The fear of imposing

[befreckled]

I will be staying with my bf and his parents for New Years. He is visiting from another country and I'll be meeting him there.

 

He will be arriving on Christmas Eve and I'll arrive on NYE. I sort of fear imposing (perhaps that's a uniquely asian concept) because prior to me being in a relationship with him - he would spend the entire time with his family who he is close with and his friends.

 

Since I am visiting as well then I tag along for his meet-ups, family dinners. I feel sort of bad, I don't really know anyone else in the city so it's not like I can go "hey let me me meet up with my friends tonight and you hang out with yours"

 

Am I being silly? I'm trying to plan some activities I can do alone - perhaps an art class so I'm out of their (bf and parents) for a day or so.

[creighton0123]

If you were invited, then you're not imposing. As kids grow up, it is expected that they will eventually bring a significant other home for the holidays.

 

There really is nothing wrong with his going out to meet a few friends and you staying back at the house to spend time with his parents, read a book, do some work if you have any to do, etc. etc.

 

Have a fun trip.

[folieadeux]

I agree with Creighton; they wouldn't all have invited you if they didn't want you to be there for these things. The holidays are usually filled with friends and family coming in and out of the house constantly (at least that's how it is here for most people) so I don't think it's something you should feel bad about. I think the only thing you have to ask yourself is if YOU want to be at all these different events. I imagine you would; but everyone's different. I personally value my alone time with my SO so I'd definitely want to make sure there was time set aside for that as well.