LZ2000 Posted December 17, 2011 Share Posted December 17, 2011 This is a girl that routinely comes home, sour, loud and angry about work and takes it out on ME. I believe her job as a manager is full of **** and pointless stupid errands. That's the thing that's pissing her off. And she is pouring out all her anger and frustration unto you because she trusts you to deal with her negativity and bad moods. In short, it seems like you are her emotional pillar. I wouldn't pour out my negativity and issues to someone I deem as a stranger. The problem is that there is a limit to how much of it you can take. Correct me if I am wrong. Link to post Share on other sites
Author ARDriver01 Posted December 19, 2011 Author Share Posted December 19, 2011 No, that-that sounds about right... I'm back home now, we had a long conversation about lines and limits. I believe we have madea big step forward. Thanks to all of youz for the advice and funny trolling. It helped me to make a good conversation with my fiancé. Link to post Share on other sites
BetheButterfly Posted December 20, 2011 Share Posted December 20, 2011 (edited) We've been together for three years, engaged for about one year. We returned from her office Christmas party, (she's the resident property manager of our apartment) and we're pretty buzzed. We take the dog for a walk and one of her residents flags us down to ask a "work-related" question; he wants to know if he can put up some Christmas lights in his window, to which I respond "Sure, that seems fine..." and my fiancé says "excuse me, YOU don't work here so just be quiet for a second." I try to let it go afterwards, as she complains about this particularly annoying resident. Then she goes "and furthermore, it really pisses me off when you try to talk to our residents as if you work here and know of their individual situations. This is MY job and you just live here" etc... basically just goes off on me. So, I become super defensive and I curse her out. I say "f**k you, you're out of your mind if you think you can talk to me like that in front of people, how dare you, f**k you, now I know how important it is, to you, that I know my place, try and condescend me in front of somebody one more time and see what happens, f**k you" etc... She says I'm just drunk, throws a beer to me, says goodnight and leaves. So now I'm awake, 4 hours later and I'm even more mad. She's still gone and I feel like smearing feces on her pillow. I know that my anger is valid and I'm still shocked that she did me like that in front of a neighbor. I'm beginning to question my attraction to her because of this. I think this revealing situation may have REALLY put a damper on our plans for June 2012. Does anyone have some sound advice? I'm clearly not drunk, neither of us has a drinking problem, so I would appreciate it if you wouldn't respond from the AA Bible. It was just a Christmas party. Thank you I think anyone who curses at his or her loved one has serious issues and needs help... maybe you should consider AA, even though you don't see yourself as a drunk. The first step is always recognizing what you need to change. Also wanting to put excrement anywhere except the toilet is also a serious sign of a person having issues. If I knew your girlfriend, I'd advise her to break up with you, cause that is seriously sad that her boyfriend even thinks things like that against her. What kind of a relationship is that? Good luck to you, and I hope the next Christmas party you go to would be to help people, not to get drunk. Edited December 20, 2011 by BetheButterfly Link to post Share on other sites
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