What is going on in his mind?

[Sunflower2179]

Here is my situation:

 

A week ago there was a guy who works at the same place I do. He said hi to me and I said hi back to him. No big deal, I didn't think much about it. The next day he said hi again. Every time I see him, we both get huge smiles and say at least hi. He was talking with a few people from his department and I was talking with a few people from my department and I noticed him looking at me, but he turned away when he noticed me looking at him. I had the weekend off so I didn't get to see him for a few days.

 

Then on Monday, I was going to lunch from the 4th floor and the elevator stopped at the 3rd floor and he was there. He got on the elevator and it was just me and him. We talked about the weather and how hot it was inside the building. He asked if I was new, and I said I was. He asked if I liked it there, and I said it was okay and it's a job. By that time I had reached the floor to go to lunch, meanwhile, he didn't push a button for any other floor so I thought he would be getting off at that floor. Well the elevator stopped and I just about ran out of the elevator without saying bye or see you later or anything of the nature. I felt like an idiot. The next day we just said the usual "hi" to each other.

 

Then today, we talked more then just hi. The first time I saw him I had to get something from a room and we said the usual hi, but added how are you, we both answered. (We work in a hospital) I was putting a stretcher away and he was in the hall. He asked if I was working hard, which he knew the answer to, which was yes. I can't get the stretchers to go straight, while I was trying to put the stretcher away I said, "I'll try not to run you over." He smiled and laughed a little. A few more times during the day I had to go get stretchers and put them back, and every time I did that he was out in the hall. He made a little comment about that. I said that I'll probably be doing this all weekend long. He said he had the weekend off. =(

 

I noticed that he doesn't really talk to the other people in my department and he always gets a huge smile when we see each other.

 

I'm just curious as to what you all think - does he like me or is he just being friendly to the new person?

 

Plus, I currenly have a boyfriend, but I want to end it with him. I wanted to do that for a long time, and that is a whole another issue all into itself.

 

Any help would be great! Thanks!

[Paradise]

If you have the guts, ask him out.

It sounds like you two are clicking.

But first, check to see if he has a g/f or ring on his finger.

[Sunflower2179]

Originally posted by Paradise

If you have the guts, ask him out.

It sounds like you two are clicking.

But first, check to see if he has a g/f or ring on his finger.

 

 

He doesn't have a ring on his finger. I don't know if he has a girlfriend, I'm not sure who to ask about that, other than him. I don't have any guts to ask him out yet. I thought about asking him to join me during a break or lunch. But I'm not sure when he has his break or lunch.

[Paradise]

Originally posted by Sunflower2179

He doesn't have a ring on his finger. I don't know if he has a girlfriend, I'm not sure who to ask about that, other than him. I don't have any guts to ask him out yet. I thought about asking him to join me during a break or lunch. But I'm not sure when he has his break or lunch.

[Paradise]

Originally posted by Sunflower2179

He doesn't have a ring on his finger. I don't know if he has a girlfriend, I'm not sure who to ask about that, other than him. I don't have any guts to ask him out yet. I thought about asking him to join me during a break or lunch. But I'm not sure when he has his break or lunch.

You can ask someone who worked there long time who knows him if he has a g/f. Asking to join you for lunch is a good start.

[Respected1]

Don't you think the decent thing to do would be to end your current relationship first before pursuing your next? I think it's messed up when people end a relationship only cause they've already started a new one. Where's the respect?

[Sunflower2179]

Originally posted by Respected1

Don't you think the decent thing to do would be to end your current relationship first before pursuing your next? I think it's messed up when people end a relationship only cause they've already started a new one. Where's the respect?

 

 

I don't want to start a new love relationship before I'm out of the current one. I just want to know if this guy is interested in me or is just being nice. There is no harm in getting to know people at work. I just feel really guility about ending the current relationship because we live together and I know for a fact that he cannot afford to live here alone. I know I have to do what is best for me, and I know that I need to be honest with my current boyfriend, but I don't want to break his heart, which I know I will end up doing. But what kind of relationship is it, if both people involved aren't as happy as they both should be?

[MsLandon]

I have to say, if you are interested in this guy, you know you have to end your current relationship. Otherwise it isn't fair to anyone but you. Also, you decision to end the relationship should have nothing to do with the new guy. It should be because you and your current guy aren't working. Once you have cleared that clutter up, I'd say build a friendship with the new guy. That way you won't have to ask folks in the hospital what his status is...because then it will get around the hospital that you like him or inquired about him and everyone will be in your business. Maybe it's just me, but I dont' think it's good practice to date folks you are working with - and if you do, it sould be as descreet as possible. Otherwise, if things don't work out you not only have to deal with the sight of him every day, but also the learing eyes and questions from your co-workers.

 

Just my 2 cents. Good luck.

[Sunflower2179]

Originally posted by MsLandon

I have to say, if you are interested in this guy, you know you have to end your current relationship. Otherwise it isn't fair to anyone but you. Also, you decision to end the relationship should have nothing to do with the new guy. It should be because you and your current guy aren't working. Once you have cleared that clutter up, I'd say build a friendship with the new guy. That way you won't have to ask folks in the hospital what his status is...because then it will get around the hospital that you like him or inquired about him and everyone will be in your business. Maybe it's just me, but I dont' think it's good practice to date folks you are working with - and if you do, it sould be as descreet as possible. Otherwise, if things don't work out you not only have to deal with the sight of him every day, but also the learing eyes and questions from your co-workers.

 

Just my 2 cents. Good luck.

 

 

Wanting to end my current relationship has nothing to do with the new guy. I've been with the current bf for 4 and a half years. And it just isn't working anymore & it hasn't been for awhile now. This relationship is a huge issue, with many different issues that need to be dealt with.

 

I would like to build a friendship with the new guy, before jumping head first into a relationship with him. As far as asking people in the hospital about this guy, I probably wouldn't do that. I like to find things out on my own. But dating someone I work with - this might be a little different. Reason is because my floor of the hospital is moving at the end of the year to the hospital down the road. Basically, where I'm at right now will be just for out patients and where I'm going will be for just in patients. So when the floor moves I won't be working in the same building (campus) as this new guy.