mariss3 Posted December 5, 2011 Share Posted December 5, 2011 My boyfriend and I have been together for over 2 and a half years. He is my best friend, I confide in him about everything and when we're together we get along so well. But one day he texted me and was all mad at me for no reason and now we are on a break. We talked about it in person and he said we argue too much and just need a break and that we would still see each other and talk. He was even crying and told me to trust him that everything would work out. But, everytime i call or text he ignores me. Idk what to do. I need him in my life, at least as a friend. Should I just not try contacting him and give him space? Link to post Share on other sites
millor86 Posted December 5, 2011 Share Posted December 5, 2011 My boyfriend and I have been together for over 2 and a half years. He is my best friend, I confide in him about everything and when we're together we get along so well. But one day he texted me and was all mad at me for no reason and now we are on a break. We talked about it in person and he said we argue too much and just need a break and that we would still see each other and talk. He was even crying and told me to trust him that everything would work out. But, everytime i call or text he ignores me. Idk what to do. I need him in my life, at least as a friend. Should I just not try contacting him and give him space? Hey, it's going to be tough as you've no doubt spoken to this person every day since you've been dating but i'd respect what he wants. I'd advise to give him 3 or 4 days space then get in touch with him. Send him a text message in the morning on the 4th day saying hi and tell him your feelings and say you'd like to have a conversation. If he cannot respond to that text then give it a little longer maybe a day or two and try again. If nothing after that i hate to say it but it sounds like the relationship is over... He is probably trying to figure out if he loves you and how he feels without you in his life. I wouldn't swamp him as it may push him away. Obviously this is just my advice, someone else may have another opinion... Good luck!! Link to post Share on other sites
mike588 Posted December 5, 2011 Share Posted December 5, 2011 My boyfriend and I have been together for over 2 and a half years. He is my best friend, I confide in him about everything and when we're together we get along so well. But one day he texted me and was all mad at me for no reason and now we are on a break. We talked about it in person and he said we argue too much and just need a break and that we would still see each other and talk. He was even crying and told me to trust him that everything would work out. But, everytime i call or text he ignores me. Idk what to do. I need him in my life, at least as a friend. Should I just not try contacting him and give him space? Oh no another: I need a break story. Hopefully like the other post said he's just trying to figure out if he loves you but usually when you hear those dreaded words,, I/we a break,,, there is someone else involved. He knows how you feel so just leave him alone for awhile, the balls in his corner now. Link to post Share on other sites
Author mariss3 Posted December 9, 2011 Author Share Posted December 9, 2011 It's just really hard especially because my grandmother is in the hospital and he was the one who was always there for me whenever something bad happened. I just don't want to completely lose him. At this point I only want him as a friend, but I'm afraid he will keep ignoring me. Any other opinions? Link to post Share on other sites
Tayla Posted December 9, 2011 Share Posted December 9, 2011 Its difficul twhen a person whom you created a bond does the Distance Dance when you need them in your life. I admire that you can call him a friend and desire him as such, so often folks cant formulate that it takes the friendship to sail thru the rough times. I disagree with the other poster on the "its another person" scenario. Sometimes people really do just need a time out to regroup. Men are cave dwellers and will clam up in an instant, they are simply geared toward actions speak louder then words. So his actions are to hibernate,reaccess and come out with a clearer perspective. If the foundation is there,he'll come around.Til then ...think well of him and remain confident . My prayers for your grandmothers wellness to return. Link to post Share on other sites
Author mariss3 Posted December 14, 2011 Author Share Posted December 14, 2011 well he talked to me friday and said he's really sorry but he's been busy with school, with finals coming up, and work. He said he would text me in the next day or two but it's been like 5 days... Link to post Share on other sites
mike588 Posted December 14, 2011 Share Posted December 14, 2011 well he talked to me friday and said he's really sorry but he's been busy with school, with finals coming up, and work. He said he would text me in the next day or two but it's been like 5 days... He's not interested in you anymore and/or there is someone else,he playing with you. It doesn't take but a minute to text you. Link to post Share on other sites
Eddie Edirol Posted December 14, 2011 Share Posted December 14, 2011 well he talked to me friday and said he's really sorry but he's been busy with school, with finals coming up, and work. He said he would text me in the next day or two but it's been like 5 days... That means you already lost him, and he is most likely seeing someone new. BTW, did the reason he was mad at you to initiate this break seemed random and trite, maybe not even real? If so, he made up the fight just to break it off. Link to post Share on other sites
mike588 Posted December 14, 2011 Share Posted December 14, 2011 99% of the time when one partner "wants a break" there usually is someone else involved. This sorry school,work ect. is just an excuse. People who really love each other and want to be together stay together not find excuses to be apart. A committed partner looks for a solution to the problem/s an uncommitted partner looks for an escape. Link to post Share on other sites
jormungand Posted December 14, 2011 Share Posted December 14, 2011 People who really love each other and want to be together stay together not find excuses to be apart. A committed partner looks for a solution to the problem/s an uncommitted partner looks for an escape. 100% truth. Chalk this one up as a loss and try to move on ASAP. Link to post Share on other sites
fiat500 Posted December 14, 2011 Share Posted December 14, 2011 (edited) I agree with everyone here. Telling someone they need a break is just another phrase for a permanent break-up. It's probably one of the cruelest things a person can do to their ex. It fills you with false hope and only makes you feel that much more vulnerable and humiliated when you find out they never had any intention of getting back with you. Happened to me. He put all the blame on me and then claimed we'd talk when his semester was over. We were on a so called 'break.' I had very high hopes while I waited for his semester to end and he never contacted me. A month went by...then two months...and I had no choice but to contact him to ask about my stuff before he started school again. I asked about the break to which he replied it was over and his feelings for me had changed. He had no intention of ever contacting me to tell me that though! I wanted to crawl under a rock and f##king die. I've never felt so ashamed in my life. The hurt is so memorable and fresh to this day. Edited December 14, 2011 by fiat500 Link to post Share on other sites
Eddie Edirol Posted December 14, 2011 Share Posted December 14, 2011 Happened to me. He put all the blame on me and then claimed we'd talk when his semester was over. We were on a so called 'break.' I had very high hopes while I waited for his semester to end and he never contacted me. A month went by...then two months...and I had no choice but to contact him to ask about my stuff before he started school again. I asked about the break to which he replied it was over and his feelings for me had changed. He had no intention of ever contacting me to tell me that though! I wanted to crawl under a rock and f##king die. I've never felt so ashamed in my life. The hurt is so memorable and fresh to this day. Happened to me too. I had an ex that broke up with me, told me she wanted a break, and two tortured weeks later, after not hearing from her, told me we should see other people. She told me she wanted a break so she could see her new guy without interruption from me. Link to post Share on other sites
mike588 Posted December 14, 2011 Share Posted December 14, 2011 Happened to me too. I had an ex that broke up with me, told me she wanted a break, and two tortured weeks later, after not hearing from her, told me we should see other people. She told me she wanted a break so she could see her new guy without interruption from me. Yep my ex. told me the same thing but I endured only 3 days of torture before she told me the truth. Link to post Share on other sites
fiat500 Posted December 14, 2011 Share Posted December 14, 2011 wow. i don't know what that says about me.. i'm either extremely pathetic or had a lot of control. i waited for almost 12 weeks to hear from him (when he said he'd contact me) and i had to break NC in the end. i couldn't eat, sleep, or enjoy thanksgiving, christmas, or new year's because i was always sick to my stomach with heartbreak and was always throwing up if i tried to partake in the food festivities. I almost failed my classes. It was the worst few months of my life. lesson learned. always interpret 'break' as break-up and never put yourself through the hell i had to endure. i think my ex wins the best douchebag award for being a cold hearted bitch even as i collected my stuff and having a new relationship status on his facebook within the same month. Link to post Share on other sites
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