Durden Posted May 27, 2004 Share Posted May 27, 2004 Hi, My ex girlfriend called me the other night, and we were chatting for over an hour on the phone. If any of you have read my thread, i miss my g/f, you will know what a bitch she has been to me!! She phoned me to tell me that she was down where i live the day before as she had to got to th hospital about her arm. She broke it at the elbow when she got thrown from a horse a few years ago. Anyway, normally she is trying to wind me up by telling what she has been doing and who's she's been seeing and stuff. And normaly i just end up winding her up! But she didnt this time which was quite suprising. We did end up having a laugh on the phone about what we used to get up to and stuff. We did used to have some laughs. Talked about when we went to tenerifre and gran canaria, and stuff like that. Then out of nowhere she asked if i missed her. After a bit of scilence, i just replied do u miss me? And she admitted that she did. I didnt know what to say to that, as she has been really horrible to me and hurt me alot. I just said that sometimes I see something on TV or hear something and it reminds me of her, and miss her.She also asked why I never call her or text her!! We chatted for a bit more then I said I had to go, I didnt but i was starting to think about things and thought it would be better off leaving it. Oh, she also said she hadnt been sleeping well since her friend was killed in a car crash. I just said if you need to talk you can call me, I know shouldnt have, but thats a ****ty thing to happen to anyone. Later on that night, about 1am, i recieved a msg on my phone with a picture of her. Well, she looked gorgeous. I havent seen her for over 4 months, so was a bit of a surprise. I text back she looked well fit! Then she replied that the one thing she really misses about me is how good in bed I was. I just said I miss that too. Exchanged a cple more text then fell asleep. I woke up the next day and was ok, didnt hear from her but was expecting too either. But I have been at work today and couldnt stop thinking about her. Just wish she didnt remind me about all the good times we had I was doing ok, just getting on with my life. But it feels like ive gone back to square 1. Well not quite but near enough! I havent text her or called her although i really did feel like it today. She still has my stuff which I did ask about, but she said she forgot. My boss at work says she's trying to keep hold of me by keeping it. I really did think i was over her, but she's brought back all the feelings i had for her and that sucks Anybody got any advice because im feeling really down at the moment Link to post Share on other sites
faux Posted May 27, 2004 Share Posted May 27, 2004 I would start not talking to her again. You should not have taken that phone call It sound as though she is only causing more pain, and preventing you from properly moving on. It also seems that she is confused, which is always a bad thing, and that she might just be using you to vent her problems to. I would discontinue contact again. I'm saying to discontinue contact because, well, look at what happened now that she started to talk to you again — You're depressed! Link to post Share on other sites
zoomer Posted May 28, 2004 Share Posted May 28, 2004 Manipulation! She is manipulating you and "testing the water" per say. You didn't say why you broke up in the first place. That could be a big issue in this situation. I've done exactly as she is doing to you. I simply wanted to see if he was miserable without me, thinking about me, etc., BECAUSE I was alone or lonely and had no one else.... Not because I wanted to be back with that person. Cruel and ugly...I've grown up since then. That was many years ago but, this hit a nerve with me. I have also done this.....called the ex because I really felt (after it was over) that I had made a mistake and saw how much I cared and loved him. AS ...in my phone call to him...I told him! I said, every since we've broken up, I really see how much I miss you, I want you, I'm sorry for things I've done, etc..... and I would love to have you back, if you would have me..... Be careful! The reason you broke up in the first place is very significant. If you do not want a repeat of the same...do not accept the calls and do not respond...continue on and you will find someone that deserves you! If the "ex" was sincere....truly sincere...she would have told you so. Link to post Share on other sites
zoomer Posted May 28, 2004 Share Posted May 28, 2004 ALSO, the picture thing.....you left your door wide open when you told her she could call anytime to discuss her friend that was killed in an accident....that is a horrible thing....(her reason for sleeplesness) When she phoned you at 1AM it wasn't to discuss her sorrow in her friend. It was to again, manipulate you by sending you a nice picture of herself! She knew you would respond. Nothing wrong with telling her to call anytime....you are a decent person for that. She took advantage of that in another way though. Don't know if what I'm saying is making sense but meant to mention this earlier.. Another sign she is playing a game with your mind. She obviously thinks she could send you a nice pic of herself and you'd just druel right back to her...she seems to me like she thinks she is a bit better or quite a catch! HA! She's really got me ticked off playing games...She needs to tell you straight up why she's calling. Call her hand...ASK..Why are you calling me? What exactly do you expect by calling? You want to play games with me, to see if I'm surviving without you or do you want me back? Straight up ask her what do you want. Good Luck Link to post Share on other sites
Author Durden Posted May 28, 2004 Author Share Posted May 28, 2004 Yeah your right zoomer, shes playing games. She text me last night saying she was feeling ill and stuff. And I did reply being a sucker that I am!! But think your right, im just going to try and ignore her if she calls or texts again. I posted in my other thread the reason we broke up, cut a long story short, was stressed in my last job and not paying enough attention. Bah! Woman! who needs them!! Link to post Share on other sites
zoomer Posted May 28, 2004 Share Posted May 28, 2004 Hey, Hey, there are just some women who you don't need...! Hopefully, the ones who are playing games etc, will grow up! I did! You will find a wonderful woman and when you do, you will KNOW it and if she loves you as you deserve, you won't have to worry about the little "games" played because she will not play them. You will look back on this one and Thank the Good Lord you had the strength to Ignore her and Move on! Good Luck but don't hold all women accountable for this idiot! There are good ones out there! Good Luck Link to post Share on other sites
Author Durden Posted May 28, 2004 Author Share Posted May 28, 2004 I know your not all that bad, just the ones i seem to pick are!! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Durden Posted June 1, 2004 Author Share Posted June 1, 2004 I've been feeling really stressed the past few days. Started to go off my food because of it. Not sleeping well either, and when i do I'm having dreams about my ex. I really thought I was over her, but her bringing up all the stuff from the past has messed me up again. Me being a twat, decided to text her yesterday, just asking if she was feeling any better. And I didnt get a reply. Thats the reason why I dont phone or text her!! I think the last conversation we had was her basicly saying she's over me, then sending a pic to show me what im missing. And its worked. I've had enough, cant ****ing take anymore of this ****. She has been a complete bitch to me so i dont know why im feeling like this now. I'll probably be alright in a few days, just feeling really low at the moment. All my friends say im better off without her and i know i am. Link to post Share on other sites
Blah Toolz Posted June 1, 2004 Share Posted June 1, 2004 I can relate to your story, man... I'm going through the same thing -- girlfriend has been calling me recently in a pretty similar fashion to yours. Brings up past times we had together, brings up sexual related memories, asks if I'll go hang out with her at her house at like 12am... it's hard to tell what she wants out of it, but I think playing it cool and to keep moving ahead is the best route to go. Hey zoomer, are you saying that if a girl really wanted to get back with the guy... then she would call and apologize and tell them straight up that she wanted to get back together? She wouldn't just call and bring up past sexual experiences, ask them to hang out, etc? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Durden Posted June 1, 2004 Author Share Posted June 1, 2004 Regret sending that text yesterday though. That really makes you feel like **** when u dont get a reply. Even if it was "**** off u freak!" would have been better than nothing! I had a good wkd though, just making a complete fool of myself on the dancefloor drunk as anything. Pulled twice as well. I should be happy! I should have done what I said in the beggining and made a clean break. Link to post Share on other sites
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