missed_theboat Posted December 6, 2011 Share Posted December 6, 2011 I was wondering what constitutes a long distance relationship? I know the distance, obviously, but how much distance? Anything that makes it a trip to see someone? For instance, my boyfriend and I now live about an hour and a half away from each other. On a good day, he could probably make it to my house in just a little over an hour. That's definitely doable in a day, but it's also far enough to be hard to make it during a work-week. So, does that make it a LDR? Link to post Share on other sites
salparadise Posted December 6, 2011 Share Posted December 6, 2011 I don't know who sets the minimum mileage to officially be LDR, but I'm pretty sure you can't get a tax deduction regardless. Seriously though, I'd say you're on the borderline. I would probably define it as beyond the distance a person can reasonably travel daily for work- when you can't justify doing a round trip in a day, or about 100 miles. Mine is 500 miles. Link to post Share on other sites
Author missed_theboat Posted December 6, 2011 Author Share Posted December 6, 2011 We are about 80 miles apart, but I could definitely make the trip in a day. I know people who travel an hour in their work commute daily. But, yeah I guess it just depends on how you see it. I consider it that he lives far away but I am not sure I could necessarily say I felt the same way as people whose significant others are half a day's drive away or something. Link to post Share on other sites
folieadeux Posted December 6, 2011 Share Posted December 6, 2011 The term is really relative. I suppose the traditional definition of an LDR would be any type of distance that prevents two people from getting together as much as they would like. I, however, have a personal definition. I don't consider it an LDR when you can get there by car in a few hours...I've had longer work commutes. Consider yourself lucky you have the option to drive to each other every day if you wanted to; most of us can only see our partners every few months or so by plane. Link to post Share on other sites
wildgeese Posted December 6, 2011 Share Posted December 6, 2011 The term is really relative. I suppose the traditional definition of an LDR would be any type of distance that prevents two people from getting together as much as they would like. I, however, have a personal definition. I don't consider it an LDR when you can get there by car in a few hours...I've had longer work commutes. Consider yourself lucky you have the option to drive to each other every day if you wanted to; most of us can only see our partners every few months or so by plane. I have to agree with this. It takes me almost an hour just to get to school sometimes. You have the luxury of seeing one another at least once a week whereas a lot of us have to wait months. Link to post Share on other sites
TMichaels Posted December 6, 2011 Share Posted December 6, 2011 I was wondering what constitutes a long distance relationship? I know the distance, obviously, but how much distance? Anything that makes it a trip to see someone? Why? What difference does it make? Is there a club that offers some sort of member benefits you hope to join? Best, TMichaels Link to post Share on other sites
Author missed_theboat Posted December 6, 2011 Author Share Posted December 6, 2011 Why? What difference does it make? Is there a club that offers some sort of member benefits you hope to join? Best, TMichaels No, it really doesn't make a difference. I just kind of wondered for the sake of this forum. Now I see that it's a place for people to share concerns about the struggles and triumphs of not always having a partner physically accessible. And with some of the LDR being several hours apart or large distances, I do not feel as though I can claim the LDR status for the sake of this forum. It was just a curious question, no special club, hehe. Link to post Share on other sites
Ninjainpajamas Posted December 6, 2011 Share Posted December 6, 2011 Anything that constitutes as a considerable drive or other travel in order to see your partner. I think for me likely anything beyond 1 and a half and 2 hours. But then again I've done other side of the world, and 6 hours away, and then 3 hours away. So for me, anything around an hour is good, anything more is pushing it since I'm about done with LDR's. Link to post Share on other sites
Author missed_theboat Posted December 6, 2011 Author Share Posted December 6, 2011 Yeah, I have never really done a LDR for any length of time. My ex boyfriend lived in the US while I studied abroad, but we broke up shortly after I left to go overseas. My current boyfriend and I met while I was in college and he lived about 20-30 minutes away but within the same area. Now, I'm living in another state, about an hour and a half away, but we could technically see each other every weekend if we so desired. He said he did it before with his ex-girlfriend, who lived about the same distance away, and that it was fine. Often when I was in college (even though we lived close) we wouldn't see each other until the weekend anyway, so it's no big deal. Link to post Share on other sites
HeavenOrHell Posted December 6, 2011 Share Posted December 6, 2011 It's all relative for sure. My partner is in another country, (we're in different countries in Europe) and I feel that if I now had a partner in this country (UK) I wouldn't see it as long distance to both be in the UK, although it takes several hours to get from Cornwall to Scotland (so that would be LD really). My r/ship is relatively short distance compared to most here, 800 miles and takes 9 hours. I wouldn't think of an hour or two long distance, but 3 hours and it's starting to get more difficult. Link to post Share on other sites
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