She wants a kiss.....

[SD_Sniper]

Ok, heres the deal, my gf wants a kiss. And, put simply I'm just a little inexperienced in that particular area. I've watched failed attempts and don't really want to end up like that. And for a guy thats been afraid of almost nothing for most of my life, this is all very strangely terrifying.

 

Well, my goal is to get as much advice from those of you out there that are a little more experienced, I'm especially interested in what not to do.

[bluechocolate]

don't clash teeth

 

if you're really unsure at first, follow her lead

 

and once you get past the first one your fears will be gone

 

otherwise there is nothing to help you but practice, practice, practice

 

you're a marksman?? - you should know that !!

[SD_Sniper]

Well, I was under the impression that putting a bullet through something, and kissing were only slightly different. Ya know? Sorta like the difference between killing and love?

 

But, thank you for the pointer, I'm open to any more suggestions you or anybody else may have.

[moimeme]

Don't let the movies be your guide. It often looks as though the folks are being rough and violent. If you try the same, it'll be a big bust. Go for gentle and soft. If there's passion there, things will heat up naturally.

 

Here are some do's and don'ts

 

http://www.askheartbeat.com/html/coop12.html

 

http://teenadvice.about.com/library/weekly/aa010203a.htm

[MollyBloom]

Hey hun,

 

Kudos to you for wanting to do it right. I actually goofed the first time that I was kissed. It's weird to think back on that--I was 12, but we felt so grown up. My problem was that I had never considered how it would feel. I didn't expect it to be so wet (can you believe it!). Embarrassed, I said, "Hrm, let's try that again." After that, it went quite well.

 

Firstly, go to any lengths necessary to be sure that you have good breath. I once met a guy that I avoided as friends because he had chronic bad breath. Carry some mints with you, and if you get really comfortable and playful, you and your girlfriend can even pass these back and forth between you with your tongues! Along the lines of preparation, if you don't already use lip gloss, start now. Chapped lips are a huge turn-off.

 

Back to the basics: When the mood is right, lean in to kiss her. Don't wait too long if it is obviously time for the kiss. Delaying the inevitable will only make both of you nervous and shy. Be sure to tilt your head to the side as you lean in. My guy and I usually go left. Subtlely wet your lips to make them smooth for her. Now, kiss her. Since you're the guy and all of your features are probably bigger, I would go for her bottom lip. Move in gingerly so that you don't hit each other's teeth. "Hug" her lip with yours, applying as much pressure as you see appropriate. That's your basic kiss. As you find out what she likes, you can add variations like tracing the inner rim of her lip with your tongue, varying speeds, changing lips (how you sync up), etc. And of course, there is the infamous french kiss.

 

 

Most of all, relax and enjoy yourself. As long as you keep moving (no dead fish!), you should be all right. Follow your girlfriend's lead.

 

Bon Chance,

 

MollyBloom

 

P.S.

You can practice on the back of your hand (in privacy )

[bluechocolate]

Well, I was under the impression that putting a bullet through something, and kissing were only slightly different. Ya know? Sorta like the difference between killing and love?

 

Well, I was talking about the concept of practicing to get something right. Ya know?

[SD_Sniper]

I understand the concept of practice. But everything about this sort of practice is different. I'm a marksman, not a lover, sorry. Ya Know?

 

Thank you MollyBloom for your suggestions.

 

And to the rest of you out there: Any suggestions for leading up to the kiss? Like when? What to do? What to say maybe? I can't really practice that!....

[UCFKevin]

Line up your sights.

 

Adjust for wind.

 

One kiss, one kill. That's all it takes.

 

No wait....

[capitald]

C'mon now sniper, you don't need our help with this. Just kiss her and if she doesn't like what you do then she isn't the right one for you.

[moimeme]

I don't agree. Not everybody is born a good kisser. IMHO, it's worth it for everyone to read up on tips and techniques for all aspects of lovemaking from kissing to the final crescendo. Nobody is so fantastic that s/he can't learn another thing or two.

[SD_Sniper]

Wow, I never thought you guys would be so much help. Almost like telling me which end of a gun the bullet comes out of......

 

Dear Mr. Capi...something

 

I already know she wants me to kiss her, I want to know the finer points of doing it well.

 

 

Line up your sights.

 

Adjust for wind.

 

One kiss, one kill. That's all it takes.

 

No wait....

 

 

First, we're talking close range here, so wind shouldn't matter. Perhaps pointers on what caliber would help? If I was looking to score a kill, I'd simply go for the neck. And just one shot?

 

 

Check Mirage, Adjust, Center, Steady, Deep breath, Release....hold....squeeze....

[SD_Sniper]

Wow, I never thought you guys would be so much help. Almost like telling me which end of a gun the bullet comes out of......

 

Note: Doesn't apply to those who have helped, thank you, and more would be greatly appreciated.

 

I really do need help with this particular kind of thing, I'd rather go to a paintball range than a dance. I'm afraid I must admit, I'm simply not a lover.

[MollyBloom]

Do you all have a date planned? Something like cuddling up together on the sofa is the perfect set-up for a good kiss. I wouldn't make a huge deal out of it--you want to express your love and affection for her physically, not put on a show. You don't have to say anything, hun, you'll be kissing her But if you want, while giving her a hug, you can softly whisper in her ear, "May I kiss you?" That's a nice chivalrous touch for the first time.

[UCFKevin]

You're kinda overdoing the whole fighter not a lover thing. How old are you?

 

A pointer: DONT TALK ABOUT SHOOTING.

 

Anyway.

 

Just be soft and gentle. Don't thrust your tongue in there. Maybe lightly put your hands on her face as you kiss her.

[SD_Sniper]

A pointer: DONT TALK ABOUT SHOOTING.

 

I really don't that much, I'm only replying that way to those who choose to stress it. I won't talk about it if you wont....

 

You're kinda overdoing the whole fighter not a lover thing. How old are you?

 

First, I'm sixteen. And, as far as the fighter/lover thing, I'm just stating a fact. I'll tell you a little story:

 

To begin, my parents have never been married, I've never met my father.

I lived in Oroville CA for the first six years of my life. While there, my mother dated many many guys, most of them Alcoholics. I was about four years old, and my mother got into a fight with her bf. (I believe he was drunk) He pushed her across the room, into a window. I sit there watching my mother bleeding. And my mothers bf (probably ex by then) advanced towards her, obviously not finished. What I then did was go and get the pellet gun (I don't remember who owned it) in our house and I shot my mothers boyfriend in the back. It was a one shot deal, there was no reloading. He turns around clearly extremely angry. I remember being quite severely beaten that day. But when he was finished beating me up, luckily he left. Then I called 911, my mother spent time in the hospital for the cuts from the window. I had a dislocated shoulder and internal bleeding. From that day on, I made a connection between Love and trouble. I also knew nothing but fighting. My mother never did completely recover, became very depressed and began smoking marijuana. One of her friends turned her in, the court found her an unfit mother, and so I now live with my grandparents. (By the way, my grandfather is a recovering Alcoholic) The connections that were made by me where as follows: Fight to survive, Love equals trouble, and Boyfriends are bad people (thusly I never wanted to be one) I've never experienced or even seen true love. I know differently about love now, but some of the experiences I had in california will probably shape the rest of my life.

 

Now, ten years later from most of these experiences, I meet this girl.....

[UCFKevin]

Sorry about what happened, but don't let them run your life or ruin your life either. s*** happens, that's how the world works, and it usually happens to good people, but you grow up, and you learn and you live. Experience things. Don't let what you thought you knew about life ruin things.

 

And you're only 16. That's no big deal. I didn't kiss a girl until I was 18, and I didn't care too much.

 

You can get advice up the yingyang but what it'll all come down to is how you do it, how naturally you do it. We can't really tell you what to do, you just have to do it and learn what to do and what not to do. That's basically it. That's basically life.

[SD_Sniper]

I didn't kiss a girl until I was 18, and I didn't care too much.

 

Well, that makes me feel lucky.

 

We can't really tell you what to do, you just have to do it and learn what to do and what not to do.

 

By firsthand experience, I know some of the things I shouldn't do. What happened to myself and my family, I can learn from. As far as kissing goes I would still appreciate any and all tips I can get.

 

Sorry about what happened, but don't let them run your life or ruin your life either.

 

A very wise person once told me: "A hotter fire makes a stronger steel". I won't let it ruin my life, I'll just leave stronger than before. Moving on......

 

Do you all have a date planned? Something like cuddling up together on the sofa is the perfect set-up for a good kiss.

 

This particular girl I met while camping, (imagine that). I was thinking of planning a camping trip some weekend at a quiet lake about a 15 minute drive from both of our homes. (She lives in another town, but it is only about a ten minute bicycle ride to and from) There is a nice park next to the lake, and the place is nearly empty most of the year.