turokturok5 Posted December 4, 2011 Share Posted December 4, 2011 Sorry if this is a bit lengthy. Me and my ex were the kind of people who gave up their own time to help others and were always the ones who looked out for our friends when we would go out to the town or parties. I thought that our similar interests and such would make us compatible so i started to talk to her online and get to know her better before asking her out one day. During our relationship she showed me hardly any attention and was somewhat against the idea of catching up just as a couple - she always wanted to do things in a group and i can't recall her even kissing me once during the couple of months we dated, i would always be the one to initiate it which i thought was kind of odd. And then on new years eve i thought i'd suprise her since i hadn't seen her all week due to going on a family vacation, turned up at a party she was invited to before asking the host if it was okay if i popped in for a few minutes to wish her happy new years and such and she got angry at me instead of being to happy to see me, which i also considered quite strange. Eventually i started to get miserable because it felt like i was in a one-way relationship and i even pictured her breaking up with me and would sometimes hope that she would break up with me as i wasn't satisfied with our relationship but i didn't want to end it, but when she did finally break up with me it's as if i was hit in the head with a shovel. Instead of acting all cool about, saying whatevs, brushing it off and continuing on with my life i got extremely upset, begged, pleaded, starting drinking and smoking and just made things a whole lot worse. But after a while i thought about what i was doing and began working out, eating healthier and studying hard. I know from the experience that i have become a better person, but i don't understand why i still have feelings for her based on what i have described. I have a lot more confidence with women now and can talk to them freely, but when i see my ex, even after a year of being apart i just breakdown and feel upset, although i don't show it I've been told before that i may not be in love with her, but in love with the idea of a relationship. I had high expecations for my ex, i thought we would last a lifetime but i was wrong. I believed the idea that i was just in love with the idea of a relationship because i enjoy having someone i can care for on an emotional level and someone to care for me. But what is confusing me is the fact that i've met some nice ladies this past year who seem interested, but kind of just brush them off because i don't think i'm over my ex entirely. What should i be doing to forget about my ex completely and move on to find a woman who appreciates me. Link to post Share on other sites
punkinless Posted December 4, 2011 Share Posted December 4, 2011 your ex didn't even seem that into you.... let these new ladies into your life and when you of them is really into you you'll know it and love the feeling. dosn't have to be serious. just a fling. Link to post Share on other sites
Author turokturok5 Posted December 4, 2011 Author Share Posted December 4, 2011 your ex didn't even seem that into you.... let these new ladies into your life and when you of them is really into you you'll know it and love the feeling. dosn't have to be serious. just a fling. Yes i understand that she wasn't really that into me, which is why its so frustrating that i can't get over it. Link to post Share on other sites
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