Nohbody Posted December 3, 2011 Share Posted December 3, 2011 Hello LS, long time no see. I see a lot of new names, and some old familiar ones. I'm sorry that this happened to you. Right now, many of you - the new ones especially, are hurting. If you feel like I did, your heart feels like it is bleeding and on fire at the same time. The pain is intense, and it is constant... and it's nothing compared to the misery you are feeling because you've been kicked to the curb and you are alone now. You are probably at an early stage in the grieving process. You might be in denial. You might think this is a small speed-bump and that things will get better because they have to. You may be in more of a bargaining posture, where all you have to do is change something, buy something, get somewhere, do something and everything will be ok again. It might, but it probably won't. Maybe you've been begging the person to come back. Maybe you're thinking about it. The common wisdom is to never beg. I begged. Lots of people begged. Lots of people didn't beg. It didn't change anything. Beg if you feel like you need to beg. It probably won't help. For whatever reason they've decided to no longer be with you - and in their mind you are the problem. So if you are the problem, you cannot solve the problem. Is that fair? No. Is it right? No. But that's still the way it is. At some point, you will probably initiate NC (No Contact) in the hopes of either forgetting about the other person or hoping that somehow, someway it will get them back. You're going to hold onto this hope for as long as you can. And maybe it'll work out for you. It probably won't. When it doesn't work out, you are going to notice a shift in your thinking patterns. Suddenly you won't be doing the things you are doing for the other person anymore. You'll be doing them for you. Congratulations. You've just inched out from under the weight of suffering a little. There's a way to go. Link to post Share on other sites
sardeen Posted December 3, 2011 Share Posted December 3, 2011 I certainly hope so man. I cant live like this much longer as I do want to be a happy, successful man in the future. Link to post Share on other sites
LostJustLost Posted December 3, 2011 Share Posted December 3, 2011 I too hope that eventually things change inside my heart, inside my head. I really hope you're right. Link to post Share on other sites
Lis007 Posted December 3, 2011 Share Posted December 3, 2011 I just want the hurt to go away now... Link to post Share on other sites
Queen of Hearts 10 Posted December 5, 2011 Share Posted December 5, 2011 Welcome back Nohbody, I was one that could never do "No Contact" but it has happened with time as I have been dating and finding new loves. I contact my EX now once a month. The wonderful girlfriend he had, broke up with him after 2 months so I was jumping up and down over that ! Life gets back at them at some point in time !!!! :bunny::bunny::bunny::bunny::bunny::bunny::bunny::bunny::bunny::bunny: :D:D:D:D:D:D:D Merry Christmas~~~ Happy Holidays~~~ Best Life To You All. Queen of Hearts 10 Link to post Share on other sites
Graceful Posted December 6, 2011 Share Posted December 6, 2011 Well, I'm not suffering and I hope you're not either. I'm kicking butt, in fact, and hope you are, too. Season of magic, you know? Link to post Share on other sites
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