It's been much better

[Kivu]

Hello everyone,

 

I've made a few posts over the last year about my relationship with my husband and how **** it is/was. The short version is that he refused to tell people we were married, he was talking to inappropriate women, and he was being abusive.

 

All of that has stopped, and it has been gone for about six months now. There were a couple of blips...but compared to the way things were before, when he was ignoring me and being the nastiest person he could to me, it's thousands of times better. He got angry at me once and threw his ring into the garden, but then spent days looking for it, and ordered a new one, and hasn't let it out of his sight since. He also got really drunk and called me an idiot on the street the other day, but he has since apologised.

 

That's it! That's pretty much the worst that has happened in six whole months. He hasn't threatened to leave me, he hasn't touched me in anger, hasn't been abusive at all, hasn't talked to inappropriate women, and has seemed to really value our relationship. Everyone knows he's married!

 

I know many of you wonder what the hell I see in him, but I know what I see in him, and he's been that person since he said he'd start putting me first in his life. He's been true to his word, and I do love him dearly, and I'm so glad I gave him this chance.

 

I think he just needed to mature a little...I'm looking forward to seeing what he's like in another six months

 

My sincere thanks to those of you who have helped me, talked to me, and gave me advice. I know I didn't follow that advice, but you have no idea how much you helped.