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If its true I'm happy for him.. I'd have a better chance of winnning the lottery than that happening to me.

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worldgonewrong
If its true I'm happy for him.. I'd have a better chance of winnning the lottery than that happening to me.

 

:laugh:

I bevvy of Victoria's Secret Models knocking on my door is more likely to happen than my wife waking up.

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macmillerpwnz

nope not april fools! It is legit! I will keep yall updated.. I appreciate everybody's help

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Good for you and your wife....now the best advice yet, get off this forum and really make a go of it. Reading here can be helpful when things are over, but not when the two of you really know each other and want to make it work. Coming here is no different than going to all your friends who would tell you to end it and her to end it. Honestly...if you want to make the best go of it, put your trust in her and her in you. That is what makes a relationship work, a marriage work...when TWO people want it to.

 

When you need something from her....talk to her about it...and encourage her to do the same. If either of you listen to each other....there would be no need coming here to talk about it except for wounded pride on both your parts...you to your friends...her to her friends. Don't ever let other's opinions rule what you feel. Actions speak louder than words...and you don't get actions from a forum, a website or across the Internet.

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you just never learn

 

LMAO!!! Now THAT was funny!!!

 

 

Aww WGW....loves to you too!!! :love::bunny::love::bunny:

 

M...would entertain that as well..but get the F off this forum and leave chit behind man...get busy living!!! :lmao::lmao::lmao:

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I think it's a good start.

 

But seeing how she's not been respectful in the past - its not yet time to mix your money back in - yet.

 

Best wishes!

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I know you guys are prolly getting tired of me posting but maybe somebody likes reading this stuff i dunno =/.. but anyways everything is still going great.. I can tell she really loves me.. we look into each others eyes like we used to and the vibe is all there again.. we can't stop touching each other and kissing each other.. we talk about the future and even having another baby one day.. I can tell she really loves me..I can tell we are in love.. it feels the same as when we first fell in love when we were really young..It is almost out of a movie or something it is so great.. Does stuff like this really happen?! I swear somebody could write a book on our lives.

 

She has always just wanted to be a family, I remember her telling me that all the time for years.. I always wanted to know what it was like to have another woman.. now I finally realize she is all that I need.. for days and hours we just talk about us and being a family and loving each other.. I am a completely different person now as far as wanting to be a family man.. but she has pretty much always wanted the family thing.. I am just now seeing this.. I feel like we are on the same page.. we are finishing each others sentences and saying things at the same time..

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yeh whatever you guys wanna do with the thread is fine with me.. I know when I was hurting I liked hearing success stories because it gave me hope..but its wutev you guys want to do..

 

and yes I will still come by and give advice based on what I have learned through this whole process still..I aint no expert but I can give my 2 cents that is for sure..

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I have saved my marriage, but there is still one thing on my mind I might need yalls input for.

 

So after getting back with my wife she admitted everything she had done and so had I. Well.. this guy who she slept with is married and works with her. His wife also works with her at same place. She has told me that the guy has moved to another bank but I am not too sure I believe her? By the way this same guy she slept with who she told me she was just friends with is the same guy I told yall about who she was texting for 3 months.

 

I am afraid there is still something there between them. She doesn't get any text messages from anyone and I know her schedule, and so far so good as far as her being able to fit cheating into her lifestyle... I am keeping my eyes open for her opportunities to be able to cheat.

 

Should I be worried about this? I want to talk to her more about this because it still bothers me.. she seems as if she only cares about me but it still bothers me.. and now that I think about it she didn't leave me until she started talking to this guy.. and even tho we were separated she still left me like she did in order to have a relationship with this guy.. maybe in her mind leaving me made it feel more right for her to do this..

 

and for her to have sex with this guy when he was married says a lot about her morals.. how could she not feel bad for this mans wife? Especially when she works with her?

 

And going back to the beginning of our relationship when she cheated on me when our baby was born and I was at school..

 

Now I know I wasn't the best husband.. and I know I was interested in other women and I think she could sense that in the past..I didn't fulfill her emotional needs back then.. maybe this is why she looked elsewhere to fullfill these needs? Is this an excuse for her behavior though?

 

Now that we are together again everything has been awesome I can tell we really love each other and care about each other.. She says she wishes I would have been this way all these years..I really do now understand her emotional needs and corrected my issues... does this mean she will correct hers and not seek any other guys? I am scared she is going to cheat on me even if I am being a good husband now... what do yall think? I haven't talked to her about this yet..

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I am no expert in any way, but here is what I think - this is what makes sense to me.

 

You should talk to her about this right away. I don't think anyone can tell you if she is cheating or will be cheating etc. If she is really remorseful and really regrets her actions and really wants you back FOR THE RIGHT REASONS, she should be a complete open book and should answer ALL QUESTIONS you have, even if you ask the same question 10 times in different words - it would not matter. Rebuilding the trust is very very hard and she should help you in any way possible.

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coopster,

 

you're completely right man.. last night we had the most amazing night.. we had candles and laid with each other for hours with music playing and just talking..

 

We talked about each other and how this is a new start and forget the past and she apologized for everything and admitted she was wrong.

 

She is legit... you can't fake loving somebody.. especially this consistently..we are soooo in love..

 

Maybe this will help others? She said she has always loved me but tried her best to let me go so she wouldn't be hurt again(since I never gave her enough attention before, and used to say she was chubby etc.... horrible I know) she said she put up a wall and made excuses for herself on why we didn't belong together when really deep inside she loved me. She really is beautiful though.. I just took her for granted.. yeh she is a lil chubby.. but she isn't fat at all.. and we workout together now.. but now that I appreciate her and respect her more everything about her is more beautiful than any other woman out there.

 

I just want to say Thank You to everybody who spoke in this thread.. you guys have real hearts to be able to come in here and talk about other people's problems who you don't even know.. I wish the best luck to all of you!

 

I also have been keeping my word when I said I would be in here.. I have been trying to post my 2 cents here and there on particular threads.. so I will still be seeing yall around for sure =D

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