How do people change overnight?

[EyeAlone]

Here are my short stories:

 

http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t309815/

http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t309949/

 

But in case you don't want to read them...I was dating a guy for a little over a year. The relationship was awesome. He always told me that he would be completely honest with me during the relationship if he had a problem. Well, one night we had a great phone conversation (we were in a LDR) and everything was completely normal. It actually seemed like one of our best conversations. But then the following day, out of nowhere he tells me that he didn't love me enough to be in a relationship with me and he's known that for the past 8 months. He was like a whole different person. He gave zero indication the previous night that he was going to do this.

 

How can someone do that???

[BoredAgain]

Here are my short stories:

 

http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t309815/

http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t309949/

 

But in case you don't want to read them...I was dating a guy for a little over a year. The relationship was awesome. He always told me that he would be completely honest with me during the relationship if he had a problem. Well, one night we had a great phone conversation (we were in a LDR) and everything was completely normal. It actually seemed like one of our best conversations. But then the following day, out of nowhere he tells me that he didn't love me enough to be in a relationship with me and he's known that for the past 8 months. He was like a whole different person. He gave zero indication the previous night that he was going to do this.

 

How can someone do that???

 

That sort of thing happens all the time. One day you're talking about marriage and kids, the next she/he is telling you "I just don't feel the same anymore." It's completely shocking.

 

How can someone do that? In some cases it's just a "crisis" that sets in overnight and it forces you to reconsider your entire life.

[EyeAlone]

In some cases it's just a "crisis" that sets in overnight and it forces you to reconsider your entire life.

This is completely foreign to me. Are you just lying in bed and then all of a sudden it hits you while you're trying to sleep? I'm not trying to be funny or anything; this really boggles me.

[sunflower11]

I was in a LDR too and also he changed overnight. But my ex started saying he was depressed and didn't see an end in sight etc...all of this after months of reassuring me he loved me and the distance didn't matter to him, he just gave up and walked away like that. Out of freaking nowhere.

[Sugarkane]

The ex that brought me here was exactly Like that. Afterwards his friend told me he was fickle. I mean what an understatement! If coarse no one told me this until the breakup. Too little, too late.

[lymtal1]

eyealone,

 

they don't change overnight. it usually is something that starts happening in their head and it finally gets to a point that they know they need to take some action. that could be because of an event in their lives, or possibly someone drives them there.

 

you will see this stated a bunch out here. eveything was great and then just one day out of the blue they did such and such. had been coming for some time. you did not notice it because you to an extent were blind so to speak. things were fine in your head.

 

the great phone conversation the night before is nothing more than him not wanting to hurt you. he cared in his way. and you because you had no clue might not have seen any of the signs over time in your conversations.

 

just know that you probably did not much wrong. you were probably a great girlfriend. one that someone will be luck enough to have hopefully soon. time to focus all your energy on you now, good luck.