ink Posted May 27, 2004 Share Posted May 27, 2004 Question: I have been dating someone for a little more than 6 months. Everything was great and suddenly she said "I am confused and need time apart to think". We seemed be be getting more and more serious until this happened. We are both 29 and our future was surely on her mind. It has been about three weeks since this conversation. We have exchanged e-mails all of which still reveal that she is confused and needs time and that we should "move on for now" but also note that this time will make us know if it was meant to be. This was very sudden and out of the blue. Anyone have this experience and can shed some light. I am lost. IS she scared of commitment, testing us, or just this is her way of ending it. I note that when I returned some of her belongings she sent me an e-mail saying that she hope that I was not angry and conveyed an overall message that this was not the end, but she needed time to think about us. Thoughts?? INK Link to post Share on other sites
bluechocolate Posted May 27, 2004 Share Posted May 27, 2004 I've always thought that when someone says "I need some space or time to think" what they're really saying is that they want to end it. But after being here for a little while I've changed my mind somewhat on that. However, what does this mean: ....we should "move on for now" To me that means that you should move on with your lives meaning that you're free to meet & date other people. I would seek clarification on that if I were you. If that is indeed what she means then my interpretation would be that your relationship is over or at the least it's become very casual. But she is really the only person who has the answers you're looking for. You've been together 6 months & she's had about a month to think about this. How much time does she need? I know there's probably no set answer to that question, but you can't just wait around for her to make up her mind, can you? Maybe you should decide on what you think is an appropriate length of time to wait & then call it quits after that if she hasn't got back to you. Personally I wouldn't be waiting much longer. Link to post Share on other sites
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