that is stage 5a. of gigs. Gigs stage 5e: Go in an online forum and try to figure out why your crazy ex's don't want to be with you right now as you accidentally fall in love with someone you have great chemistry with and a little sexual tension and great comfort. gigs stage 6:acceptance lmao Yep too many drinks and not enough sleep and I am babbling. Yep I am trying to play matchmaker and I want all the dirty details down the line. Link to post Share on other sites
Author wilsonx Posted December 21, 2011 Author Share Posted December 21, 2011 (edited) Its fun, shes a bit kinky once you get her to open up. The only thing that separates us is the Atlantic Ocean. I am a swimmer but I do not think I could swim that length. She actually convinced me that sex is bad right now. I sadly agreed. Edited December 21, 2011 by wilsonx Link to post Share on other sites
leoc1973 Posted December 21, 2011 Share Posted December 21, 2011 Oh she is european? Never mind they don't shave over there do they? Just kidding smokey I know you are gonna read this when you wake up! See us Americans shave and shower every day and we find it repulsive when a girl doesn't... Ok I better stop cause I am gonna regret this when I am sober again. And I don't see anything wrong with a transatlantic no strings attached fling! Seriously thought just kidding ... I know you guys shave and shower... right? Link to post Share on other sites
betterdeal Posted December 21, 2011 Share Posted December 21, 2011 A lady never asks and a gentleman never tells. Link to post Share on other sites
smokey bear Posted December 21, 2011 Share Posted December 21, 2011 I know I just betrayed manhood! I should be burned at the stake. And Smokey! I think men know womens secret. Its just be as bat sh it crazy till a man just folds and has no fight left in him. Ha ha i like this one Link to post Share on other sites
smokey bear Posted December 21, 2011 Share Posted December 21, 2011 Its fun, shes a bit kinky once you get her to open up. The only thing that separates us is the Atlantic Ocean. I am a swimmer but I do not think I could swim that length. She actually convinced me that sex is bad right now. I sadly agreed. Kinky! buy a webcam and ill show you kinky lol, you dont know the half of my erotic mind pmsl, i told you, i could write a book but as you all know my writing skills aren't worth a sh*t. sex with randoms is bad right now, sex with the ex is gooooooooood!!!!!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
smokey bear Posted December 21, 2011 Share Posted December 21, 2011 Oh she is european? Never mind they don't shave over there do they? Just kidding smokey I know you are gonna read this when you wake up! See us Americans shave and shower every day and we find it repulsive when a girl doesn't... Ok I better stop cause I am gonna regret this when I am sober again. And I don't see anything wrong with a transatlantic no strings attached fling! Seriously thought just kidding ... I know you guys shave and shower... right? You know we did evolve with time over here, we do have razors lol its getting rid of the damm mustache thats a pain lol im kiddin. Link to post Share on other sites
Author wilsonx Posted December 21, 2011 Author Share Posted December 21, 2011 you couldnt handle me in real life much less on a webcam... quit fooling yourself Link to post Share on other sites
smokey bear Posted December 21, 2011 Share Posted December 21, 2011 you couldnt handle me in real life much less on a webcam... quit fooling yourself Your big head wouldnt fit on the webcam screen, never mind through my front door! Link to post Share on other sites
Author wilsonx Posted December 21, 2011 Author Share Posted December 21, 2011 Simple solution.... get a bigger door Link to post Share on other sites
leoc1973 Posted December 22, 2011 Share Posted December 22, 2011 You know we did evolve with time over here, we do have razors lol its getting rid of the damm mustache thats a pain lol im kiddin. omg how funny! Well I am glad that europe finally caught up! My cousins came to visit from italy a few years ago and they were drop dead gorgeous and stunk and didn't shave their pits! I am assuming that you are british? Link to post Share on other sites
Author wilsonx Posted December 22, 2011 Author Share Posted December 22, 2011 (edited) Wow... Chase is on... I ****ed up big time, I mean really big. Its all or nothing. No holds barred. There's a thread I took to heart in the breakup forum called "an apology" It reminded me of me. Self center ******* that only cares about his feelings and not the girls. Tonight I realized I was the dumper (for those of you that say dumpers dont feel hurt, oh they do) I had this feeling for the past couple of weeks thats why I have been on and off about chasing because I was unsure. I abandoned her. She tried reaching out to me twice and I ignored because I was ****ing self centered and hurt for something that never even happened. So Im going to share with the world what I posted on her wall in front of my friends and hers I love you with all my heart and I am never going to stop loving you ever. I made the biggest mistake of my life. I hurt you and I will never do that again. I did not realize this until tonight. I did not understand what you meant but now I do. I abandoned you. I hurt you and it was my fault because I did not know how to communicate like you said. I am sorry. I will prove that I will never abandon you ever again, if it takes me waiting for you for the rest of my life to spend my very last day on this planet with you and the love we shared it will be well worth it This is about growing up and realizing that there are 2 people in a relationship. We see a lot of self centered *******s on this forum that are hurt just like I was but guess what, maybe just maybe we are the ones to blame. I am going to tell you, this hurts a lot realizing that I was the dumper and hurt my ex because I was selfish and dumb and assumed stupid **** As for my coping, this is a day 1 backslide big time. Edited December 22, 2011 by wilsonx Link to post Share on other sites
Lis007 Posted December 22, 2011 Share Posted December 22, 2011 I am curious why did you make this a public post? why not private as this relationship is the two of you? are you talking about facebook? Link to post Share on other sites
Author wilsonx Posted December 22, 2011 Author Share Posted December 22, 2011 Oh its facebook... I need to make a fool of myself ... Link to post Share on other sites
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