Ive just had major revenge :0 :D XD

[wilsonx]

Actually I care... trolls like you need to be put in your place every once in a while

 

Nothing more refreshing then a person with < 10 posts doing it

 

I understand you are trying to help people but do not come in threads and try to whip shop and say I or other people do not know what we are talking about.

 

I am captain save a hoe specialist. Human behavior is the same no matter what. The only thing that's different are the people involved

Edited December 15, 2011 by wilsonx

[davesterr]

wilsonx get your head out of ur azz man.

i never said anyone doesn't know what they talking about.

u started disliking my advice.

then started complaining cuz i called a guy's ex a whore when you called her a hoe.

pot calling the kettle black.

smokey bear started to follow you up cuz she has personal issues.

and this guy who made a new account cuz hes hiding from his past is here getting offended cuz i have my own opinion based on the topic starters story.

 

you think really high of yourself thats cool with me.

i give you props for your persistency yet i am amazed how someone can get rejected 300 times in the last 6 months.

if that would happen to me i would start to think something is really wrong with me.

honestly though i really don't care about your life since i don't know you.

i simply just don't get why you come here blaming me for stuff i didn't do.

saying im the one who tells people they don't know what they're talking about when that has never happened.

 

then there's smokeybear who everyone calls immature.

then again who cares about that either?

again not trying to pick a fight cuz that's not why im here.

 

and finally you got this tool who spends his day researching my background stories to backup a rant post against me that he said without any proof claiming he ''knew who i was'' before even doing his research simply because i didn't agree with him.

outcome after an hour of research? nothing except a waste of time.

toomany people come here to be right instead of simply offering advice.

 

seriously i don't get why you people are all offended.

but then again as mentioned before i really don't care.

Edited December 15, 2011 by davesterr

[gibson]

too many people come here to be right instead of simply offering advice.

 

Like it or not, I offered advice which was correct.

 

Violating someone's personal space and their privacy is not only wrong on so many levels, it's also illegal!

 

You then attacked me since you feel justified and believe it's your right to do that.

 

If you offer advice that is illegal and can land you in jail, I'm sorry... I'm going to call you out on it.

 

If you would have said... man that sucks, I know it's hard stuff, I'm sorry you are going through that... You are good.

[davesterr]

actually i respect your opinion as it is.

do i agree with it 100%? no.

does is matter what i think? no.

only reason i post in here is to help the topicstarter.

as many others on here recently , you take stuff personal.

im not interested to ''attack'' anyone yet you see it as that.

 

stop trying to care as much what others think about your post.

just do ur best helping the topic starter and let it be.

if you want followers then create a tumblr or twitter.

do you want a fanclub? start a website.

but on here i thought we all came just to offer advice and not win a popularity contest by who's right or wrong.

[wilsonx]

thats the problem you dont understand, you are so self centered that you do not see the big picture.

 

I called a person, captain save a hoe. I did not call his ex anything. You called his ex a whore with pure judgement and then you later tried to recant it saying either an attention whore or one that works for money. This is where your immaturity comes in to question.

 

I see big picture, I see why she is the way she is. Her past, her present. You judged straight up without being able to put yourself in her shoes.

 

Now you judge smokey and call her immature. I do not see immature, I see egocentric. I see someone that wants to help people and has more real life knowledge on being the hoe in captain save a hoe relationships then I do but she's a bit young and still learning.

 

At the same time you are passing information based on no real world experience and get excited when someone agrees with you. Look at your posts, they are paragraphs on paragraphs of useless information with sentences to validate the uselessness of them. This is a huge sign of insecurity. You are unable to let go of anything, that last thread this went on in you kept on and on and on and I just let it go but you kept bringing up my name.

 

There's a saying, respect your elders. They have so much useful knowledge to share with us. Read gibson's other post about the universal truth. I am sure you have. That post should be stickied on this forum

 

Now I am going to tell you straight up, get your head out of your ass, grow up and stop acting like a self centered know it all kid because you do not know anything yet. Go out, experience the real world, get hurt like everyone else on this forum has, go experience a captain save a hoe relationship and come back and share your experience with it.

[davesterr]

rofl funny about calling me know it all when i never claimed i was right.

in any case i was right is was because the topic starter admitted it.

yet you pass your own advice as ''one of the greatest advice ever''

when you requoted your post about waves on an ocean...

 

also in that post you claimed you were right and knew the whole story a 100%

when that is impossible since you can only give your best judgement since you don't even know the people.

me and others already pointed this out but yet you ignored it.

then again that's cool with me if you think you somehow know stuff that is impossible to know.

maybe your a psychic who knows.

 

you can say you called the guy captain save a hoe.

but isn't it a hoe he is saving then?

or atleast something in that matter?

as pointed out before , it is calling his ex a hoe indirectly.

anyways im not gonna bring different threads into this one.

the guy who started this prolly is confused as heck.

 

also thanks for calling my posts of advice useless.

but as many others have said , they liked it alot.

they're not written for you to read or to like.

so if you have a problem with it , why bother reading what i post?

no one is forcing you.

again i don't see how this is a problem.

 

and me not letting go?

it's called standing up for yourself.

im not gonna let a bunch of 30 year olds who take stuff on this site personal call me out for no reason because they got nothing better to do.

but honestly i don't give a crap.

 

thanks for giving me your ''advice'' on how i should live my life.

but honestly , i rather not take it from someone who gets rejected 300 times within 6 months.

persistency or not , maybe you should stop thinking your always ''right'' and look at yourself and think: huh i keep getting rejected over and over.

maybe something is wrong with me.

then again who am i to give advice right? lol.

i'll just leave it here.

 

elders or not , you all take stuff too personal and act immature claiming your right and by pointing fingers at who's wrong.

seriously it's just pathetic.

don't like what i post? don't read it.

Edited December 15, 2011 by davesterr

[PelicanPete]

thats the problem you dont understand, you are so self centered that you do not see the big picture.

 

I can't resist pointing out how ironic this is.

 

 

I am captain save a hoe specialist. Human behavior is the same no matter what. The only thing that's different are the people involved

 

I see big picture, I see why she is the way she is. Her past, her present. You judged straight up without being able to put yourself in her shoes.

 

Look at your posts, they are paragraphs on paragraphs of useless information with sentences to validate the uselessness of them. This is a huge sign of insecurity. You are unable to let go of anything,

 

hmm..

[gibson]

Pelican,

 

Wilson has at least been in the war and fought some battles and actually really dated several women.

 

Dave is an alright guy, but would he not be better served, focusing his energy in the dating forum and not on some girl he dated a year and a half ago who he met a couple of times and just kissed twice. Considering his lack of any dating experience at 23 or 24, I'm not sure attacking several members (including me, a new one) is really where he should be focusing his energy.

 

Do you?

[PelicanPete]

I agree with you Gibson, which is why I didn't say anything about supporting Daves decisions or argument, did I?

[RecordProducer]

Also:

6. If someone cheats on me, it's not my problem they cheated, it's theirs.

 

Well it is your problem because your left feeling as though theres a problem with you or something youve done!

But rules are rules: if somebody cuts your leg off, it's not your problem that they committed a crime, it's theirs. No?

 

All this reminded me that i was right all along *

It's really sad how we don't trust our intuitions.

 

Read gibson's other post about the universal truth. I am sure you have. That post should be stickied on this forum

Ironically, Gibson objects to certain means of discovering the universal truth: that people are full of shyt!

[Sugarkane]

To the OP I could hardly blame you for being angry and wanting revenge. Who wouldn't? Why are people getting angry at the OP for? This woman was far from decent herself. I can't stand it when they gaslight you, play victim and paint you black. Lots if these dumpers play victim and turn everyone against you, even though they're in the wrong. To get over you. Since was lying and cheating being decent? The OP should be glad he found out what type of person this woman is. Sounds like she deserved the consequences. I wish karma happened more often. What goes around comes around.

[Sugarkane]

Since when do you post on Facebook about your new bf, if you're still with the old one?! Sounds passive aggressive.

[gibson]

But rules are rules: if somebody cuts your leg off, it's not your problem that they committed a crime, it's theirs. No?

 

If I am cheated on, the way I see it, they did me favor by not wasting my time. I am not okay with cheater, I do not date people that cheat or someone I think would cheat on me. I won't even be friends with someone who is okay / cheats.

 

There are many posters on here that "stole" their BF / GF from someone else and then are shocked that their now Ex doesn't have the morals, character and honesty to be honest and truthful with them.

 

Many of the posters on here were not cheated on just once, but multiple times and continued to take them back time and time again.

 

Many of the posters here talk about all the red flags and warning signs they saw with their Ex but sure enough... they proceed where angels fear to tread and are surprised by the outcome they "saw" beforehand.

 

So in a way, many of the people on here are basically chopping their own legs off, their Ex was just the hacksaw they did it with.

 

Ironically, Gibson objects to certain means of discovering the universal truth: that people are full of shyt!

 

Apparently, you keep catching the same kind of fish. Maybe you should try changing the bait (whatever it is about you that attracts and is attracted to cheaters) and fish in a different pond.

 

Why the hell would you ever be with someone who is cheating on you or you think is cheating on you?

 

That makes ZERO sense to me. Nobody has yet to explain that to me.

 

Of course if you were cheated on it's going to hurt like hell. Does it mean you can't be upset and angry? Of course you can be and should be! Are wounded, the ego and self-esteem take a hit? Of course they do! It's going to take time to get over? Goes without saying!

 

I'm sorry if that point is missed in my posts...

[Eeyore79]

So you posted one of her comments on her Facebook page for everyone to see. Where's the proof that she even said that, and you didn't just make it up to take a shot at her? There's no proof, because her family and friends aren't going to hack into her account to see if she actually said that. It's your word against hers, and who do you think they're going to believe?

 

She'll just say "I have no idea what he's talking about, Brian is nuts", and they'll all agree with her, and everyone will move on. Except now they'll be hating on you even more because you tried to take a shot at her. So all you accomplished is making yourself look like a bitter spiteful ex who can't get over the breakup.

 

All you accomplished is that she now knows you still give a s*** and she has hurt you enough for you to post crap on her Facebook.

[thebig-guy]

Ok this thread seems to have exploded since i last sent my message!

 

without using any quotes, im fully aware this has made me look very immature and spiteful in hers and her families eyes... But does that matter? I really dont care what they think of me. Im much more bothered about my personal healing and pride. Im not lying when i say this but since exposing her to everyone. I feel like ive completed a huge puzzle and can safely say i was "A good partner".

 

Most of the points in this thread are pretty valid. But overall i think the main victim here was her, not me. Shes fallen in love with someone else, thats not a crime at all, not her fault! But because of that its concluded in me becoming extremely hurt. And i wont blame anyone but her and i have a right to do this.

 

I am not ashamed to say that im selfish. If i loved her that much i should have put her feelings first? But when im being hurt that much i will never let myself fall apart for a woman, no matter how beautiful she is. I think this shows that i am able to deal with a situation like this, by putting ME before anyone else.

 

... Ill always have a giggle at this though:

 

"Ive not done anything sexually with brian, i promise"

 

She did actually, so she lied to him as well! Shown herself up completely there and her family will know that what i wrote on her social account was true, you cant make something up like that XD

[Sugarkane]

I think she was the selfish one, stringing you and the other guy along. If I was seeing someone and they were lying to me and they were still with their ex aswell, I'd want to know about it. This guy is an idiot if he stays with her. Let her cheat on him aswell. Let him find out what she's really like.

[thebig-guy]

yeah that is a valid point. I actually have sympathy for her because she underestimated how much i would expose her. I think her intentions were to let me down lightly so noone got hurt..

 

She is a big believer in being honest and loyalty. so its good to see this finally come to justice. And what i didnt say is that she already has alot of personal secrets that her family dont know about her from her past... I should have realised that this was a clear sign that she is a massive coward and lier.

[thebig-guy]

Ok so I read all this thread and apart from the tripe between you and gibson gave each other it pretty interesting, well at least for me I've been in a similar situation.

 

My ex had cheated before and we got back together (save the lectures I know it was a mistake).

 

When we broke up 3 years further on I suspected even though we had our problems someone else was involved, I knew who just couldn't prove it. I truly though this woman had changed, and yes I did (and part of me still does) truly love her. I asked her straight up for months, and in spite of all the evidence continued to lie to me. This is called gaslighting. Altering someone else's perception of reality and I got to a point where I didn't trust myself or my gut anymore, because I would get told what I am feeling is wrong.

 

So yes like you I went into her 'social networking account' and found out the truth. I didn't do anything to her apart from tell her I knew the truth and that was it.

 

Yes hacking is unethical and wrong, and I still feel terrible that I actually had to resort to this to find out the truth. I was with my partner for 6 years and I didn't snoop on her, I trusted her.

 

Here comes the BUT! :-)

 

BUT, there is only one person you can truly rely on, and that is yourself. If you feel something is wrong, it probably is. If you get to a stage like myself where I was going a little crazy believing her lies, do whatever the hell you have to, to make yourself better.

 

If it was true love..or true love had existed in the relationship then you would either still be together or she would have had the decency to tell you the truth when you broke up, but like my ex she didn't so its not true love. When the lies, deceit, betrayal and gaslighting start, now that's war. And all is fair in love and war.

 

If the CIA/MI5 whatever hacked into a terrorist cell to find out the truth that tomorrow they we're planning an attack, do you think anyone would be whineing about a violation of trust and privacy....I think not.

 

Hope you get better soon mate

 

Agree strongly.

 

I also completely respected her privacy while seeing her. I NEVER snooped into her private space while things were good. Im naturally a trusting person, which is probably why ive accepted her bull**** for the past 2 months.

 

I think with both our stories though, once a claim has been made (lie), it becomes harder and harder to tell the truth as time goes on, so the person will continute to lie until you give up. But I NEVER give up. I was too stubborn to accept blaim for this horror story. It got to the point where she was 'swearing down' on family members lives that this guy was not involved in our breakup!

 

Well i guess all that is worth thinking about now for me is what i have learned, so i can take this experience and hopefully make my future relationships more successful...

[kvinna]

...wish I could PM you, but I'm still a newbie here. I'd ask how you did it.

[Sugarkane]

I laughed when you described your ex as " being a believer in honesty and loyalty". Obviously she was far from it.