HeavenOrHell Posted December 12, 2011 Share Posted December 12, 2011 Anyone else in the same boat? It doesn't bother me too much, as I don't really celebrate either of them, although I feel some pressure because of people asking me if I'm spending it with him Makes me feel worse somehow, saying no, and then hearing how everyone else is spending it with partners/family etc, I'll be on my own xmas day, (partly through choice, had a couple of offers which didn't appeal), and probably new year's day, but seeing friends boxing day and the day after (the 27th will be a bank holiday in the UK). Not sure when I'm seeing him, sometime in January hopefully. I just want xmas over with to be honest. Link to post Share on other sites
wildgeese Posted December 12, 2011 Share Posted December 12, 2011 Luckily I will get to see him for a couple of days around Christmas, but not on New Year's. But for some reason I feel worse about NYE? I think it's because I'm a bit of a superstitious person and hate that we won't be starting our new year with a kiss together. And NYE just seems like more of a romantic, friend/lover holiday as opposed to Christmas which is more family based. I know, I know, silly! I am certainly counting my blessings that he'll be here for Christmas. Though my birthday is also on the 4th of January and we won't be able to celebrate that together either. The cons of LDRs. Link to post Share on other sites
Author HeavenOrHell Posted December 12, 2011 Author Share Posted December 12, 2011 It's good you'll see him at xmas I spent it with my partner last year, but not New Year's eve, maybe one day we'll see each other at NYE, if we make it that far Our birthdays are 3 1/2 weeks apart, not seen him on his birthday, only mine. Not sure what the pros of LDR's are!! Luckily I will get to see him for a couple of days around Christmas, but not on New Year's. But for some reason I feel worse about NYE? I think it's because I'm a bit of a superstitious person and hate that we won't be starting our new year with a kiss together. And NYE just seems like more of a romantic, friend/lover holiday as opposed to Christmas which is more family based. I know, I know, silly! I am certainly counting my blessings that he'll be here for Christmas. Though my birthday is also on the 4th of January and we won't be able to celebrate that together either. The cons of LDRs. Link to post Share on other sites
wildgeese Posted December 12, 2011 Share Posted December 12, 2011 It's good you'll see him at xmas I spent it with my partner last year, but not New Year's eve, maybe one day we'll see each other at NYE, if we make it that far Our birthdays are 3 1/2 weeks apart, not seen him on his birthday, only mine. Not sure what the pros of LDR's are!! It stinks that you won't get to spend Christmas with him, but hopefully you're still able to stay optimistic. And already having plans for New Year's is good! Hopefully you'll get to see him in January and have a little belated celebration of both holidays. Link to post Share on other sites
Phoenix01 Posted December 12, 2011 Share Posted December 12, 2011 I'm not gonna spend the holidays with my love either, because of many reasons (preparing for my final exams in college) and unfortunatelly me and my SO will only see eachother again in April, at my graduation. Long time, but have been worse. But yeah I know how bad it feels when ppl ask if you are gonna be with your partner and you have to say no. :/ Link to post Share on other sites
shayla Posted December 12, 2011 Share Posted December 12, 2011 NYE was our anniversary, so I will be looking forward to making new memories this year....the day we met, in fact, right out of the gate it wasn't good, we met during the day, and he ended up going to a party that night without giving me a second thought.... So any memory will be better than that one! Link to post Share on other sites
The Straightener Posted December 13, 2011 Share Posted December 13, 2011 Nobody and it doesn't bother me. I'm thankful I'm alive to see in the new year and not in jail or dead. Link to post Share on other sites
Author HeavenOrHell Posted December 13, 2011 Author Share Posted December 13, 2011 I'm thankful for lots of things too, but it doesn't mean I can't feel sad, lonely, depressed, or any other 'negative' emotion. Nobody and it doesn't bother me. I'm thankful I'm alive to see in the new year and not in jail or dead. Link to post Share on other sites
Author HeavenOrHell Posted December 13, 2011 Author Share Posted December 13, 2011 Sorry to hear that Hope you enjoy xmas, and new year's eve though. I'm not gonna spend the holidays with my love either, because of many reasons (preparing for my final exams in college) and unfortunatelly me and my SO will only see eachother again in April, at my graduation. Long time, but have been worse. But yeah I know how bad it feels when ppl ask if you are gonna be with your partner and you have to say no. :/ Link to post Share on other sites
wildgeese Posted December 13, 2011 Share Posted December 13, 2011 I'm thankful for lots of things too, but it doesn't mean I can't feel sad, lonely, depressed, or any other 'negative' emotion. Perhaps people aren't realizing that this thread is in under LDR? Of course you have every right to feel those things! Having a partner but not being able to share holidays with them is certainly cause for some sadness. Link to post Share on other sites
Linbus Posted December 15, 2011 Share Posted December 15, 2011 I will spend xmas day at my parents house, the 26th I'll go for a short holiday to London (I live in NL) and come back on the 29th. On the 30th I will travel to my bf till Jan. 7th. So we wills start the new year together Link to post Share on other sites
cerridwen Posted December 17, 2011 Share Posted December 17, 2011 Can't Skype with him HOH? I know it's not the same but I've done in for a few holidays and it was fun. We cooked dinner at the same time, b.s.ing from our remote locations. Thankfully we were in the same time zones. When we weren't, he made breakfast while I cooked dinner. I see this thread's a few days old. Still wrestling with being down about it all, friend? Link to post Share on other sites
Author HeavenOrHell Posted December 17, 2011 Author Share Posted December 17, 2011 Yes we can skype I thought he was going to be with his family on the 25th, but he's not til the 26th. I assumed he wasn't really into skype, but we've talked about it lately and he's happy to, so we've skyped more, which is nice I have to get a new laptop before I can use a cam in any room, only have a fixed one on on my desktop puter otherwise. I'm feeling fine about things at the moment, it's just been hard the last few months as work stress has taken him over, hasn't been much fun feeling like just a friend, it's improved though, so we'll see. Gonna see him early Jan, so am looking forward to that Thank you Can't Skype with him HOH? I know it's not the same but I've done in for a few holidays and it was fun. We cooked dinner at the same time, b.s.ing from our remote locations. Thankfully we were in the same time zones. When we weren't, he made breakfast while I cooked dinner. I see this thread's a few days old. Still wrestling with being down about it all, friend? Link to post Share on other sites
cerridwen Posted December 17, 2011 Share Posted December 17, 2011 Yes we can skype I thought he was going to be with his family on the 25th, but he's not til the 26th. I assumed he wasn't really into skype, but we've talked about it lately and he's happy to, so we've skyped more, which is nice I have to get a new laptop before I can use a cam in any room, only have a fixed one on on my desktop puter otherwise. I'm feeling fine about things at the moment, it's just been hard the last few months as work stress has taken him over, hasn't been much fun feeling like just a friend, it's improved though, so we'll see. Gonna see him early Jan, so am looking forward to that Thank you Treating yourself to a new laptop for Christmas just may be the trick, H. Think of it as an investment in your relationship. Otherwise, sitting together by the desktop is also good. Put some music on, pour some wine, have some laughs, and share some looks of longing. Won't be long until January. Link to post Share on other sites
Citizen Erased Posted December 17, 2011 Share Posted December 17, 2011 I'm having kinda the opposite problem this year, I have my husband but am now in a kind of LDR with my family and friends. It's hard, having one or the other. I hope your time goes quickly HOH, I remember how much I wished Christmas was over last year cos I was seeing Pyro shortly after that. And definitely stick with the Skype dates, I think you'll find it is nice to see him even when you're apart. Link to post Share on other sites
Author HeavenOrHell Posted December 18, 2011 Author Share Posted December 18, 2011 Thank you yes, we're going to skype more. Time seems to be going quickly, hurrah, and am seeing friends over xmas. Aw It must be hard not being with your friends and family. Hope you have a wonderful time with your hubby though I'm having kinda the opposite problem this year, I have my husband but am now in a kind of LDR with my family and friends. It's hard, having one or the other. I hope your time goes quickly HOH, I remember how much I wished Christmas was over last year cos I was seeing Pyro shortly after that. And definitely stick with the Skype dates, I think you'll find it is nice to see him even when you're apart. Link to post Share on other sites
downlowforyou Posted December 18, 2011 Share Posted December 18, 2011 aYaaaaeahhh... me to...alone both xmas eve and day..Gotta work also and my room-mate/ non-affection other is going out of town also with my kid. I may just seek a "friend"...who knows... Link to post Share on other sites
Omei Posted December 21, 2011 Share Posted December 21, 2011 I just got back from a week with my SO it was kinda like spending x-mas, we didn't do anything x-mas like but now that I am back just a few days before x-mas I feel like I can pay more attention to my family without being to sad. !!!!!!!Merry Christmas to everyone on the boards!!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
folieadeux Posted December 22, 2011 Share Posted December 22, 2011 I won't be spending the holidays with my fiance either. We have never been able to spend any major holidays together on the actual day now that I think about it, so I know how you feel. Even though I get to see him twice this month, it's still not the same. People's comments definitely make it worse though I find too. I tend to wish away the time too we're not together, which I know isn't good, but am just too excited to get on with my life. I take comfort in knowing this will be the last Christmas we'll have to spend apart. Link to post Share on other sites
folieadeux Posted December 25, 2011 Share Posted December 25, 2011 Hope everyone is having a good holiday! Link to post Share on other sites
Author HeavenOrHell Posted December 26, 2011 Author Share Posted December 26, 2011 To be honest, it was awful My partner has internet problems, so no skype, so all we had was a phone call xmas eve and xmas day, felt lonely and bored, he sounded so bored and not happy on the phone, it was my first xmas alone ever in my life, and hit me much harder that I thought it would, well I thought it be ok as we'd be skyping. Felt better in the eve for talking to friends. Seeing a friend today, so hopefully a better day today. Hope everyone else had a good day yesterday. Hope everyone is having a good holiday! Link to post Share on other sites
folieadeux Posted December 26, 2011 Share Posted December 26, 2011 To be honest, it was awful My partner has internet problems, so no skype, so all we had was a phone call xmas eve and xmas day, felt lonely and bored, he sounded so bored and not happy on the phone, it was my first xmas alone ever in my life, and hit me much harder that I thought it would, well I thought it be ok as we'd be skyping. Felt better in the eve for talking to friends. Seeing a friend today, so hopefully a better day today. Hope everyone else had a good day yesterday. I'm so sorry you had such a bad day HOH. Mine wasn't all that great either. I had some family pop over for a few and chatted with some friends but that was it. My family isn't that close so we don't have the usual get togethers most people do so I had nothing to keep my mind off of spending it alone. Everyone else was with their families or partners -- including my SO, which I totally understand, so I don't expect anyone to be around either to do things with. By the time last night came around I was itching to get back to work because I was that miserable. Honestly, I'm just glad it's over with at this point. I hope he got his internet problems resolved and that you're feeling a bit better today. Spending time with your friend will definitely help! Link to post Share on other sites
Author HeavenOrHell Posted December 26, 2011 Author Share Posted December 26, 2011 Aw, sorry yours wasn't great either My parents only live 20 miles away but they wanted to stay at home, I can't get to theirs as I don't drive. Today's been better as I've kept busy, I'll be glad to get back to work tomorrow. Just got to get NYE over with, but at least I'm seeing him later that week. You're seeing your SO NYE? I'm so sorry you had such a bad day HOH. Mine wasn't all that great either. I had some family pop over for a few and chatted with some friends but that was it. My family isn't that close so we don't have the usual get togethers most people do so I had nothing to keep my mind off of spending it alone. Everyone else was with their families or partners -- including my SO, which I totally understand, so I don't expect anyone to be around either to do things with. By the time last night came around I was itching to get back to work because I was that miserable. Honestly, I'm just glad it's over with at this point. I hope he got his internet problems resolved and that you're feeling a bit better today. Spending time with your friend will definitely help! Link to post Share on other sites
folieadeux Posted December 26, 2011 Share Posted December 26, 2011 Aw, sorry yours wasn't great either My parents only live 20 miles away but they wanted to stay at home, I can't get to theirs as I don't drive. Today's been better as I've kept busy, I'll be glad to get back to work tomorrow. Just got to get NYE over with, but at least I'm seeing him later that week. You're seeing your SO NYE? It's all good and I'm already starting to forget about it. We Skyped before too which helped tremendously. I'm going back to work tomorrow as well so that will fill up some time. Yep, we'll be together for NYE and will probably get together again some time in February. Link to post Share on other sites
Author HeavenOrHell Posted December 27, 2011 Author Share Posted December 27, 2011 That's good His skype was still slow last night, so we've not skyped at all, which is why it felt so awful, it makes such a difference. I'm expecting his skype to not work NYE too, maybe slow cos of all the 'traffic'. It's all good and I'm already starting to forget about it. We Skyped before too which helped tremendously. I'm going back to work tomorrow as well so that will fill up some time. Yep, we'll be together for NYE and will probably get together again some time in February. Link to post Share on other sites
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