Why I'm I doing this?

[nofool4u]

Come on, that guy I cheated deserved it. He had a past of sleeping with lots of girls and not taking them serious but would refused virgins until he met me. Only I was there to teach him a lesson.

 

Not arguing that he deserved it at all. He did.

 

But again, it makes you no better than him. I sure wouldn't want a gf who cheated, no matter what the reason.

 

 

I don't like bad/rebels guys nor see them as relationship material.

 

Ya right. You just like to waste your time with them to teach them a lesson. I don't buy it.

 

If you didn't like bad/rebel guys, you wouldn't waste your time with them in the first place.

 

 

But you see if I ever come cross a decent one (or maybe a virgin like me) then I'll be serious and will be my true self. I'm nice but not to bad guys.

 

But there is still something about the bad guys that makes you want to even bother with them in the first place. Perhaps you simply like the sex with the bad guys, but have no intention of being faithful to them? If that is the case, what makes you think a nice guy wants a woman that fools around with "bad boys"?

 

 

So you see there is a major difference between cheating or playing with someone for no reason at all versus doing it to those that really deserve it.

 

And again, you started dating them in the first place for a reason, and its that reason which any "nice guy" would be leary of.

 

 

Another thing to point out, since I'm still a virgin my cheating isn't is less serious. Making-out and having a petting session (some other touching involve but with clothes on) isn't as bad as exactly having full blown sex with someone else.

 

That is to be judged by someone other than the person doing the deed.

 

To me, a cheater is a cheater, whether its emotional, physical, full blown sex, and no matter what the reason.

 

Sorry, but you are just as much a player as the guys you play with. Otherwise you wouldn't waste your time in the first place.

 

You have a serious character flaw.

[Mindylikesyou]

I don't think that you are a genuine sociopath, although you may be on your way to becoming one. A sociopath would have no reason to care about cheating on non-players, the moral distinction (if there is one) would be meaningless to you.

Nope if I were a true sociopath I would care who I'm playing with. You see with me the more someone is meaner or a smartass, the more I wanted take advantage of that bastard and used him, even make him waste all his hang-outs or walking away during dates (yeah I done that a bunch of times before too and left, while they think I'm coming back). I always get what I want from them while they never get what they want, sex that is.

 

Frankly I went to the extreme of signing a contract with fake actors (passing as my parents) and making up real depressing stories, which usually draws sympahy from them. That way, there is an excuse on why they would waste time with me.

You're manipulative. You've said yourself that players are playthings. You seem to be a sadist considering that you got a laugh out of your crying bf.

Yes unfortunately he didn't see this ahead of time. When he still believed me, went on saying how I made him change who he was or how different I was from the other girls.

You also appear to have a very idealistic black and white way of thinking, wherein the "pure" people (virgins or inexperienced) are good v.s the "impure" players who are bad.

One thing I'll know for sure and will tell you and everyone who's reading this now: I'll never marry a manwhore who I bet at the same time is a hypocrite. If I'm a virgin then I want a virign too. These guys usually don't mind their past but see if they ever met a girl with that similar past, oh nooo they want a decent or virgin one.

 

It's disgusting to sleep around a lot. I have absolutely no respect for them. One for being a player and another for being a hypocrite with double standards. They want the opposite to them.

Any history of abuse?

Apart from getting spanked as a child don't think so.

If I were autistic then I wouldn't be writing on this forum nor even go on dates. Autistic people live in their own world distorted from reality while sane person can reason with you.

[Mindylikesyou]

Ya right. You just like to waste your time with them to teach them a lesson. I don't buy it.

 

If you didn't like bad/rebel guys, you wouldn't waste your time with them in the first place.

Actually I'm wasting their time with me. I'm the one getting what I want but they never get sex in return. I'm not giving it away... no way.

It started through dare dates with a group of friends way back in high school. I was always on the game and knew who was a player. I'm too smart to get fooled (that usually because there are fewer girls doing the game and one always assumes we're gonna fall for traps all the time). Anyways in those games, we would dare each other for $40 and simply not call the guy again or simply dropped him like yesterday's news.

But there is still something about the bad guys that makes you want to even bother with them in the first place. Perhaps you simply like the sex with the bad guys, but have no intention of being faithful to them? If that is the case, what makes you think a nice guy wants a woman that fools around with "bad boys"?

Yes and it's the fact they talked similar and always act the same. That's no surprise and well it's fun playing someone you would never consider relationship nor future marriage material.

It's not sex I get from them, it's their hang-outs and some touchings, how they all fall for my stories or can't even tell where my real address is or taking me serious. As stated on my previous post, I end up getting what I want while they don't get sex.

I know how to drained them and if I wanted to be meaner (but nope, that would be too much) I can put them in debt if I were into leading them towards long-term relationship stage. They're so easy.

And again, you started dating them in the first place for a reason, and its that reason which any "nice guy" would be leary of.

And why would I tell the decent guy that I was a player (but kinda justified). You don't really tell every single detail about your life to anyone, not even your parents should know everything. In this case, I would just transformed into the real me and forget about what I did to the ''bad guys''. I would just be the decent one they all wanted in the first place. In other words I would change and walked away from what I did. Edited December 17, 2011 by Mindylikesyou

[Mindylikesyou]

You have a serious character flaw.

I think we all have flaws (ok maybe I might be overdoing what I'm doing) else our personalities would be the same and it would be a boring world.

 

But I'll eventually get tired one day and settle down... just not with my playthings.

[nofool4u]

And why would I tell the decent guy that I was a player (but kinda justified).

 

Your stating the obvious. We know you wouldn't. Why would you tell a guy you are truly interested in how you really are?

 

But if a guy knew how you were, if he had any integrity, he wouldn't bother.

 

 

In this case, I would just transformed into the real me and forget about what I did to the ''bad guys''. I would just be the decent one they all wanted in the first place.

 

And like I said, wouldn't matter, if a decent guy knew you played other guys, whether those guys were players or not, they wouldn't want you. Only way to get a decent guy is to hope they never find out what your true character is.

 

I actually experienced this. Being in a small town, almost everyone knows everyone elses story. As a divorcee, I had a women that was interested in me. She was a decent enough person now, but I knew that she was, like you, a bit of a player. But sorry, I didn't care if she thought she had changed in her own mind. I knew what she was about. So I avoided her like the plague.

[nofool4u]

But I'll eventually get tired one day and settle down... just not with my playthings.

 

Well hopefully you find someone that doesn't know you and will never find out.

[stillafool]

Here's a thought: Since you hate bad boy player types, why not leave them alone and date a nice guy who you respect. Why waste your time and youth messing around with players?

[nofool4u]

Here's a thought: Since you hate bad boy player types, why not leave them alone and date a nice guy who you respect. Why waste your time and youth messing around with players?

 

Remember? She is teaching them a lesson.

 

Forget the fact that if they are truly players, they won't care what she does and move on to the next girl.

[IronMaiden]

A virgin "player"...that is an oxymoron.

 

It's like saying because you are an expert at playing "Modern Warfare" on Xbox, you are a warrior/soldier. If you don't think you like sex, and you've never had it, you can't possibly be an expert in a world that is all about sex.

[diskostu]

you sound mentally ill. you should get some therapy.

[Mindylikesyou]

Well hopefully you find someone that doesn't know you and will never find out.

I'm too smart to get caught and know what to say. Besides if one of those guys I played were to rat on me, I can also deny it.

[Mindylikesyou]

Remember? She is teaching them a lesson..

Yes all I want if make them feel how it's like being played. They deserved it after someone played with my older sister so badly. He started backing away from her ever since she gave it away and a couple months later left her. It took a while for her to recover from that. She didn't listened to me when I tried countless times telling her all about him. I can detect people's good or bad intentions from miles away.

 

I was then a 14 year-old freshman then and ever since that I wanted nothing but revenge against all of them.

[Mindylikesyou]

A virgin "player"...that is an oxymoron.

 

It's like saying because you are an expert at playing "Modern Warfare" on Xbox, you are a warrior/soldier. If you don't think you like sex, and you've never had it, you can't possibly be an expert in a world that is all about sex.

I know it can be an oxymoron but I hate sex. Besides I found the male organs unappealing when it was thought in biology class. It reminds me of a worm going inside you ewwww.

 

Ok no offense but I got disgusted. Though I might not be an expert in sexual relationships, I can always mentally play with them in all the other ways not including sex. This includes lying (even about my name or where I live), ditching them suddenly or double dating.

 

Just because I'm a virgin doesn't mean I'm innocent on the inside.

[Mindylikesyou]

In regards to my purple belt, I might not be at professional level yet (I just consider myself average-advanced level) but I can own anyone that's completely untrained.

 

If all a man has is physical strength but nothing else (sits on the couch all day long) or is just a beginner than it's easy. However, that should be done in self-defense only like I did on that dude trying to rob me. What I'll never do is use it to start a fight.

[nofool4u]

I'm too smart to get caught and know what to say.

 

In other words, you will lie to a future guy that you actually do like.

 

What a way to start a relationship:o

 

 

Besides if one of those guys I played were to rat on me, I can also deny it.

 

Yup, a liar.

[nofool4u]

Yes all I want if make them feel how it's like being played.

 

But if they are truly players, they won't care. They'll think of it as an easy out and move on to the next girl.

[nofool4u]

In regards to my purple belt, I might not be at professional level yet

 

There is no professional level or belt

[Mindylikesyou]

In other words, you will lie to a future guy that you actually do like.

I know but that would be the only lie. You seem to be very black-n-white on this. I don't know of any single person in the world that never told a lie. Everyone does at some point in their life.

Yup, a liar.

The only difference is that it wouldn't be intentionally to hurt him as I do with the other guys. It would be a lie by omission.

[Mindylikesyou]

But if they are truly players, they won't care. They'll think of it as an easy out and move on to the next girl.

Then how did I made one former player cried after cheating on him?

[diskostu]

In regards to my purple belt, I might not be at professional level yet (I just consider myself average-advanced level) but I can own anyone that's completely untrained.

 

If all a man has is physical strength but nothing else (sits on the couch all day long) or is just a beginner than it's easy. However, that should be done in self-defense only like I did on that dude trying to rob me. What I'll never do is use it to start a fight.

 

lol. a man twice your size would rape you and throw you in a dumpster before you could even get into your little judo stance.

[nofool4u]

Then how did I made one former player cried after cheating on him?

 

You didn't. Sorry, we don't believe you now. The bulls** detector is off the charts.

[kaylan]

troll thread.

[oldshirt]

I don't know why I'm doing this and don't feel bad??? It's like in my view I see players not worthy of respect and really just play things. Sometimes I don't wanna continue doing it but as soon as they fall for it I can't help it.

 

 

This is no different than guys trying to score some sex off a slut that they wouldn't be caught dead with infront of their friends or family.

 

You see them as easy targets because they are..well..easy targets.

 

You also see them as lesser people and that they don't have any real feelings or that they somehow "deserve" to be toyed with.

 

The day this bites you in ass is the day you are toying with some kind of playa and he thinks you are slutty so he is toying with you and both of you end up getting some sincere feelings and both of you don't have respect or honor for each other and both of you end up missing something that could have been good for both of you and both you both end up getting hurt.

 

(and yes, I have had EXACTLY that happen to me over 20 years ago and both I and the other person regret our stupidity to this day)