YellowShark Posted December 18, 2011 Share Posted December 18, 2011 I agree, "it's just a website." But it is a website that has a ton of personal information on it put there by YOU the user. And it is a website that anyone with nefarious intentions can exploit to find out all sorts of information about you... including what you look like, where you live, who your friends are, etc. Hell it even tags you and your friends names in photos for their convenience. Now before you die-hard Facebookians flame me some more because you don't like to hear what I am saying I put to you that you couldn't ask for a better repository of information for identity theft, stalking, and creeping anywhere on the entire internet. It's nothing like a bank or Amazon.com. The best part is people defend it's value to the death and casually brush off that even the Creator and CEO's personal information was hacked just a couple weeks ago. So much for all the full-proof security measures you'all wave in my face. Nor do any of you seem to have an issue that Facebook uses your personal information and sells that information to third parties you don't even know exist. Well sorry, that's just too much risk, and manipulation for me to brush it off as a "convenient way to stay in touch with friends and family." Call me the anti-christ if you wish. One day Facebook will go the way of AOL, Compuserve, MySpace, etc... then oh my god... what will you all do? Link to post Share on other sites
Zabs Posted December 18, 2011 Share Posted December 18, 2011 :laugh:@ Yellow Backbone and conviction! Likey! xx Much love Zabs xx Link to post Share on other sites
Eddie Edirol Posted December 18, 2011 Share Posted December 18, 2011 Now we've got the unpleasantries over, I shall veer dangerously close to the topic at hand. If temptation is put in front of you when you are at a vulnerable moment, you are more likely to take it. Facebook creates conditions for that to happen. What may have been a temporary break, when two people could collect their thoughts and calm down, can easily be shredded by a horny interloper wanting instant gratification. And even if one party has a meaningless f*ck whilst on such as break to take their mind off things, the chances of such an indiscretion being made visible to the other party is much greater now, thanks to Facebook, and that can by the final finger poking in the wound to push that person away for good. . You just proved my point twice. Everything youre talking about isnt made any greater than facebook, because you can say the same thing about the workplace. And that means....whoever wants to stray will stray no matter how the means. That also means, they werent getting their needs met (feeling vunerable) by the person they are taking a break from, which is the fault of that person, not face book. Facebook doesnt make it any more likely than work, or the club, or the supermarket, if someone is looking to swing from one branch to another. If a person wants to be tempted, then the person they were with created that condition, not facebook. Link to post Share on other sites
fiat500 Posted December 19, 2011 Share Posted December 19, 2011 does facebook actually ruin relationships or does it just make it easier for people to do what they are eventually going to do anyway? maybe facebook haters give people in general too much credit. a lot of people would cheat if given the chance. and if it's not on facebook it will be at work or somewhere else. yes, it's earth shattering to find out your significant other is inappropriately flirting/having an affair over FB but it's actually a god send to know it sooner than be blindsided with it later. your significant other is obviously a very different person than how you pictured them to be and if they have no control over themselves and engage in real straying behavior while they're in a relationship than they're morons and not the type of person you want to be with. facebook doesn't turn people into cheaters or ruins relationships. if someone is seriously cultivating another relationship over an online social network while they're still in an established one then it's really f##king pathetic. it just exposes all of these cheaters to be the as*holes they really are. Link to post Share on other sites
NYC-BigKat Posted December 19, 2011 Share Posted December 19, 2011 I dont even know how it ruins relatioships when I cant get one started on there for the life of me & I'm still trying without success. Most girls act mean, ignore me, or just friend me just to collect but dont let me get to know them. Its unfair but at least the op had a gf. Link to post Share on other sites
Woggle Posted December 19, 2011 Share Posted December 19, 2011 I dont even know how it ruins relatioships when I cant get one started on there for the life of me & I'm still trying without success. Most girls act mean, ignore me, or just friend me just to collect but dont let me get to know them. Its unfair but at least the op had a gf. I think you have to already be in a relationship or better yet married in order to be able to hook up with somebody on Facebook. Link to post Share on other sites
fiat500 Posted December 19, 2011 Share Posted December 19, 2011 I think you have to already be in a relationship or better yet married in order to be able to hook up with somebody on Facebook. woggle's right. besides being a celebrity, being taken turns anyone into an instant magnet Link to post Share on other sites
nevadagirl Posted December 19, 2011 Share Posted December 19, 2011 I left the world of facebook for a few months and the less I was on it the less I missed it. When I came back to it I realized I'd missed nothing. Nothing. Facebook is the reason I'm depressed today - yea sure you can say "just don't look!" but meh. It's been months. I'd blocked him for awhile, unblocked him for reasons I wont' go into, then ended up saying **** it and gave a friend my password. So when I came back to FB I noticed he'd blocked mine - and I was very happy about this. Then he unblocked me at some point - know how I know? I typed in the letter "F" into the search bar and he's the first ****ing name that appears. I could block his again but why give the jerk the power. So yea sure you can argue Facebook has its good qualities when you're not in a relationship or going through a breakup that is. But during all that ****? Welcome to hell. It's ****ing hell. You know what's worse? Vindictive exes. The ones who make it all public. The ones that want you to know that their life is so much better. And their life is so much better! Look at all those pictures of them having fun! With new attractive people! Their life is better without you! And it's your fault for looking! You human! **** facebook. Link to post Share on other sites
betterdeal Posted December 19, 2011 Share Posted December 19, 2011 You just proved my point twice. Everything youre talking about isnt made any greater than facebook, because you can say the same thing about the workplace. And that means....whoever wants to stray will stray no matter how the means. That also means, they werent getting their needs met (feeling vunerable) by the person they are taking a break from, which is the fault of that person, not face book. Facebook doesnt make it any more likely than work, or the club, or the supermarket, if someone is looking to swing from one branch to another. If a person wants to be tempted, then the person they were with created that condition, not facebook. There you go again, Eddie, blaming the injured party and defending the means by which the people who have done the dirty cause the injury. Does this assuage some guilt of yours for being a cunt to someone in the past? The injury is not only the act of flirting / boning but the public nature of such. Rubbing someone's face in it is not as easy to do in the workplace or at the club. Do you think Hilary doesn't know Bill is a randy goat? Do you think she was more, or less, injured by his essentially immaterial activities being publicised? Someone flirting with the boss / secretary whilst the other half is not present is one thing. Putting it in writing and publishing it to your shared friends is one great big f*ck you. And your assertion that people will be ungracious, unthoughtful, indiscreet with less means by which to do so is palpably absurd. Facebook creates an opportunity. It's not all fluffy clouds and buddies chewing the fat about the game. But, by all means, keep your head rammed firmly up your arse and ignore both the logical arguments and the personal experiences detailed on this thread. Why let silly little things like facts and reason interfere with your delusions? Link to post Share on other sites
Pyro Posted December 19, 2011 Share Posted December 19, 2011 It's one of the dumbest inventions ever. I am proud to say I don't have a page. If you ask me Myspace was better. On Myspace you could put music, graphics and all this cool stuff on it but Facebook is pretty much a narcissist's dream. you just told us a few weeks back that you have a page to keep in contact with some friends. Chopped nothing! My plan is to turn up on your doorstep soon. You, Pyro and I will cram onto the couch, all three of us in Snuggies. pfft no snuggie for me. Link to post Share on other sites
wilsonx Posted December 19, 2011 Share Posted December 19, 2011 If someone left you for a temptation as easily as some creeper or creepy off facebook, then you dodged a bullet. It shows their emotional maturity level and commitment to a relationship. I have friends that are married with each having 1000+ friends on their facebook page and each of them get hit on all the time but something must be working in their relationships with one another that keeps that temptation at bay. Its called emotional Intelligence and maturity something a lot of people we have dated or are dating on this forum seem to lack. Everyone here that blames facebook is afraid to look in the mirror and say damn there might have been something wrong with me in the relationship, whether it be my insecurities or maybe the relationship in general was dumb and I was too scared to walk away. Cowards blame everyone else but themselves. And you know what, embracing the pain of a breakup and focusing inward on you instead of an object like facebook or person like your ex allows you to grow and mature. Link to post Share on other sites
betterdeal Posted December 19, 2011 Share Posted December 19, 2011 If someone left you for a temptation as easily as some creeper or creepy off facebook, then you dodged a bullet. It shows their emotional maturity level and commitment to a relationship. I have friends that are married with each having 1000+ friends on their facebook page and each of them get hit on all the time but something must be working in their relationships with one another that keeps that temptation at bay. Its called emotional Intelligence and maturity something a lot of people we have dated or are dating on this forum seem to lack. Everyone here that blames facebook is afraid to look in the mirror and say damn there might have been something wrong with me in the relationship, whether it be my insecurities or maybe the relationship in general was dumb and I was too scared to walk away. Cowards blame everyone else but themselves. And you know what, embracing the pain of a breakup and focusing inward on you instead of an object like facebook or person like your ex allows you to grow and mature. More assumptive, simplistic twaddle. Its quite possible to accept there are a range of factors involved in any break up, including your own shortcomings, and still discuss one messianic commercial enterprise's part in the demise. It's like trying to clean up a mess you, they or both of you made whilst someone's sat there revving the muck-spreader beside you. Link to post Share on other sites
Randybrandt Posted December 19, 2011 Share Posted December 19, 2011 I can relate. Facebook killed my relationship and then some:sick: My girlfriend made her facebook more secure she hid things from me made it so I couldn't see her wall,etc at first I thought hmm maybe she is just being private. Wrong! I happened to know she was talking to some other guy writing on his wall,etc,etc she said it was nothing and I later found out from my mates she is already in a relationship with another guy while I had no clue. I mean I had a clue but wasn't exactly sure and didn't quite have prove and when my mate told me she changed her status to single to in a relationship that pretty much killed that relationship and once again it was all thanks to facebook. Nothing is private folks nothing! Link to post Share on other sites
Woggle Posted December 19, 2011 Share Posted December 19, 2011 Technically I do have a page but it is completely blank. Link to post Share on other sites
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