Why I'm I doing this?

[Mindylikesyou]

Hi my name is Mindy and I'm a 21 year-old virgin girl but a player's player at the same time. In other words I play with a player or those ''wannabe jerks''.

 

The problem with me is I don't really feel that awful when I'm playing with them. I either lead them on thinking there will be something more but disappear, pretend to talk dirty with them and date someone else.

 

3 months ago I cheated on a former player who claimed to have reformed and seemed serious. This included me making-out and having a petting session with another guy. Needless to say I really made him cried and have to admit to laughing.

 

I don't know why I'm doing this and don't feel bad??? It's like in my view I see players not worthy of respect and really just play things. Sometimes I don't wanna continue doing it but as soon as they fall for it I can't help it.

Edited December 7, 2011 by Mindylikesyou

[Mindylikesyou]

I know this is mainly for the affected ones but I guess I need help if I keep doing this.

Is it really fear of rejection? Fear of commitment that's making me do this?

 

Sometimes I felt something for my ex but couldn't help it knowing he was a former player and cheated. Though I only do this on players not on someone innocent.

Edited December 7, 2011 by Mindylikesyou

[Mindylikesyou]

Wow I feel like talking to myself .

[Tonkerponk]

Hi my name is Mindy and I'm a 21 year-old virgin girl but a player's player at the same time. In other words I play with a player or those ''wannabe jerks''.

 

The problem with me is I don't really feel that awful when I'm playing with them. I either lead them on thinking there will be something more but disappear, pretend to talk dirty with them and date someone else.

 

3 months ago I cheated on a former player who claimed to have reformed and seemed serious. This included me making-out and having a petting session with another guy. Needless to say I really made him cried and have to admit to laughing.

 

I don't know why I'm doing this and don't feel bad??? It's like in my view I see players not worthy of respect and really just play things. Sometimes I don't wanna continue doing it but as soon as they fall for it I can't help it.

 

You have literally desribed yourself as being sociopathic.

 

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sociopath

 

Read up on this and see if it sounds like you. I hope you fall in love with one of these guys and you catch him having sex with another woman. You sound like a disgusting person to me.

[Tonkerponk]

1. Callous unconcern for the feelings of others and lack of the capacity for empathyGross and persistent attitude of irresponsibility and disregard for social norms, rules, and obligations.
   
2. Incapacity to maintain enduring relationships.
   
3. Very low tolerance to frustration and a low threshold for discharge of aggression including violence.
   
4. Incapacity to experience guilt and to profit from experience, particularly punishment Markedly prone to blame others or to offer plausible rationalizations for the behavior bringing the subject into conflict.
   
5. Persistent irritability.
   

Sounds like the thigns you do to me. Good luck.

Edited December 8, 2011 by Tonkerponk

[Mindylikesyou]

You have literally desribed yourself as being sociopathic.

 

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sociopath

 

Read up on this and see if it sounds like you. I hope you fall in love with one of these guys and you catch him having sex with another woman. You sound like a disgusting person to me.

Thing is it wouldn't affect me (I'll probably don't feel anything) if I get cheated on by a player/bad guy.

 

I'm very familiar with that term since taking psychology class as an elective during my last year of high school.

 

Is there really a cure for that? I'm thinking that maybe with the right medications this will decrease and some empathy will develop within me.

 

However there is a contradiction: If the guy I meet isn't a in the ''bad guy'' category and is instead shy or a virgin too then I won't play with him. I would feel bad in that case.

[Tonkerponk]

Thing is it wouldn't affect me (I'll probably don't feel anything) if I get cheated on by a player/bad guy.

 

I'm very familiar with that term since taking psychology class as an elective during my last year of high school.

 

Is there really a cure for that? I'm thinking that maybe with the right medications this will decrease and some empathy will develop within me.

 

However there is a contradiction: If the guy I meet isn't a in the ''bad guy'' category and is instead shy or a virgin too then I won't play with him. I would feel bad in that case.

 

Does this really make a difference? What are your criteria for these men? I highly doubt they just come out and tell you these things about them all willy nilly. It sounds more like you are judging based on appearance rather than evidence. You very obviously are choosing when to act on your behavior and will unnecessarily take advantage of someone based on your presumed judgements. This is wrong. Your HIGH SCHOOL psychology class means nothing. Grow up, you arent a psychologist.

 

Either way, even if that is what they are that is very vengeful unnecessary behavior. Why be like that and cause disdain when you can just save yourself and them and just remove yourself kindly from the situation?

 

You obviously date many men and cannot forge a meaningful close relationship with any of them.

[Mindylikesyou]

Either way, even if that is what they are that is very vengeful unnecessary behavior. Why be like that and cause disdain when you can just save yourself and them and just remove yourself kindly from the situation?

I really would stop doing it if I were to stop getting hit on too much. It's like I'm something we see so I'm thinking ''Wow it's like I were a magnet that attracts them''. Since that moment it's like I can't help it and want to teach them all a lesson and then it just becomes a game to me. I'm planning to stop this if they stop hitting on me.

You obviously date many men and cannot forge a meaningful close relationship with any of them.

I get bored too fast and the sex part disgust me too. Or when some of them talked about it and mentioned certain positions, I get even more angrier and disgusted.

I hate sex .

[Tonkerponk]

I really would stop doing it if I were to stop getting hit on too much. It's like I'm something we see so I'm thinking ''Wow it's like I were a magnet that attracts them''. Since that moment it's like I can't help it and want to teach them all a lesson.

I get bored too fast and the sex part disgust me too. Or when some of them talked about it and mentioned certain positions, I get even more angrier and disgusted.

I hate sex .

 

How do you know you hate sex? Youre a virgin.

 

Just because a person talks about sex to you does not make them a player. You have some backwards idea of what a player truly is. If a man is really a player and fools around with you, he wont be affected by your actions with other men, so get that out of your head.

 

You are using your own body as a tool to "teach a lesson" How does this not make you feel like a tramp? You need to go back and re read my bolded post because your actions that you describe in your posts are IDENTICAL to the evidence in which ive kindly provided you. Please READ what is posted and dont think you are above others OPINIONS or FEELINGS.

 

You seem very insecure with yourself and fool around with many men to satisfy your various insecurities. Youd stop doing it if "I wouldnt get hit on so much"? Is this serious? There are so many things wrong with your posts I could write a short novel on them. Read SLOWLY and ABSORB what is said before you think youre a know it all and post your disgusting actions in which you rationalize to yourself with ridiculous ideas.

[Mindylikesyou]

How do you know you hate sex? Youre a virgin.

I hate it because I once saw a porn video of a couple out of curiousity and felt disgusted by it. I can't imagine both me and him being naked. Ewwww

 

Just because a person talks about sex to you does not make them a player. You have some backwards idea of what a player truly is. If a man is really a player and fools around with you, he wont be affected by your actions with other men, so get that out of your head.

It's the fact that these are the ones that would band any girl in bars and the fact that they already done that makes me mad. When I'm angry it's like I want to get even with them. That's when I start my game. It's like a prize to me, same as when some guys brag about banging many girls or those that lose their V card to hookers. It's a similar story with me but vice-versa and certain differences. I'm what they want but is fooling them.

 

You are using your own body as a tool to "teach a lesson" How does this not make you feel like a tramp? You need to go back and re read my bolded post because your actions that you describe in your posts are IDENTICAL to the evidence in which ive kindly provided you. Please READ what is posted and dont think you are above others OPINIONS or FEELINGS.

Yes I'm using my body but see no one can call me a slut or w**** since I haven't done it.

 

You seem very insecure with yourself and fool around with many men to satisfy your various insecurities. Youd stop doing it if "I wouldnt get hit on so much"? Is this serious? There are so many things wrong with your posts I could write a short novel on them. Read SLOWLY and ABSORB what is said before you think youre a know it all and post your disgusting actions in which you rationalize to yourself with ridiculous ideas.

Is just that when I'm leading them on, it feels kinda like an ego boast. It makes me feel like I'm special. I know I must be crazy writing that and if I told that to anyone they would think I'm wacko too but that's how I'm feeling within in. I guess it's also do to constant attention I'm seeking. I like getting all that attention.... it makes me feel wanted.

[Space Ritual]

Hi my name is Mindy and I'm a 21 year-old virgin girl but a player's player at the same time. In other words I play with a player or those ''wannabe jerks''.

 

The problem with me is I don't really feel that awful when I'm playing with them. I either lead them on thinking there will be something more but disappear, pretend to talk dirty with them and date someone else.

 

3 months ago I cheated on a former player who claimed to have reformed and seemed serious. This included me making-out and having a petting session with another guy. Needless to say I really made him cried and have to admit to laughing.

 

I don't know why I'm doing this and don't feel bad??? It's like in my view I see players not worthy of respect and really just play things. Sometimes I don't wanna continue doing it but as soon as they fall for it I can't help it.

 

 

Sounds like an overall feeling of entitlement and a lack of consequences for your actions from previous incidents. Easy to feel like this when you have never had any discipline to begin with.sounds like IC will help you more than an internet board.

[Mindylikesyou]

Sounds like an overall feeling of entitlement and a lack of consequences for your actions from previous incidents. Easy to feel like this when you have never had any discipline to begin with.

I don't know. Corporal punishment was applied to me as a child unless that didn't worked out.

For some reason I never really learned anything from that.

[SincereOnlineGuy]

Hi my name is Mindy and I'm a 21 year-old virgin girl but a player's player at the same time. In other words I play with a player or those ''wannabe jerks''.

 

The problem with me is I don't really feel that awful when I'm playing with them. I either lead them on thinking there will be something more but disappear, pretend to talk dirty with them and date someone else.

 

3 months ago I cheated on a former player who claimed to have reformed and seemed serious. This included me making-out and having a petting session with another guy. Needless to say I really made him cried and have to admit to laughing.

 

I don't know why I'm doing this and don't feel bad??? It's like in my view I see players not worthy of respect and really just play things. Sometimes I don't wanna continue doing it but as soon as they fall for it I can't help it.

 

 

I don't really see anything too wrong with this. It is as if you are a 'double spy' of some sort. Everybody knows that "players" are notorious for being demons, and so when they get played, it is no big deal.

 

If you're young and desirable in ways that always give you the upper hand, then just keep amusing yourself. Try to identify others of your type and learn their stories and tales so as to keep yourself out of too much danger.

[silvermercy]

This seems like a troll post to me. Either that or the person is indeed not well in the head. Obviously.

[Mindylikesyou]

This seems like a troll post to me. Either that or the person is indeed not well in the head. Obviously.

Unfortunately this is true. I like the attention they give me. In my mind they really are play things to me.

 

Ok so it's the later option. I'm must be kinda messed up.

[Space Ritual]

don't worry, the karma bus has many wheels so please don't be shocked when you wake up one morning with a case of missing virginity.

[Mindylikesyou]

don't worry, the karma bus has many wheels so please don't be shocked when you wake up one morning with a case of missing virginity.

Oh please I would have to be real stupid to walk away without my drink in my hand, leave my apartment door unlocked and have once disabled some jerk trying to robbed me last year (too bad for him I happen to be a purple belt... still missing two levels and it's getting harder).

I would have to be either drugged (unlikely) on a date by being careless or surprised with chloroform, hit on the head with an object and knocked unconscious, or outnumbered. I'm positive none of that will happen since I'm aware of my surrounding, always go on public places and sometimes I invite two best girl friends.

Edited December 9, 2011 by Mindylikesyou

[Space Ritual]

Oh please I would have to be real stupid to walk away without my drink in my hand, leave my apartment door unlocked and have once disabled some jerk trying to robbed me last year (too bad for him I happen to be a purple belt... still missing two levels and it's getting harder).

I would have to be either drugged (unlikely) on a date by being careless or surprised with chloroform, hit on the head with an object and knocked unconscious, or outnumbered. I'm positive none of that will happen since I'm aware of my surrounding, always go on public places and sometimes I invite two best girl friends.

 

It's not what I meant.....

 

Somewhere down the line, your cavalier attitude will be paid back to you in spades and you will be shocked at how someone could treat you so callously...at which time in order to find the answer all you will have to do is look in the mirror.

[SincereOnlineGuy]

Unfortunately this is true. I like the attention they give me. In my mind they really are play things to me.

 

Ok so it's the later option. I'm must be kinda messed up.

 

 

 

Mindy,

 

When you are a 21yo woman who isn't tooooooooo experienced, you are perfectly entitled to seemingly 'measure' your social worth and your so-called 'sex appeal'. All females do that at some point, and the "attention" is central to the experimentation.

 

Don't get too up-in-your-head over this.

[SincereOnlineGuy]

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[RickFox]

purple belt, huh? does it match your purse?

 

I love mopping floors with people who think a belt will stop an experienced brawler. Anywho, yeah, you have a problem, you're screwed up, and you're probably gonna experience a world of hurt in some form or other later on down the road based on how you treat folks.

[nofool4u]

I don't know why I'm doing this and don't feel bad??? It's like in my view I see players not worthy of respect and really just play things.

 

Thats because you are no different than them. You are a player and cheater as well not worthy of respect.

[nofool4u]

Oh please I would have to be real stupid to walk away without my drink in my hand, leave my apartment door unlocked and have once disabled some jerk trying to robbed me last year (too bad for him I happen to be a purple belt

 

Purple belt? LMFAO.

 

As having studied the arts for 20 years, let me enlighten you about your "purple belt".

 

First off I'll be the first to say it matters not what is tied around your waste.

 

Having said that, the "purple" belt, as well as other colors, are nothing but Americanized belt systems designed to keep students. Typically, but not attributable to all arts, original belt rankings from the martial arts are limited.

 

For example in mine, in Okinawa, there were only 4 belt ranks. white, green, brown, black. And it took quite some time to attain the next level, not just a few months like they do in commercial schools just to let the students feel good.

 

But in America, martial arts schools found out that students became frustrted that they weren't advancing to the minimal number of belt levels fast enough.

 

So they created orange belts, blue, and even purple. And there are some schools that have even more. Its ridiculous.

 

Hell, even a black belt doesn't mean anything. So when someone starts bragging about what belt level they are, I have to laugh.

 

Purple belt. LOL. really? seriously?

 

Ok, not quite a threadjack, but back to the thread nonetheless

Edited December 15, 2011 by nofool4u

[Mindylikesyou]

Thats because you are no different than them. You are a player and cheater as well not worthy of respect.

Come on, that guy I cheated deserved it. He had a past of sleeping with lots of girls and not taking them serious but would refused virgins until he met me. Only I was there to teach him a lesson.

 

I don't like bad/rebels guys nor see them as relationship material. They are only to be used as hang-outs or simply making them think I'm ready any time.

 

But you see if I ever come cross a decent one (or maybe a virgin like me) then I'll be serious and will be my true self. I'm nice but not to bad guys.

 

So you see there is a major difference between cheating or playing with someone for no reason at all versus doing it to those that really deserve it. Another thing to point out, since I'm still a virgin my cheating isn't is less serious. Making-out and having a petting session (some other touching involve but with clothes on) isn't as bad as exactly having full blown sex with someone else.

Edited December 16, 2011 by Mindylikesyou

[Fabian Montenegro]

If this is real.

 

I don't really think much of the guy that you cheated on.

 

You on the other hand are an interesting case.

 

I don't think that you are a genuine sociopath, although you may be on your way to becoming one. A sociopath would have no reason to care about cheating on non-players, the moral distinction (if there is one) would be meaningless to you.

 

You're manipulative. You've said yourself that players are playthings. You seem to be a sadist considering that you got a laugh out of your crying bf.

 

You also appear to have a very idealistic black and white way of thinking, wherein the "pure" people (virgins or inexperienced) are good v.s the "impure" players who are bad.

 

Yep. You are kind of messed up.

 

Could you be autistic by any chance?

 

Any history of abuse?