I am always jittery and nervous

[NicoleM]

I am always jittery and nervous all the time especially in the morning and no I haven't consumed any caffeine. I constantly think about my off/on boyfriend and why did he do this and why is he doing this to me and why am I feeling like I am walking on eggshells? I am always,always nervous and jittery like I am a bowl full of jello always shaking. I try to explain it to my friends and family but they tell me to calm down and I cannot calm down because I kept thinking about him. My friends say you know you can just snap out of it and change the channel persay but it isn't that easy. I keep thinking and thinking and the more I think the more nervous and jittery I get. Yes I do suffer from OCD but I take medicine for that so I do not why I am obsessing and always nervous!

[cerridwen]

Maybe your OCD medication needs adjustment.

 

To Do:

1) Doctor's appointment.

2) Stress management (meditation, exercise, relaxation techniques, etc.).

3) Therapy for maybe some CBT for obsessive thinking?

4) Therapy to talk out your issues in a supportive setting.

5) Re-evaluation of this relationship that you often post about and seems to be causing much stress and unhappiness.

[whichwayisup]

See if this helps a bit.. Eat something light before going to bed. Whether it be peanutbutter sandwich or a bowl of cereal with fruit, or even a banana. Low blood sugar in the morning mimicks that shakey and anxiety feeling.

 

As for your stress and anxiety level due to everything else going on in your life, DO yoga! I'm not kidding, if you do this it'll help you physically feel better as well as emotionally. Yoga is kind of like chicken noodle soup when you're sick. Not a cure, but definitely can make you feel better.

[betterdeal]

I agree with the others - yoga is a great way to step out of the thinking pen and diet has a significant effect on our well-being. Thinking constructively in ways such as cerridwen has suggested can help you find peace and confidence in yourself. Also look into breathing exercises (which is part of yoga). Calming your breathing and making it more regular calms the heart, and that in turn calms down the mind. There's two way flow of information from the body to the mind and the mind to the body, so creating calm in one can create calm in the other.

 

Look into other enjoyable things like aromatherapy (geranium, lavender, frankincense are all calming scents) and massage, for instance.

 

And a simple walk can help clear your mind.

 

Whatever it is you're worrying about, it won't get any worse if you put it to one side for an hour.

[NicoleM]

I guess I need to de-stress my mind and do some Yoga. I just need to get away from this " problem" but the problem is he is still in my mind and I cannot seem to shake him out of my mind. This is why I need a long,long vacation and try and forget about him but it isn't that easy:sick:

[creighton0123]

While many of us can offer suggestions about what we do to manage stress or anxiety, if your symptoms are medical in nature, any form of relaxation will only put a stop gap in your symptoms.

 

If, for example, you were jittery in a sense where you had excess energy, exercise is a good way to boil that energy off.

 

Bring this up with your doctor. Your family and friends are most definitely not helping.

 

Telling someone who is suffering from anxiety to "calm down" or "snap out of it" is not helpful.

[betterdeal]

I guess I need to de-stress my mind and do some Yoga. I just need to get away from this " problem" but the problem is he is still in my mind and I cannot seem to shake him out of my mind. This is why I need a long,long vacation and try and forget about him but it isn't that easy:sick:

 

Yeah, switching the on / off thing to off will give you your peace of mind back. It's like a flickering neon sign in the periphery of your vision. Turn it to off and it'll stop bugging you.

 

Easier said than done, I know, but I and a couple of friends have been through roughly the same thing and are all much more rooted in the ground as a result.

[spiderowl]

Make sure to get plenty of sleep and eat reasonably well.

 

One thing I have found that helps me is to imagine that the thoughts that buzz around my head are annoying seagulls or bees buzzing around, irritating but not actually useful. I then tell them to buzz off and stop bothering me. Turning them into useless objects like this rather than serious thoughts that should be mulled over, relieves a lot of stress.

 

Also, I found that worrying thoughts ran through my head all the time and especially thoughts where I needed to do something at some point. Things like 'mustn't forget to ...' or 'if I don't do this something dreadful will happen'. I realised that these thoughts just stayed, buzzed around and wouldn't go away because I felt I had to deal with them in some way. I decided if I wrote them down in a notebook, it would get them out of my head and I could still refer to the notebook to see if there was anything I needed to do. In other words, I could relax once the thoughts were parked in a better place. It does work. It also helps me to concentrate on things that I want to focus on rather than feel unfocussed and 'all over the place'.

[happypanda21]

1) Eat a well balanced and healthy diet.

2) Physical activity. Yoga, running, weight lifting, basketball, anything that makes you sweat will help.

3) Meditation, at least twice a day, 30 min at a time.

4) Accept that you are the way you are. Worrying about being OCD or jittery will make it worse. It sounds kinda funny but this has helped me.

5) Prepare yourself to do 1-4 for several months. It takes awhile for the body to understand this, but the longer you do something, the more ingrained it becomes.

 

ps. you can also listen to classical music, get massages, take warm baths, light vanilla scented candles, and a host of other relaxing things during down time.

[FitChick]

Make the on/off boyfriend permanently off. No contact! When you are with the right man, you will feel happy and peaceful. That's how you will know. No drama!